PinkZebra Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Was stupid to have trusted him but thats how i am. When he realized i was on to him 3 years together. We were engaged and planning a future but it crossed my mind too many times that something was wrong. Im usually very kick back with a guy but as time went on he brought out the worst in me. I became paranoid and neurotic over my crazy suspicions until last week it all came together and made sense. He had 37 profiles on dating sites, interacted with live web cam women too often, emailed women in other countries, hooked up here, had an extensive and twisted collection of porn, had apps to translate english to other languages to chat with women on porn sites, had about 45 phone sms apps hidden to chat with others, gps to womens locations,, and even more. He had a huge network of porn and cam women all over the world plus locally. He just moved in with me and when he realized i was onto him he broke up and left. How could i be so stupid? Im not naive. I just wanted the real thing and being the sociopath that he is he said all the right things and i fell for it all. Why do men do this? Im not the typical victom type so what did he get out of living a lie for 3 years? This is crazy. Ive never met a man like this. Anyone else live their entire relationship as a lie to find the truth in the end? Its sad and pathetic but it hurts really bad. Im sad.
Carm Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Was stupid to have trusted him but thats how i am. When he realized i was on to him 3 years together. We were engaged and planning a future but it crossed my mind too many times that something was wrong. Im usually very kick back with a guy but as time went on he brought out the worst in me. I became paranoid and neurotic over my crazy suspicions until last week it all came together and made sense. He had 37 profiles on dating sites, interacted with live web cam women too often, emailed women in other countries, hooked up here, had an extensive and twisted collection of porn, had apps to translate english to other languages to chat with women on porn sites, had about 45 phone sms apps hidden to chat with others, gps to womens locations,, and even more. He had a huge network of porn and cam women all over the world plus locally. He just moved in with me and when he realized i was onto him he broke up and left. How could i be so stupid? Im not naive. I just wanted the real thing and being the sociopath that he is he said all the right things and i fell for it all. Why do men do this? Im not the typical victom type so what did he get out of living a lie for 3 years? This is crazy. Ive never met a man like this. Anyone else live their entire relationship as a lie to find the truth in the end? Its sad and pathetic but it hurts really bad. Im sad. Sorry to hear that. Yup, similar situation (although not as bad) but everything was a lie, EVERYTHING. I never met a man who was such a pathological liar. We were together for 4 years, had asked my parents for their blessing to marry me. Thankfully, the truth came out before that all happened. It took me 3 years to fully get over what he did to me. I dodged a bullet and so did you. Although, it's tough for you now over time you will see this as a blessing and a life lesson for you. If your gut is off next time, trust it because it won't lie to you.
Fleur de cactus Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Sorry you are here . Yes those types people exist. They do not love. It is true , they dont love. They are afraid of commitment . That is the reason he left after finding out that you are serious about him. Be strong , move on. Dont look back. Dont even try to fix the relationship. He cannot change. Those types of people are toxic, it hurts but Be happy it is over before you end up in psychiatric clinic. Excuse my typos . I am using my phone.
Tone Loc Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I'm resisting the urge to share an unpopular opinion, having read your story. Tell us, how exactly did he bring out the worse in you? Did he treat you well? Did he love you? Did he take care of you, give you attention and time? Was he dedicated to taking care of you? Did he initiate the break up? And why exactly did you break up? I don't understand how you can say it's all been a lie, because from the information you've provided I fail to see any indication that he doesn't love you or want you. Okay, he's addicted to porn and you clearly take issue with that, that's well within your right. But have you ever stopped to ask him if he loves you and wants you? That's what matters here. If he doesn't love you and doesn't want you, then yes, it was all a lie and you deserve better than that. But if it's all just about this porn business and the dating profiles...granted, it's a big deal, but there are other more important things to consider here. This is all just my opinion, so take it very lightly.
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