smg15 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response? Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Tinder is flakey. Most people don't want to meet, or are just trying it out. 3
somecamel Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Girls tend to wait for the guy to make contact first. I keep it simple and just "hey, thanks for the like" how's your day going? Seems to work 1
GTR King Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Just say something like Hey How are you? You been up to much? xx that worked for me & still seeing someone of tinder then see if she replies & go from there. not every one will reply to you but just keep at it
Redhead14 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response? Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing? It's a numbers game. Most won't answer. You keep sending messages to the ones who interest you. Send them something with a tiny bit of detail and compliment something in the profile or about their pictures. But not over the top. I used to get stupid messages with no content whatsoever. Just the canned tag line that automatically stamps on the messages. When they do answer, you say something like "I'd like to chat here again a couple of times but then move to phone call or text" if that's ok and give number then or wait for them to say they are OK with it. That thing about someone wanting to move off the site too quickly is bull****. Pardon my french. After one message, yeah, it's a little pushy maybe, but not after a couple. I need to hear the persons voice, tone, inflection, etc. before I decide if I'll meet them in person. If I gave them my number and they abused it, I'd block their number. I only had one guy do that out of about 10 I ended up exchanging numbers with. You take the same risk with giving your number to a guy you've met out "there" anyway. And, when I do meet them in person, it's for an hour tops. A drink or two or coffee. If they don't match their picture or if they've misrepresented themselves in any way, I tell them that and I'm out.
h0000 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Tinder does lead to phone conversation and meet up. Do you reckon if Chris Hemsworth sends out a message can he get a number? Haha 5 matches is simply not enough. Keep trying
Syberia Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 "You're hot. Wanna bang?" When she gets offended, tell her you're not like that, but you think she's pretty and it was a great way to break the ice, doesn't she agree
loveweary11 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I found the secret to Tinder was to have a bucket of ice handy for your wrist. After every 500-1000 left swipes, you get pretty sore and need to ice the wrist down. An easy fix for the soreness is to delete the app, which is what I did. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 I stopped using tinder after it went to a pay model.
compulsivedancer Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 I stopped using tinder after it went to a pay model. Tinder is free. You only pay for features you don't need.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 Tinder is free. You only pay for features you don't need. You can only "Like" a limited number of people every 12 hours, in big cities (where I live) its easy to hit that cap. Also it basically punishes average guys, since we don't get as many likes received - we need to compensate by throwing out a bigger net. Whereas average women will get liked by pretty much ANY guy since Tinder is generally regarded as a hookup app and most guys just want to get laid and will settle for mostly anything. #AverageMaleTinderProblems
turt Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response? Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing? Let's put it this way, if they are interested, they will reply to whatever you say. Some will want to get to know you while others want you to ask them out or they quickly give up.
Author smg15 Posted May 5, 2015 Author Posted May 5, 2015 Well I continue to do well on POF, Craigslist and OKC but not one phone number from Tinder
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 I've been guilty of just messing around on tinder, so I'm sure a LOT of women do the same.
Author smg15 Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 got my first phone number on tinder in 2 months LOL damm, did not think it would take that long. The only adjustment I made was using ONE photo
joseb Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 You can only "Like" a limited number of people every 12 hours, in big cities (where I live) its easy to hit that cap. Also it basically punishes average guys, since we don't get as many likes received - we need to compensate by throwing out a bigger net. Whereas average women will get liked by pretty much ANY guy since Tinder is generally regarded as a hookup app and most guys just want to get laid and will settle for mostly anything. #AverageMaleTinderProblems I actually agree with the Like limit. Maybe I'm the only one using it like this, but I only Like people I actually like - which is a small enough percentage of the users. I have never hit the Like limit, and doubt I will before I get bored swiping. What irks me is girls who "Like" you and then you message them and they never reply. Why swipe right if you are not interested?
40 Fonzarelli Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 I've gotten matches too, but most of them don't even respond
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 (edited) Nevermind........... Edited June 16, 2015 by barcode88 posting on other thread
TheBathWater Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 I have had 5 matches and not one of them led to a phone conversation. What is it I am supposed to do once I get a match? What am I supposed to say? I send her a message and I never get a response? Does not Tinder not lead to the phone? What am I not doing? Are you asking for phone numbers? Most of the women in my area seem to prefer meeting first, and then exchanging numbers if it goes well. I've found that asking for the number on Tinder doesn't work for me. I don't use Tinder currently, but when I did, I would do a little back and forth for a day or two (the app is a little slow, so messages can take a while). As for what to say, think of it like flirting on AIM when you were a teenager. Make it fun, don't be too serious, and flirt. Once you've established a little rapport, suggest to meet for a drink.
Emmie83 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Are you asking for phone numbers? Most of the women in my area seem to prefer meeting first, and then exchanging numbers if it goes well. I've found that asking for the number on Tinder doesn't work for me. I don't use Tinder currently, but when I did, I would do a little back and forth for a day or two (the app is a little slow, so messages can take a while). As for what to say, think of it like flirting on AIM when you were a teenager. Make it fun, don't be too serious, and flirt. Once you've established a little rapport, suggest to meet for a drink. I would never ever meet someone that I didn't know, without having a few phone conversations first. I think that is important. You get to know someone a lot better verbally rather then txt talking back and forth on tinder You don't have to give out your number. Set up a new Skype account or FB call.
SomeDude16 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 You need to make yourself stand out. A catchy line or something, "cute" that will peak their interest. But most importantly, get their number first and text instead of using the app, then work your way to a phone conversation...
TheBathWater Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I would never ever meet someone that I didn't know, without having a few phone conversations first. I think that is important. You get to know someone a lot better verbally rather then txt talking back and forth on tinder You don't have to give out your number. Set up a new Skype account or FB call. Very interesting. What part of the country are you from? I ask because I wonder if this is a geographical difference. Here in the northeast, NONE of the women I've met from Tinder wanted a phone conversation with me first. The ones who did give me their number, we simply texted.
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