kismetkismet Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I know everyone is different, but i'm curious about how everyone's breakups played out.. how long it took you to get over them, how long you were together etc... I was with my most recent ex for 1.5 years, and I was the one to break up with him, but it was because he wasn't making the relationship a priority... for the first month i felt clinically depressed and cried every day and couldn't enjoy anything I did... I tried to fill my time with plans with friends and working out. Drank a lot, didn't sleep or eat much. After 5 weeks we met up so i could get my things, he confessed that he was an absolute mess and still loved me etc.. we ended up sleeping together but decided not to get back together. For a couple of weeks after that I felt better and we would talk on and off.. I still cried a lot, but I found I was able to enjoy things i normally enjoy more again.. Then i realized talking to him was preventing me from moving on so I cut communication off last week. It's been really hard again since then. I don't feel as depressed all the time, but i still think about him all the time and cry a lot. It's been 7 weeks now since we broke up. And i really hope the recovery process speeds up
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Best measure that made sense to me is 1/2 the length of the relationship. It will vary in individual circumstances. Many times, but not always, if I was the one to end it, because I concluded the relationship was going no where, it was a quick recovery. When I got dumped or I wished we could stay together even when logic told me there was no hope it was a lot tougher. Don't measure your progress on a calendar. That will only lead to more frustration.
JunzQ Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I feel your pain me and my ex broke up 2 monthes ago. Chased her around like a mad man she showed no interested in ever seeing me again I said something mean things to her drove her back to her ex boyfriend or maybe I was just the rebound who knows and who cares. I've been no contact with her for 35 days. People usually say it takes about half the time of the relationship to get over some so if you've dated your ex for 18 monthes it should take 9 monthes to get over him. It's not always accurate though me and my ex dated for only 4 monthes so I should be over her by now right? Wrong I thought about her more today than I have in the last 1 month. No idea what triggered it probably just loneliness.
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