Mondmellonw Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT][sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]So, yeah,you were right. Mynow ex dumped me after about a month. He had told me that he wanted a break (amonth prior to this), because he "felt like we were no longer compatible”.[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I told him that it was eithera break up or staying together… So he agreed to stay and told me he did lovedme, but that everything seemed different.[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I asked him exactly whatfelt different to him and he said I was a little too quiet when we saw eachother. I was a little stressed at the time with college and also having manyfamily issues (and he knew). I explained him this again and put an effort to bemore talkative and less serious when together.... We had a really goodtime manydays of that month… or at least that’s what I thought... He said that he reallyenjoyed life in general, and places he wouldn't normally go if it wasn'tbecause of me, he even got really worried one day when Igot upset at himbecause he was using his cellphone during an entire date, and after this, he startedbeing even more caring, wich seems weird now that he dumped me[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]He would spend his timebuying stuff on the Internet or seeing friends... He finally got a job so hewas happy that he could now earn more money to buy those things on the web[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I was very busy at collegeand I can't lie, I was getting worried about that because I felt like he didn'tliked when I distanced myself of him, even when necessary, or maybe I wasafraid of what he said[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Well... Two days ago I sawhim and he didn’t even kissed or hug me. But he started kissing me in a sexualway, I told him to stop, he got upset and said that we weren’t even compatiblein that way (I didn’t had sex with him, he even called me inexperienced[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I asked him if that was soimportant to him and he said no, but he clearly got very uncomfortable[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I messaged him that sameday apologizing for going home without even explaining myself (I felt like itwas ridiculous for him to not be able to have a good time without sex[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]And he replied telling methat we shouldn’t be together anymore. I asked him if this was “it”, and hesaid yes, he said that he felt we were incompatible (again)and that he didn’tfelt we were right for each other anymore. [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I told him I didn’t wantedto let go and he was really all like “I’m done and that’s it, let me go”. So Irealized that I had to let go and told him that it was fine, that I was OK withit but that I needed to end all type of communication with him (we used to talkeveryday), so I blocked him via facebook and asked him to please block me onwhatsapp, since I hadn’t had my phone at the time (it was in another room of myhouse getting the battery charged) and I couldn’t block him til’ next day causeit was really late and I wanted to sleep... I blocked him without waiting foran answer and went to sleep.[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]The next day I went tocheck my cellphone, and instead of respecting what I asked him and blocking mehe sent me a message saying that please we should meet in person, that hewanted to apologize and end things better[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I replied to him that hehad the chance to do it for a long time and asked him to leave me alone and notmessage me anymore and blocked him[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I guess I needed to learnthe lesson by myself…[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT]
ravfour4 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Your message is formatted all crazily. It sounds like he wanted to break-up, then gave it a second chance and due to minimal chemistry decided to end it for good. Without knowing the back story, how long you were together or how old you are, you are probably better off not being together. It's nice that he wants to apologize and end on a better note, but it will probably just hurt you further and isn't worth it.
Satu Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 When all the words have been said there are no more words to be said.
Ruby65 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Based on your past posts, it sounds like you had a feeling this break could end in a breakup... and now it has. Take it as a life lesson -- from now on, you know not to tolerate breaks. Now some more advice for you -- go No Contact so you can heal and move on. Please don't meet him in person, you don't need to go through Breakup Part Two just so he can feel less guilty. Cut him off. Go ahead and block him on your phone, or change your number. Block him online, on every app and site you use. Here's a guide that will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com You're going to be just fine. 1
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