rov Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 I met a very cute girl through Facebook because we had friends in common. One day I said hi to her and she asked me who I was and I told her my name etc, she gave me her whatsapp and she stopped responding saying that she broke up with her boyfriend a month ago and that she was not in the mood of meeting new people, I told her that I was ok with that and that there was no problem,so I deleted her number and deleted her from Facebook.Two days later she texted me again saying that she saw some of my videos in Facebook where I play the guitar and she said she liked them very much so I proceeded to arrange a date with her on Friday. She told me from the beginning that she is very religious and she studies theology and that she wanted to tell me this at the beginning because many people think she is rare because of his, I told her that for me that is not a problem because I respect people ideologies and that if she is happy studying theology it shouldn´t matter if what people think. I told her that I am a very sensible person (I play the guitar and the piano) and I can sense how people are after 2 minutes of meeting them. I told her that when I saw her Facebook pic I sensed how she was in person and I was right. She asked me what was my perception of her and I told her that she seemed like a good girl that is not a party girl, she seemed spiritual, sensible etc and she told me that I was 100 per cent right haha. She told my that I was surprised that I told her this because most people think she is arrogant without even knowing her and that I was the first person that told her the opposite. She told me that she decided to go out with me because I seemed like a good person and different to other guys she dated before. She broke up with her boyfriend a almost two months ago because he did not respected her religious beliefs, they became a couple after three weeks of dating, her boyfriend drank a lot. I am going to see her again on tuesday, we are going to the movies, she is 28 and Im 27, she doesn't like drinking and partying, she is like me in that way. Should I go for the kiss or holding hands with her the next date, I don't want to be friend zoned. Any ideas?
fitnessfan365 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 It's funny. When a woman says that a guy is different than who she usually goes out with, she's essentially saying that you're the exact opposite of what she's attracted to. It's like when a woman says that she's sick of dating players. What she's essentially telling you is that's the type of guy she goes for. Otherwise, how would she have the experience to be sick of them? The one thing I'd pay attention to, is that she only broke up with her BF a few months ago. So she could be spending time with you for emotional support and a pick me up. That combined with her saying you're "different" than the guys she dates, could be a bad sign. However, you never know. Maybe she's over her BF already and not on the rebound. All you can really do is take it date by date. But if you do feel like there is chemistry, I'd definitely say to go for a kiss. That will tell you instantly how she feels about you.
Satu Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Spend time with her and enjoy it if that's possible, but don't have any expectations about the future. Stay in the present. 3
sagetalk Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 1. I seemed like a good person and different to other guys she dated before. 2. I am going to see her again on tuesday, we are going to the movies, she is 28 and Im 27, she doesn't like drinking and partying, she is like me in that way. 3. Should I go for the kiss or holding hands with her the next date, I don't want to be friend zoned. Any ideas? 1. Look out! This is a very bad sign. It isn't game over, but it is definitely a warning. She likes the bad guys and religious girls are notorious for trying to date them and change their evil ways. My friends and I called it "missionary dating" when I was younger. 2. This is a good sign, that is an important thing to have in common. 3. You will most definitely need to make some kind of moves on the first date if she likes rascals. Do something less sexual but lets her know that you are interested. Light touches throughout the night may do it, but it really depends on her definition of "he likes me", "he's too nice", or "he just went too far". That is a the tight rope that every man must walk.
Author rov Posted May 3, 2015 Author Posted May 3, 2015 1. Look out! This is a very bad sign. It isn't game over, but it is definitely a warning. She likes the bad guys and religious girls are notorious for trying to date them and change their evil ways. My friends and I called it "missionary dating" when I was younger. 2. This is a good sign, that is an important thing to have in common. 3. You will most definitely need to make some kind of moves on the first date if she likes rascals. Do something less sexual but lets her know that you are interested. Light touches throughout the night may do it, but it really depends on her definition of "he likes me", "he's too nice", or "he just went too far". That is a the tight rope that every man must walk. Something like trying to hold her hand during the movie would be all right?, it is a not very sexual move but it indicates that I like her
smackie9 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 You need to go by her body language. If she leans into you, grabs your arm, likes to touch you, then she is ready to hold hands. Remember she just met you, she needs more time to get to know you to determine if she is interested in you romantically.
sagetalk Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Something like trying to hold her hand during the movie would be all right?, it is a not very sexual move but it indicates that I like her What is your value system? What are you comfortable with? Movie theaters are tough for trying this kind of thing. I would recommend inviting her to a place where it is natural for you two to be closer without a movie screen which will allow you to make a move easier. The movie on the screen is just a pointless and annoying distraction. Try this after the movie not during the movie. If she does not want to go there with you after the movie, she is not that interested in you.
Author rov Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 You need to go by her body language. If she leans into you, grabs your arm, likes to touch you, then she is ready to hold hands. Remember she just met you, she needs more time to get to know you to determine if she is interested in you romantically. But Im afraid that if I do to make a move on the second date I will be friend zoned
Author rov Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 What is your value system? What are you comfortable with? Movie theaters are tough for trying this kind of thing. I would recommend inviting her to a place where it is natural for you two to be closer without a movie screen which will allow you to make a move easier. The movie on the screen is just a pointless and annoying distraction. Try this after the movie not during the movie. If she does not want to go there with you after the movie, she is not that interested in you. Any suggestions for a place where I can be close to her without the movie screen?
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Any suggestions for a place where I can be close to her without the movie screen? What time is the movie over? Will there be sunlight left in the day? A park or picnic after the movie would be best. Just make sure it is somewhere that you can sit beside her and begin to flirt with her in whatever way you are comfortable with. If she backs away, it is a bad sign. If she smiles or doesn't reject it, well, you are welcome . Movie theaters are tough, so focus on what you are going to do after the movie.
Author rov Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 (edited) What time is the movie over? Will there be sunlight left in the day? A park or picnic after the movie would be best. Just make sure it is somewhere that you can sit beside her and begin to flirt with her in whatever way you are comfortable with. If she backs away, it is a bad sign. If she smiles or doesn't reject it, well, you are welcome . Movie theaters are tough, so focus on what you are going to do after the movie. Ill pick her up at 4pm because later in the night she has to go to her theology classes. I guess the movie will end at 7pm more or less Any tips on how to sent her the sign that I want to kiss her? or I just get close to her at the end of the date in my car and try to kiss her: I was thinking in telling her at the end of the date: Well, I don't think I can sleep today without kissing you. I s this a good idea or a bad one haha? Edited May 4, 2015 by rov
smackie9 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 (edited) But Im afraid that if I do to make a move on the second date I will be friend zoned Being physical with her without acknowledging her mood and body language that she's ready is going to be a fail. There is no guarantee holding her hand is going to make her like you. Relax and watch her moves. just watch for thing I mentioned. Edited May 4, 2015 by smackie9
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Ill pick her up at 4pm because later in the night she has to go to her theology classes. I guess the movie will end at 7pm more or less That is a tight window. You're going to need to setup another date before she leaves for class that night. Come up with a day and time and ask her out to a place where you can be closer to her (picnic/park). Making a move on this movie date is going to be very difficult, try to set yourself up for success on the next date. If she turns down the picnic date (and won't reschedule if she cannot go), then she wasn't interested in you anyway.
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 I just get close to her at the end of the date in my car and try to kiss her: I was thinking in telling her at the end of the date: Well, I don't think I can sleep today without kissing you. I s this a good idea or a bad one haha? The problem is the movie theater is a bad date, you've had no interaction all evening and now you want to kiss her? You need to build up attraction over the course of the date, then try to kiss her. You can't build it up watching a movie. You can on a date in a park or picnic. And do not announce you are about to kiss her, make her want it by flirting with her.
Author rov Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 That is a tight window. You're going to need to setup another date before she leaves for class that night. Come up with a day and time and ask her out to a place where you can be closer to her (picnic/park). Making a move on this movie date is going to be very difficult, try to set yourself up for success on the next date. If she turns down the picnic date (and won't reschedule if she cannot go), then she wasn't interested in you anyway. But for example, if I try to setup the third date before the second date ends will I look needy and clingy?
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 But for example, if I try to setup the third date before the second date ends will I look needy and clingy? No, it shows that you are looking for a better opportunity to make a move. Needy is contacting her all the time and being co-dependant. What you are trying to do is make a move in a place more suitable for such things.
Author rov Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 No, it shows that you are looking for a better opportunity to make a move. Needy is contacting her all the time and being co-dependant. What you are trying to do is make a move in a place more suitable for such things. yeah you are right!. So you suggest the park or picnic for the next date, what other ideas do you suggest?
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 yeah you are right!. So you suggest the park or picnic for the next date, what other ideas do you suggest? Any location with some privacy with nothing in between the both of you so you can get close to her (building to a kiss but not starting with a kiss). A picnic blanket is the perfect place, it is just you and her. You don't need anymore ideas right now, just do this one. If she is turned on by your flirting, then the rest is a piece of cake.
Author rov Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 (edited) Any location with some privacy with nothing in between the both of you so you can get close to her (building to a kiss but not starting with a kiss). A picnic blanket is the perfect place, it is just you and her. You don't need anymore ideas right now, just do this one. If she is turned on by your flirting, then the rest is a piece of cake. She sent me a text today that if we could see us today instead of tomorrow, she wants to go to the movies. So like you say Ill try up to set up the next day at the end of this date, I hope she doesn't think Im needy or desperate. Any ideas on how to create sexual tension during the movies? Edited May 4, 2015 by rov
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Any ideas on how to create sexual tension during the movies? Like I said, it's tough in a movie theater. Unless you are a Casanova, it's going to be tough to pull off. It is just an awkward place for a date. Take her there after the movie if you have time, if not, setup another date. If she doesn't want to go on a more intimate date than a movie, then you have just saved yourself a lot of time.
Author rov Posted May 5, 2015 Author Posted May 5, 2015 Like I said, it's tough in a movie theater. Unless you are a Casanova, it's going to be tough to pull off. It is just an awkward place for a date. Take her there after the movie if you have time, if not, setup another date. If she doesn't want to go on a more intimate date than a movie, then you have just saved yourself a lot of time. Well I held her hand at the movies and she seemed comfortable with that, she let me grab her hand and didn't took it out. At the end of the date I told her what was she going to do on the weekend and she told me that she had no plans so I invited her to the bowling alley on friday and she accepted. She gave me a short kiss in the lips at the end of the date. So I guess things are going well
sagetalk Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 Well I held her hand at the movies and she seemed comfortable with that, she let me grab her hand and didn't took it out. At the end of the date I told her what was she going to do on the weekend and she told me that she had no plans so I invited her to the bowling alley on friday and she accepted. She gave me a short kiss in the lips at the end of the date. So I guess things are going well LOL! Here you were worried about kissing her and she kissed you. I bet she liked you asking her out again a lot. A bowling alley is a much better idea than a movie, but this girl seems to be into you a good deal already. That is a good sign. Now don't get needy and clingy. Also, make sure her feelings are always deeper than your own. I'm glad you asked her out that same night, it took guts. You will get to reap the rewards of that decision. Remember to comfort her with hugs when she sends the ball into the gutter and cheer her own with more hugs if she does well. You can't lose either way!
Author rov Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 LOL! Here you were worried about kissing her and she kissed you. I bet she liked you asking her out again a lot. A bowling alley is a much better idea than a movie, but this girl seems to be into you a good deal already. That is a good sign. Now don't get needy and clingy. Also, make sure her feelings are always deeper than your own. I'm glad you asked her out that same night, it took guts. You will get to reap the rewards of that decision. Remember to comfort her with hugs when she sends the ball into the gutter and cheer her own with more hugs if she does well. You can't lose either way! Exactly, I can give her hugs and even kisses if she sends the ball in the right direction!. So I think things are going well I guess!!. Ill post more updates on friday
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