ToOldForThis Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Prisoner in my own town. I live 3 blocks from my ex. and 3 blocks from our downtown area. In the past month, I have already seen her four times, 2 with the new BF and two alone walking her (our) dogs. We ended almost 3 months ago and have not had contact since except one phone conversation. This is my town; I have lived here 30 years. It is filled with all the restaurants & bars we ate at, all the art fairs for the summer, concerts in the park, ice cream, etc. I don’t want to see her again, but every time I go into town, I am paranoid I will run into her and seem to be always looking over my shoulder. I also feel like a loser if I am alone when she sees me, because she moved on so quickly and I am still dealing with this new loss and choosing to be alone. I could get in my car and drive 10 miles to the next town but I feel like I am giving up my right to enjoy all the places I have gone to even before we ever met. I know she doesn’t what to see me either but is too arrogant to alter her life and go elsewhere.
ravfour4 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 That's the worst. I sort of feel the same way, I've lived in my city for 7 years and brought my now ex here 3 years ago. Her new job has her out and about at all the bars downtown, I haven't run into her yet and her new "bf" doesn't drink so thankfully I'll likely never have to see them together, but everywhere I go I'm reminded of the good times we had - we explored this entire city together. I remember feeling the same way when my ex-ex and I broke up (although we did a lot less exploring around town), but that feeling faded away instantly when I met my now ex. I'm hoping for that to happen again sometime soon
Author ToOldForThis Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 My town is very small, 6-8 blocks total with a gathering park in the center, so I know this will keep happening. I am sure someday when I am over this, and in a new relationship I won't even think about it. I am sure she doesn't. It just seems that the pain of the dumpee never ends. 1
SLee Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I'm sorry your town is so small. Honestly that's awful. My ex and I live in the same city and once our lease is up he'll be living just a mile or so from me. We run in some of the same circles and go to the same university so I'm bound to see him at some point, which I'm not looking forward too. As much as it sucks, I'd give up the places you frequent just for the moment until you're in a better place. Go online and find things to do that aren't in your own town. I'd see it more as protecting yourself from more hurt until you're feeling better.
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