big led Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 I have a very awsome woman that I have started to see. I am a very inexperienced 25 year old who has not had a woman prior to my woman I have now. We started to see each other and it was awsome. We were very intense in the very beginning but now she wants to drop the title of boy/girlfriend to ease stress off of the relationship. I said ok and I think im ok but not sure about it. If we dont have to title what do we have???
RollOverRollOver Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 That's usually a way to be able to see other people without guilt. I bet if she was the one who wanted be serious, and you said "it's just a title, let's just stay as we are and see how things go" she would be insulted. There is a reason she wants to separate things a bit. It seems fishy to me.
faux Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 If you don't have a title, you need to ask her what you two have together. If you are dating one another exclusively (seeing no one else), then to me you are still boyfriend and girlfriend. This is something you should take up with her. This might be a bad sign; in my experience it usually is. Make sure of what is going on by asking her.
WithOrWithoutYou Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 I think the key to whether this is a serious problem is what the lack of a title means to her. If you are not her BF, does that mean to her that she is free to date other people? Do you have an exclusive (i.e. you have both agreed to not see other people) relationship with her now? If so, is that something she wants to change? These are questions you need to ask your GF if you care, and I think you do. If you have an exclusive relationship now, and she does answer that she "wants to see other people", I hate to break it to you, but that is her way of telling you she wants to end the relationship (at least as you know it). There usually isn't a relationship-neutral reason for someone actually wanting to have a conversation about dropping the title of BF or GF. Either she just thinks that the two of you have been moving too fast (although "unboyfriending someone is usually a bit more serious than just slowing down), or she is contemplating some sort of change in your relationship (and the probable direction she is going is "less close). Sorry to be the bearer of what is probably bad news, but don't get too down about it even if the news does turn out to be bad. If she doesn't want to be with you as much as you want to be with her, find someone who does.
Merin Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Well.. honestly I wouldn't think this was a good thing if my BF said to me "Merin, lets NOT call each other GF and BF any longer it's too much pressure" As Faux suggested.. I would sit her down and ask her whats on her mind here..
MadDog Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by big led I have a very awsome woman that I have started to see. I am a very inexperienced 25 year old who has not had a woman prior to my woman I have now. We started to see each other and it was awsome. We were very intense in the very beginning but now she wants to drop the title of boy/girlfriend to ease stress off of the relationship. I said ok and I think im ok but not sure about it. If we dont have to title what do we have??? She's probably lost interest in you. While she decides what she wants to do, find a girl who's hotter than her and appreciates your company and get with her. It'll keep you from giving your "girlfriend" complete control of the situation like she's trying to take.
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