kelkel8 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 (edited) Ok I came out of a 20 yr marriage, my ex h left me w/ a house that I had to give back to bank after 20 yrs bc I couldn't afford it, so after selling off all I had cz he just abandoned me, leaving me w/ nothing, I at 40 pulled myself out of hell form all that got an APT an new job an moved to another county. 7 months later I meet someone that knows a close friend ok cool we go about a few times hit off welll a lot a lot alike but i tell him even from the get go I dont want to date someone that has kids not almost if not grown, mine being 18 & 20 yrs old, well he got in my head i guess you say he been a huge help to me dealing w/ the ex n stuff over ex been marriage was bad for past last yrs an love was gone way b4, so ex leaving was great i later come to find out but cz alot of strained on my kids. I just meet his son he has him every other weekend , but heres my issue we been dating month in 1/2 he works 2nd shift i work days, its very hard for us to spend time together, be was married to for sometime to the mother she is not an issue there split fr a yr she moved on , anyways, i feel like i am at a point in my life i want to be w/ a person i can do things w/ more often, he knew this i told him off the bat! his son seemed last than interested in me but i am ok w/ that i just meet him for a few hrs hes 13 yrs old, seem pretty good an well behaved, but i just feel like i should break up. I raised my kids, i want ot be selfish an w/ a person that can be w/ me when it suits not wrapped around a minor, to boot my 18 yr old played sports for yrs an it took a huge strained on my past 1st an only marriage, bc it made so many things one sided from my ex an i know my now bf is not him yes i know however his son to is in sports an plays like 7 months outta the yr so he an i am thinking he wants me to get invoked as well goes i think every weekend or at best every ot weekend to the sporting things for his son there taking that time now dont get me wrong he should an its great he is a wonderful father! For his son not me i just spent so much of my life waitn on ppl to give back what i give to them out of honesty an love an i think i will short change myself if i try to keep this bf/gf thing going.............. he very attached to me but i think alot of his love for me is one cz e lonely an 2 hes always telling me how beautiful i am so i think alot os hung up on my looks. what to do? Edited May 4, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs and proper grammer, please use them
Gaeta Posted May 8, 2015 Posted May 8, 2015 I'm not sure what you want us to say. You don't want to date a man with younger children then don't. He can't make you be in a relationship with him, just move on and find someone better suited for you. I think you're looking for someone to agree with you in your decision? Yes it's ok and you are justified to want to date a man with more freedom. The decision is yours, not his.
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