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I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response?

 

Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing?

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Tinder is flakey. Most people don't want to meet, or are just trying it out.

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Girls tend to wait for the guy to make contact first.

 

I keep it simple and just "hey, thanks for the like"? how's your day going?

 

Seems to work

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Just say something like Hey How are you? You been up to much? :) xx that worked for me & still seeing someone of tinder

 

then see if she replies & go from there. not every one will reply to you but just keep at it

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I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response?

 

Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing?

 

It's a numbers game. Most won't answer. You keep sending messages to the ones who interest you. Send them something with a tiny bit of detail and compliment something in the profile or about their pictures. But not over the top.

 

I used to get stupid messages with no content whatsoever. Just the canned tag line that automatically stamps on the messages.

 

When they do answer, you say something like "I'd like to chat here again a couple of times but then move to phone call or text" if that's ok and give number then or wait for them to say they are OK with it. That thing about someone wanting to move off the site too quickly is bull****. Pardon my french. After one message, yeah, it's a little pushy maybe, but not after a couple. I need to hear the persons voice, tone, inflection, etc. before I decide if I'll meet them in person. If I gave them my number and they abused it, I'd block their number. I only had one guy do that out of about 10 I ended up exchanging numbers with. You take the same risk with giving your number to a guy you've met out "there" anyway.

 

And, when I do meet them in person, it's for an hour tops. A drink or two or coffee. If they don't match their picture or if they've misrepresented themselves in any way, I tell them that and I'm out.

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Tinder does lead to phone conversation and meet up. Do you reckon if Chris Hemsworth sends out a message can he get a number? Haha

5 matches is simply not enough. Keep trying

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"You're hot. Wanna bang?"

 

When she gets offended, tell her you're not like that, but you think she's pretty and it was a great way to break the ice, doesn't she agree :D

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I found the secret to Tinder was to have a bucket of ice handy for your wrist.

 

After every 500-1000 left swipes, you get pretty sore and need to ice the wrist down.

 

An easy fix for the soreness is to delete the app, which is what I did.

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I stopped using tinder after it went to a pay model.

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I stopped using tinder after it went to a pay model.

 

Tinder is free. You only pay for features you don't need.

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Tinder is free. You only pay for features you don't need.

 

You can only "Like" a limited number of people every 12 hours, in big cities (where I live) its easy to hit that cap.

 

Also it basically punishes average guys, since we don't get as many likes received - we need to compensate by throwing out a bigger net. Whereas average women will get liked by pretty much ANY guy since Tinder is generally regarded as a hookup app and most guys just want to get laid and will settle for mostly anything.

 

#AverageMaleTinderProblems

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I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response?

 

Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing?

 

Let's put it this way, if they are interested, they will reply to whatever you say. Some will want to get to know you while others want you to ask them out or they quickly give up.

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Well I continue to do well on POF, Craigslist and OKC but not one phone number from Tinder

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I've been guilty of just messing around on tinder, so I'm sure a LOT of women do the same.

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got my first phone number on tinder in 2 months LOL

 

damm, did not think it would take that long.

 

 

 

The only adjustment I made was using ONE photo

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You can only "Like" a limited number of people every 12 hours, in big cities (where I live) its easy to hit that cap.

 

Also it basically punishes average guys, since we don't get as many likes received - we need to compensate by throwing out a bigger net. Whereas average women will get liked by pretty much ANY guy since Tinder is generally regarded as a hookup app and most guys just want to get laid and will settle for mostly anything.

 

#AverageMaleTinderProblems

 

I actually agree with the Like limit. Maybe I'm the only one using it like this, but I only Like people I actually like - which is a small enough percentage of the users. I have never hit the Like limit, and doubt I will before I get bored swiping.

 

What irks me is girls who "Like" you and then you message them and they never reply. Why swipe right if you are not interested?

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I've gotten matches too, but most of them don't even respond :confused:

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I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response?

 

Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing?

 

Are you asking for phone numbers? Most of the women in my area seem to prefer meeting first, and then exchanging numbers if it goes well. I've found that asking for the number on Tinder doesn't work for me.

 

I don't use Tinder currently, but when I did, I would do a little back and forth for a day or two (the app is a little slow, so messages can take a while). As for what to say, think of it like flirting on AIM when you were a teenager. Make it fun, don't be too serious, and flirt. Once you've established a little rapport, suggest to meet for a drink.

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Are you asking for phone numbers? Most of the women in my area seem to prefer meeting first, and then exchanging numbers if it goes well. I've found that asking for the number on Tinder doesn't work for me.

 

I don't use Tinder currently, but when I did, I would do a little back and forth for a day or two (the app is a little slow, so messages can take a while). As for what to say, think of it like flirting on AIM when you were a teenager. Make it fun, don't be too serious, and flirt. Once you've established a little rapport, suggest to meet for a drink.

 

I would never ever meet someone that I didn't know, without having a few phone conversations first. I think that is important. You get to know someone a lot better verbally rather then txt talking back and forth on tinder You don't have to give out your number. Set up a new Skype account or FB call.

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You need to make yourself stand out. A catchy line or something, "cute" that will peak their interest.

 

 

But most importantly, get their number first and text instead of using the app, then work your way to a phone conversation...

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I would never ever meet someone that I didn't know, without having a few phone conversations first. I think that is important. You get to know someone a lot better verbally rather then txt talking back and forth on tinder You don't have to give out your number. Set up a new Skype account or FB call.

 

Very interesting. What part of the country are you from? I ask because I wonder if this is a geographical difference. Here in the northeast, NONE of the women I've met from Tinder wanted a phone conversation with me first. The ones who did give me their number, we simply texted.

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