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The better looking person has the power in a relationship. There's a reason why people say ugly people are the best lovers

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The better looking person has the power in a relationship. There's a reason why people say ugly people are the best lovers

 

Yep, but looks change and so do people sometimes. However, if you're going by looks, there's an addage about finding dates in bars -- they may be 2's at 10 pm but by 2 am they become 10's :)

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If you're trying to figure out who has the power, or if someone clearly does, it's likely not the greatest relationship.

 

Does someone always have a little more power? Probably, but in a healthy relationship, it doesn't matter how it's tilted - neither one of you is thinking about it. When it gets to the point when you're thinking about the power imbalance, you either think you're too good for the other person and start looking elsewhere, or you live in constant terror that the more powerful person will drop you - neither is good.

 

So yes, there are natural power imbalances, but in a durable relationship, the difference doesn't matter, and the people don't think about it.

 

This forum is highly biased - as people come here when there are problems, not when things are amazing - when things are awful, there's frequently a known power imbalance, which is the cause of the problems they're seeking to resolve or complain about.

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