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How do you feel about dating someone who waits and expects God to fight their battles for them? To put it more specifically they won't ask you out on a date because they are waiting on The Lord to ask you out for them? It is to be expected that such people aren't compatible with atheists because their out look on life is completely different. But how many Christian women would be turned off by such passivity?

 

I made a decision awhile back that I will not ask a woman out on a date and that I am relying on God and supernatural forces to mate me up with a woman. I don't know how it is going to happen but I wait on The Lord. Spirituality is an important part of who I am and what I'm about as it does influence my outlook on life and how I see this world that we live in. It obviously is not compatible view with how many others view this life.

 

I want to see God's glory put on display and I don't want to hinder that by opening up doors of my own and asking women out.

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How do you feel about dating someone who waits and expects God to fight their battles for them? To put it more specifically they won't ask you out on a date because they are waiting on The Lord to ask you out for them? It is to be expected that such people aren't compatible with atheists because their out look on life is completely different. But how many Christian women would be turned off by such passivity?

 

I made a decision awhile back that I will not ask a woman out on a date and that I am relying on God and supernatural forces to mate me up with a woman. I don't know how it is going to happen but I wait on The Lord. Spirituality is an important part of who I am and what I'm about as it does influence my outlook on life and how I see this world that we live in. It obviously is not compatible view with how many others view this life.

 

I want to see God's glory put on display and I don't want to hinder that by opening up doors of my own and asking women out.

 

 

That would be an INSTANT dump. Not even a moment of hesitation.

 

Religious or not, people need to have a tiny shred of self reliance and accountability.

 

God (not that i believe in that), shouldn't be an excuse not to think or decide things on your own.

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That would be an INSTANT dump. Not even a moment of hesitation.

 

Religious or not, people need to have a tiny shred of self reliance and accountability.

 

God (not that i believe in that), shouldn't be an excuse not to think or decide things on your own.

 

 

Being accountable has nothing to do with a decision to not ask someone out. That's not relevant here because these kind of decisions are not moral issues. It isn't a moral or immoral act to not ask a woman out. So accountability is not even an issue here. I could see your point if someone was blaming God for their decision to rob a bank or hurt someone in some way.

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I'm afraid it would be an instant elimination for me as well. People who don't take responsibility for their own actions and wait for wherever the wave of life pushes them, won't go very far. If an all-powerful entity wanted to control us down to the minute detail, why would he give us brains?

 

No one has more control over a person than themselves.

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I am not religious so.it.would be an instant no for me. But there is one thing you are forgetting: faith without works is dead. If you are not doing your part your god will not help you. Do you expect to.be sitting in your basement playing xbox when, lo and behold, a knock at the door!! And in walks your dream girl on the arm of tje lord! Gimme a break kid.

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You are taking things out of context. Faith without works has to do helping someone in need. In other words if I see someone needs help with getting their car started or they are out of food and I just say God bless and pray you get help but do nothing to help that person myself on a practical level such as offering them a jump or giving them some food then that's faith without works. The context is about helping people in need. Asking women out is not an issue of helping my neighbor in a practical way.

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I made a decision awhile back that I will not ask a woman out on a date and that I am relying on God and supernatural forces to mate me up with a woman. I don't know how it is going to happen but I wait on The Lord.

 

a priest once told me -- sweetheart, God already helped you by giving you a mind & a common sense, use it. God helps those who help THEMSELVES, as simple as that.

 

God gave you free will, didn't he? he won't make a choice FOR you, you gotta be the one who will put in the work. can't expect supernatural to live your life instead of you.

 

sitting around, not dating and waiting on God to send me someone -- that's like me not studying, sitting around and expecting God to guide me hand so i can get an A on the test.

 

it's... silly.

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a priest once told me -- sweetheart, God already helped you by giving you a mind & a common sense, use it. God helps those who help THEMSELVES, as simple as that.

 

God gave you free will, didn't he? he won't make a choice FOR you, you gotta be the one who will put in the work. can't expect supernatural to live your life instead of you.

 

sitting around, not dating and waiting on God to send me someone -- that's like me not studying, sitting around and expecting God to guide me hand so i can get an A on the test.

 

it's... silly.

 

 

Apples and oranges comparison. One is a moral decision and the other one is not. Not studying for a test is a sin of slothfulness.

 

Adam didn't have a choice in having Eve as a wife. God did it for him.

 

You don't believe in free will then because what you are telling me is that God forces free will upon us and therefore we have no choice but to make our own choices. Forced free will is a contradiction of free will. What is the point in having free will if we don't have the option of giving up free will? That's like forcing freedom on a slave.

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Apples and oranges comparison. One is a moral decision and the other one is not.

 

not dating, asking & courting a woman is most definitely not a moral decision.

 

Not studying for a test is a sin of slothfulness.

 

so is not living your life fully & not creating opportunities.

 

Adam didn't have a choice in having Eve as a wife. God did it for him.

 

he did.......... literally out of his rib.

Adam & Eve story isn't real. it's a metaphor, Bible shouldn't be taken literally (also told to me by an experienced priest).

 

folks don't understand the religion & holy books.

 

You don't believe in free will then because what you are telling me is that God forces free will upon us and therefore we have no choice but to make our own choices. Forced free will is a contradiction of free will.

 

oh, you do have a choice. God, according to the believers, gave you free will. you can choose to do nothing and you can... well, choose to take action.

 

but when you CHOOSE to do nothing, you gotta accept the consequences. not dating or courting a woman will most likely leave you single until someone eventually asks and courts YOU. can't blame God for "not sending you anyone" if you really do end up single for a long time.

 

dating is WORK. meeting new people is WORK. asking someone out and courting them is WORK. it's not attractive when people think that stuff should be given to them and they won't do any work.

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Dude,

 

I can't imagine the torture you are going through...

 

You have ten reasons why you won't ask this woman out - which range from fears she does not feel the same way, to now your latest which is you are waiting for divine intervention.

 

I can't say if this will be a turn off for her...I can just say that communication is important. If I see a guy who appears to be attracted and/or interested, but everytimeI try to speak to him he runs away, how do I know if he is playing games, is shy, and/or has stuff going on that is prohbiting him from asking me out? So yeah, I'd probably get sad and frustrated.

 

Also, sorry to see that not asking her out is also so much torture...which we all don't get.either ask her out or forget about her.

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You are taking things out of context. Faith without works has to do helping someone in need. In other words if I see someone needs help with getting their car started or they are out of food and I just say God bless and pray you get help but do nothing to help that person myself on a practical level such as offering them a jump or giving them some food then that's faith without works. The context is about helping people in need. Asking women out is not an issue of helping my neighbor in a practical way.

 

No i wasnt taking it out of context, if you expect your god to help you and then dont do your part, you can count on not getting what you want. You must do the work. god wont do.it for you. This just seems like your excuse to not do the required work.

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