smackie9 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Your biggest mistake was buying her stuff. I know wealthy men do this...they purchase whatever the GF wants, even give them a credit card....it's not how you date someone. If you want a real relationship you treat them as they treat you....as equals. She has a career she buy her own car, or her own shoes. You want to buy her something buy her some flowers. When you treat women like they are kept, you are going to be taken advantage of.....you get what you get.
stillafool Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 IShe is quite pushy. The thing that makes her very successful at a very young age in business is her willingness to ask for what she wants even when it seems crazy or innapropriate. The only man who will be able to hold her interest will be a guy she can't push around and who is as bold as she is with his wants. I think you and I can both agree that a 37 year old woman who actually loves you is worth WAY more than a 27 year old woman that just wants your money. What's wrong with a 40 and up year old woman for this guy?
UntitledNotepad Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Break up with the bitch! She either isnt attracted to you, only your money, so she avoids you and chases your money, or she is playing hard to get (to get to your money). If you have to post in an online forum about your relationship, and you have enough money to get any woman you want, dump her and find someone appreciative who will reciprocate your affection!
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Break up with the bitch! She either isnt attracted to you, only your money, so she avoids you and chases your money, or she is playing hard to get (to get to your money). If you have to post in an online forum about your relationship, and you have enough money to get any woman you want, dump her and find someone appreciative who will reciprocate your affection! I don't see how she's a bitch lol. The op is the one giving his money away. 1
Diezel Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 She's using you, but it's because you set that precedent for her. You both have your fair share of blame. Stop buying her stuff and stop insisting on seeing her. Say NO to her. Then see what happens. 1
lollipopspot Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 OP, I have to curb my generosity in newer relationships too, as pathetic as that sounds. When I like someone, I love to give them things, so I understand where you're coming from. But it actually doesn't work that well before you're in a committed relationship - usually the person receiving starts taking you and your gifts for granted. Unless you want to buy affection, it's usually best to hold back on the gift giving and find out how compatible you are without that complicating factor. It doesn't mean you can't do sweet things or take her out, but a car is way too lavish - there must be something more meaningful to do with your money, like give it to a charity that will really appreciate it. Of course, I'm a female, so there may be a gender difference in how gifts are received.
Phoe Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Stop spending money on her. Period. You'll find your answer.
veggirl Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Wait, so she ASKS you to buy her things? You said she asks for what she wants...? If so...HELLO????
loveweary11 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Pretend you had a financial problem and sell the Mercedes as well as cut back on everything. If she sticks, you have a winner.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Pretend you had a financial problem and sell the Mercedes as well as cut back on everything. If she sticks, you have a winner. I disagree. It's douchey to ask back for a gift you gave someone.
preraph Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 You bought her. I'm guessing this was all fine with her as long as you didn't push for sex, but now you are. I mean, this is your own fault for trying to buy her. You're too old for her.
loveweary11 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I disagree. It's douchey to ask back for a gift you gave someone. Not in a financial crisis,
katiegrl Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 She's using you, but it's because you set that precedent for her. You both have your fair share of blame. Stop buying her stuff and stop insisting on seeing her. Say NO to her. Then see what happens. ^^This. My sentiments exactly....
UntitledNotepad Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 barode, haha yeah when you put it that way. i just meant it as a derogatory term for someone who likes to get their own way, i.e. getting a nice car
h0000 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 She is quite pushy. The thing that makes her very successful at a very young age in business is her willingness to ask for what she wants even when it seems crazy or innapropriate. Are you telling us she asked for all the gifts and Mercedes Isn't she selfish !If she wants money she gives sex. That's how it works in the industry ! I would rather get an escort. They ask for less and gives way more.
guild11 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Well, try to stop being a gold mine and see if she tries to dig
Methodical Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 You are renting/leasing her. So long as you pay up, she'll stick around and put out a couple times per month. As soon as you cut financial compensation in the form of gifts and so forth, she'll be gone. You invested way too much way too soon.
stillafool Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 You bought her. I'm guessing this was all fine with her as long as you didn't push for sex, but now you are. I mean, this is your own fault for trying to buy her. You're too old for her. Unfortunately, this. It doesn't matter how good you look for your age someone 18 years younger is going to see you as old. Some guys get sugar babies but most of those women are gold diggers or have father issues. It works in some cases but it's rare.
Ambivalence Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Women don't respond to looks or money. She's probably not that into you, and you're being subtly whipped.
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