His ex-girlfriend accidentally liked a post of mine - ?

[loveflower]

Maybe she wouldn't be creeping on your internet stuff if he'd shown an ounce of integrity and respect towards her when they broke up and he did it for the RIGHT reasons.

 

um...very good point. Something to ponder...

[lana-banana]

This statement above is exactly why Craw said what he/she said.

 

YOU were one of the reasons for the breakup which means you were involved with this guy in one way or another while he was still with her. Apparently, he wanted to be sure to have someone else waiting in the wings before he dumped her.

 

Maybe she wouldn't be creeping on your internet stuff if he'd shown an ounce of integrity and respect towards her when they broke up and he did it for the RIGHT reasons.

 

You've seen his true colors now, so you can't be surprised when one day Prince Charming finds himself another 'catalyst' right before he breaks up with you. And then it will be you creeping on the new girlfriend's Instagram and whatever other online nonsense accounts she's got, and accidentally 'liking' her stuff.

 

Wait, so breaking up with someone because you don't want to be with them anymore isn't a good reason? They were rocky long before I met him---they had gone through several mini-breakups, in fact. No, we were not "involved" at all; we were colleagues, and had fallen for each other, but were professional in all our interactions until we confessed our feelings. How is that a lack of integrity? I have no problem admitting I was a catalyst for their breakup but I certainly wasn't the cause. No one ever ended a happy, satisfying relationship just because someone else came along.

 

Furthermore, if he ever leaves me for someone else, so what? That is is a perfectly solid reason to end a relationship. People have done that to me and it hasn't hurt more than any other breakup. Finding someone you love most is what dating is for.

 

Sorry, but unless people are willing to stay on topic, I'm going to ask the moderators to intervene.

Edited September 20, 2015 by lana-banana

[acrosstheuniverse]

Wait, so breaking up with someone because you don't want to be with them anymore isn't a good reason? They were rocky long before I met him---they had gone through several mini-breakups, in fact. No, we were not "involved" at all; we were colleagues, and had fallen for each other, but were professional in all our interactions until we confessed our feelings. How is that a lack of integrity? I have no problem admitting I was a catalyst for their breakup but I certainly wasn't the cause. No one ever ended a happy, satisfying relationship just because someone else came along.

 

Furthermore, if he ever leaves me for someone else, so what? That is is a perfectly solid reason to end a relationship. People have done that to me and it hasn't hurt more than any other breakup. Finding someone you love most is what dating is for.

 

Sorry, but unless people are willing to stay on topic, I'm going to ask the moderators to intervene.

 

I'm with you on this. Cheating is wrong. Affairs are wrong. But somebody falling for someone else and then ending their current relationship in order to openly and honestly be with the new person? That's life, that happens all the time, and that IS showing integrity. That's how lots of relationships end. Nobody is bound to someone else if they're not happy and think they'll be happier elsewhere, unless there are innocent parties such as kids to think about, and then it's less straightforward. Honestly don't understand the vitriol towards you on this thread.