h9dlb Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I met this woman online, we chatted a lot and arranged a date for Thursday. We got on really well and on paper perfect for each other - both 44, live close by, both professionals, good incomes, both single for the same amount of time. I gave her my number and she was blowing up my phone. Anyway the first date came and we got on really well, went out and had a few drinks and she invited me back to hers (I was quite surprised by this). I was the perfect gentleman and we chatted until 4am. I gave her a goodnight kiss and left. This woman is incredibly beautiful - in my eyes she ticked all my boxes and is potential marriage material. I had no plans for the rest of the weekend. Saturday night at 8pm she said she really wanted to see me and asked me to meet her for a drink. I hastily got ready, we went out and had a good time until 1am. She was dropping hints all night that she wanted sex, talked about the future and what she likes to do socially. She came back to mine and we had amazing sex for hours. Sunday night she invited herself round to mine again but she was feeling a bit rough from the night before. We just hung out and watched a film and she went home as she said she felt she needed a good sleep in her own bed. Today I have barely heard from her. I was out with friends and sent her a message to say I can't wait to see her again but this evening she sent me a text saying what a great guy I am and how much she enjoyed the weekend with me but although she thought she was ready for a relationship she isn't and I deserve better than her. I'm not so stupid that I don't realise she was letting me down gently but in my mind this really is "The One". Maybe she just wanted one off sex and was using me, but this is one amazing woman and we are perfect for each other. I'd like to rescue the situation. What do I do?
Syberia Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Move on. If she just wanted sex, there's nothing you can do.
ashy555 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 It seems like she thought about it more and realised she wasn't ready.. I wouldn't try chasing her. She has already told you she is not ready. Pushing it will only push her further away. Just leave it. At least she has told you early and didn't string you along for ages. Maybe she did just want sex?! Who knows but definitely don't push her as that is a HUGE turn off and you will have lost ANY chance. Hope you meet someone lovely and deserving soon.
Redhead14 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 I met this woman online, we chatted a lot and arranged a date for Thursday. We got on really well and on paper perfect for each other - both 44, live close by, both professionals, good incomes, both single for the same amount of time. I gave her my number and she was blowing up my phone. Anyway the first date came and we got on really well, went out and had a few drinks and she invited me back to hers (I was quite surprised by this). I was the perfect gentleman and we chatted until 4am. I gave her a goodnight kiss and left. This woman is incredibly beautiful - in my eyes she ticked all my boxes and is potential marriage material. I had no plans for the rest of the weekend. Saturday night at 8pm she said she really wanted to see me and asked me to meet her for a drink. I hastily got ready, we went out and had a good time until 1am. She was dropping hints all night that she wanted sex, talked about the future and what she likes to do socially. She came back to mine and we had amazing sex for hours. Sunday night she invited herself round to mine again but she was feeling a bit rough from the night before. We just hung out and watched a film and she went home as she said she felt she needed a good sleep in her own bed. Today I have barely heard from her. I was out with friends and sent her a message to say I can't wait to see her again but this evening she sent me a text saying what a great guy I am and how much she enjoyed the weekend with me but although she thought she was ready for a relationship she isn't and I deserve better than her. I'm not so stupid that I don't realise she was letting me down gently but in my mind this really is "The One". Maybe she just wanted one off sex and was using me, but this is one amazing woman and we are perfect for each other. I'd like to rescue the situation. What do I do? She texted you to give you a send off? Really, she's not "the one". She should have called you. That's disrespectful. If you had not been intimate with her, I might say OK, but once that bridge is crossed, a little more respect is due.
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