Bobbi7 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Awhile back at work, there was a young trainer guy and this co-worker talking-I heard their conversation and the co-worker was telling him about her friend that worked in our department and said that he was his "type." Skinny and blonde. Well, apparently I'm invisible-I guess to them I'm not what men "chase" after. I'm skinny, but I don't have blonde hair-I'm not that ugly. So, every guy prefers the Marilyn Monroe, Pam Anderson types? And for the rest of the women that have dark hair-we can't get our choice in guys? Sounds unfair.
Gaeta Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Listen, men like women of all kind of shapes, sizes and colors. This man you overheard does not get to decide what is attractive for the entire male gender. 7
Sunyata Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Sounds like a gross over-simplification, just like when guys say all women want is football player types. Some of that may be due to these guys focusing on the types of women that want those guys, rather than the types of women they can actually get. On both sides, there exists a sort of sad thing within the genders, where some people try to become validated as "real" by being accepted by this overly simplified sexual representation of the other gender. i.e. blonde feminine slender types, and tall masculine athletic bros. Do you find yourself mostly being attracted to the types of guys that spend a lot of time at the beach and clubs? I apologize ahead of time if this post is awful or laced with any projection. I am still learning my own identity, place within the social and romantic aspects of society, and also how it all works.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 What?! There are PLENTY of guys who think brunettes and very dark haired women are HOT. Just because some guys you know (or have heard of) are into skinny "blondes", that doesn't mean that YOU'RE $hit out of luck! It just means you'll end up attracting guys who are into _________________ (whatever your hair color is). Not "every" guy is into the Pam and Marilyn types (sweeping generalization there, don't ya think?) And um, yeah...you (and other dark haired women such as yourself) CAN have "your choice in guys" - but just realize, that they must also CHOOSE **YOU**. If you're attracted to a guy but he's not attracted to you, that just means you'll have to move on to the next guy. . 1
Gary S Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Good! This means more brunettes and redheads for me! Seriously, like they say in the car business, there is a butt for every seat.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Well I'm a personal trainer and I prefer curvy brunettes. But when I say curvy I mean healthy weight with actual hips, a slightly large booty, etc yet still reasonably fit looking. The problem I always run into with women online anyways, is that they don't know what curvy is supposed to mean. It's not a pseudonym for fat. 2
kendahke Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Awhile back at work, there was a young trainer guy and this co-worker talking-I heard their conversation and the co-worker was telling him about her friend that worked in our department and said that he was his "type." Skinny and blonde. Well, apparently I'm invisible-I guess to them I'm not what men "chase" after. I'm skinny, but I don't have blonde hair-I'm not that ugly. So, every guy prefers the Marilyn Monroe, Pam Anderson types? And for the rest of the women that have dark hair-we can't get our choice in guys? Sounds unfair. Non sequitur. The color of your hair has absolutely nothing to do with anything.Your looks are not the preference to this one guy. ONE GUY. That's it. He isn't the gatekeeper to all other men out there. He is entitled to his preferences, as are you and every one else. That doesn't mean you are invisible to every other man on the planet. Here's the deal: very few people, despite their pedigree, can get the person of their choice and that has nothing to do with fairness. It has to do with timing, preferences and no one owing you what you want just because you want it. He doesn't want you? Someone else will. Life is way easier when you stop expecting for someone who doesn't want you to want you and to start opening yourself up to find someone who does. 1
Clarence_Boddicker Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Huh? All guys are different. FYI blonde is my least favorite hair color. Red or black is #1 to me. Brunette is next. I'm not wrapped up in boob size either.
Vercetti Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Don't be like guys that say women only like XYZ type men. You're screwed ( or not har har ) with guys you're not the type for. On the flip you're all in with those that like your type. I like dark hair and I'm not the only one. You have nothing to worry about.
loveweary11 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Awhile back at work, there was a young trainer guy and this co-worker talking-I heard their conversation and the co-worker was telling him about her friend that worked in our department and said that he was his "type." Skinny and blonde. Well, apparently I'm invisible-I guess to them I'm not what men "chase" after. I'm skinny, but I don't have blonde hair-I'm not that ugly. So, every guy prefers the Marilyn Monroe, Pam Anderson types? And for the rest of the women that have dark hair-we can't get our choice in guys? Sounds unfair. We all like different types, just like all women like different types. There is some truth that on average, those blondes are more in demand, but... for instance... I prefer: 5'2" and under 100 lbs Very dark hair and eyes Toned and in shape The exact opposite of these ideal girls you are describing.
preraph Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Oh, no. Plenty of men love brunettes. A lot of men's ideal is blond, though. I mean, as a woman, I prefer dark hair, fair skin and blue eyes, but I've certainly met others I was just as attracted to who don't fit those parameters. Because everyone in the media now has big fake boobs, men do grow up thinking that is reasonable to expect and leaves a few of them bemoaning how few actual live women there are college age who have enormous hooters. So it is kind of a thing (and now butts), but we all have to adjust to our expectations, especially when our expectations had the bar set at an unrealistic point by plastic surgery and air-brushing.
Buddhist Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Don't buy into that crap. The truth is, it's quite easy to be a guys type. No matter what they say is their type, I've never met a guy who wouldn't date outside of it if an attractive female of another type came along.
loveweary11 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Don't buy into that crap. The truth is, it's quite easy to be a guys type. No matter what they say is their type, I've never met a guy who wouldn't date outside of it if an attractive female of another type came along. Let's go for coffee so you can say you have. I do not date taller women, blonde women or women with blue or green eyes. I don't find then sexually attractive and have absolutely zero interest in them, even if they are Pamela Anderson or whatever. I turn them down every time, and those are the ones that most commonly are interested in me. Had an overdose of them growing up. They have a different body structure from brunettes. Not as curvy (and I don't mean fat, I mean 100lbs with muscles that make curves). The exception is when a brunette dies her hair blonde. Takes a little something away from her, but she retains the eyes and body type. Note: Don't get offended, blondes, this is just my taste. Most guys do like you best. But I never, ever go out with taller, blonde or light eyed girls because i am not attracted to them.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Let's go for coffee so you can say you have. I do not date taller women, blonde women or women with blue or green eyes. I don't find then sexually attractive and have absolutely zero interest in them, even if they are Pamela Anderson or whatever. I turn them down every time, and those are the ones that most commonly are interested in me. Had an overdose of them growing up. They have a different body structure from brunettes. Not as curvy (and I don't mean fat, I mean 100lbs with muscles that make curves). The exception is when a brunette dies her hair blonde. Takes a little something away from her, but she retains the eyes and body type. Note: Don't get offended, blondes, this is just my taste. Most guys do like you best. But I never, ever go out with taller, blonde or light eyed girls because i am not attracted to them. Sounds like Asian women are your type.
loveweary11 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Sounds like Asian women are your type. A lot of them do fit that, but sadly, there are cultural issues that crop up. I haven't been able to get along with Asian women I've dated. There are a lot of european descent, hispanic and black girls that fit the bill. Native American also. Eastern European and a few Russian. Also, there are a lot of mixed race ones out there. They come from nearly all countries, actually, but the European type are the ones that realky get me. The one girl in my life who we never lose touch and come back to each other all the time is a mix of Dutch and Venezuelan. Fits the bill too and never fails to captivate me. Was just swooning over her a bit tonight actually.
TB Rhine Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 So, every guy prefers the Marilyn Monroe, Pam Anderson types? And for the rest of the women that have dark hair-we can't get our choice in guys? Sounds unfair. That's patently ridiculous. You're aware that most of the Western world considers the Young Angelina Jolie to be the sexiest woman who ever walked the face of the Earth, correct? You don't get much less blonde than that. Megan Fox is not a blonde. Cindy Crawford is not a blonde. Anne Hathaway is not a blonde. The list of non-blonde sex symbols goes on and on.
Kitsune9 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 I’ll have you know that there are plenty of guys for all hair colors. My boyfriend actually prefers brunettes(which I am) and has never even dated a blonde. Blondes don’t do it for him. Plus people date outside their type all the time. My mother (tall and blonde) was totally not my father’s type (short, Asian or middle eastern, with dark features). But you know what? They made it work and are still together today. Types are not the be all end all. They are just general guidelines of what a person finds attractive. And most importantly they are just an opinion. Ask another person you may get another opinion.
EngnimaticResponse Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 When someone asks me "Do you like blondes, brunettes, or red-heads?" I answer "Why, Yes, I do!":D
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