laluna Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 I broke up with my ex months ago. We talk at work about once a week for no more than 20 min. It has taken me much too long, but i think that I have been doing well at getting over him. Yesterday he came over to talk to me and we talked for a bit. I mentioned that I wanted to go to the desert and that I had to find a friend to go with me. When we were dating going to the desert was one of those things that I wanted to do, but we never got to. He invited himself to go to the desert with me next month. He even gave me some possible dates, meaning I think that he is serious. I am certain that he is over me and that he only mentions it beacause he is thinking that I am now his friend. I'm hoping that he will be his normal forgetful self and not remember. However, I am still not sure that I even want to talk to him at work. How do I tell him to go away without looking like an idiot who can't get over him? any advice
Marshbear Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 You can never speak to him again. If he says something just don't answer. If he confronts you walk away. After a time he will realize that your relationship/friendship is over and you do not want him in your life. I had a girl do this to me and it is very effective....
Merin Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 I could be wrong here.. but I'm wondering why you were even talking to him about going to the desert and how you didn't have anyone to go with you IF you weren't *baiting* him to see if he would offer to come This was something the 2 of you had talked about when you were still together right.. and now that you're broke up you just happend to mention to him how you planned to go BUT didn't have someone to go with.. now for real, what did you think was going to cross his mind here? IMO If you really weren't interested in him any longer and didn't want to have him in your life still.. you wouldn't have mentioned this even in passing as something you still wanted to do IF only you had someone to do it with... At this point if you really don't want his friendship or are hoping the 2 of you will get back together.. then ya know tell him "Thanks for offering to come with me, BUT I found someone else to go with" Merin thinks.. you won't tell him this.. because I think (and I could be wrong and I'm sure I'll hear about it if I am) that somewhere you really haven't gotten over him and right now, you fear he has gotten over you... Good Luck Girl
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