Ashleigh_Jane Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 I've never had an issue with friends growing up and I maintained those friendships into my adult life. Due to some unfortunate incidents and gossip I have decided that my friends are not quite the friends I hoped they were so I have decided to expand my group of friends with the long term goal of making new friendlier less judgmental friends and then leaving the old ones behind. The problem is how do you do this now? I'm not a sit at home and meet in chatrooms first kind of person and I'm past the nightclub phase. I joined a local craft club but they were all too old. I think I would meet nice people at a sports club but I'm just not into sports. I'm not fat or anything, in fact I'm quite fit, but I just don't enjoy sports. I was thinking maybe I could volunteer to man the tuck shop or bar at a sports club that way I would get to chat to people and get to know them. Any ideas?
Satu Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 To be loved, be loving. To find peace, be peaceful. To find forgiveness, be forgiving. To be cared about, be caring. To be treated kindly, be kind. To be understood, be understanding. To have friends, be friendly. Etc.
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Do a variety of things that interest you to meet new people. When you find a group you are passionate about, the rest will click.
sportygirl89 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 I had to do this after a big misunderstanding. But I've never had to replace my true best friends. I started going back to church and joined a singles group. Its helped a lot. A lot of churches of different denominations have them. If I'm not at church one week they will actually check up on me. Its nice to have people geniuinely care about you. I also started crossfitting two years ago. I started getting more involved. I'd hang out with the girls I lift with. I told them I was having a hard time meeting people. They started inviting me to places.
Bolacool Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Just utilize every social avenue around you. Be lovely, dress well, be honest with yourself that you are genuinely looking for a good friendship and be friendly. Good luck.
preraph Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Take a part-time job as a server at a sports bar. You'll meet lots of people and make extra money. Or work in a retail outlet that targets your age group, just part-time. Because those jobs don't pay anything, but they're fun socially.
angel.eyes Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Great suggestions from other posters! Other avenues to try include meetup.com. Look for groups that explicitly focus on your age range--20's, 20's to 30's, 30's to 40's, etc. You can also try alumni groups. My schools all have young alumni groups focused on recent grads. Finally volunteer! Habitat for Humanity, ASPCA, etc. Find a charitable organization that offers activities that align with your interests or passions.
nerd Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 If you've ever wanted to learn partner dancing, some people have their entire social circle from other dancers. But they tend to be on the liberal side. Maybe art classes or yoga could be similar.
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