crusader75 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Hey everyone, so I'm going to open up here. My ex-girlfriend and I dated for 18 months. Then, we went on a break due to fighting. However, we basically acted the same as if we were dating still. Then, we had fight and I ignored her the whole day. Later that night, I received a call from her and I hope no one gets that type of call. She was not in a good place. I went to her house and calmed her that night. But when I went home, I called a professional on what would be best for her. She said to take a step back and no longer be her emotional crutch,that I needed to put distance between us so she could learn to cope on her own and would be more apt to get therapy. So the next day I called her and told her that us being together wasn't a healthy idea. I didn't even look her in the face for a week because I felt awful about it. What I was told was best for her did not feel like it. I ended up talking to her and apologizing for what happened and explaining why I did what I did. She couldn't trust me or forgive me. She says I abandoned her and that it didn't matter what anyone had for advice, I did the wrong thing. I was only trying to do what was best for her, I would not have walked away after something so big and personal if I was not given professional advice. We still talked and i tried to win her back for four months. She decided that we were in different places about how we felt about each other now, and it would not be a good idea to go to prom together. She decided she wouldn't go with me. I was hurt and felt disrespected, led on. She never promised we would get back together, but it felt like I was making progress. We did not speak for a month and a half. Then she reached out to me to talk a little as friends. We have had a few conversations since then but not much. She acts like I don't exist in public. But then she wants to be friends still. She has said she misses me and how close we were, but that she sees me more as her past than her future. She is very special to me. I'm pretty sure I do not have much of a shot of ever getting her back as my girlfriend. But, I get mixed signals. What should I do to move our friendship in the right direction, with the hope of gradually building back trust, and who knows in the future? It may be pointless but she means too much to me not to try.
Satu Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 *Then, we went on a break due to fighting. If you aren't able to get along with other peacefully, there's not much point in being together. What did you fight about?
Author crusader75 Posted May 2, 2015 Author Posted May 2, 2015 Just stupid arguments that didn't mean anything. There was a lot of stress coming from other things for both of us. They wouldn't last long or were serious, but we were just getting on each others nerves and wanted to try to alleviate the stress in some way
Satu Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Just stupid arguments that didn't mean anything. There was a lot of stress coming from other things for both of us. They wouldn't last long or were serious, but we were just getting on each others nerves and wanted to try to alleviate the stress in some way Be specific. What did you argue about?
Author crusader75 Posted May 2, 2015 Author Posted May 2, 2015 To be completely honest, I can't remember well that was a long time ago. It was always something, like she would get upset if I phrased something the wrong way, and I would get upset that she acted like her friends were more important in public. The main fight we always had was that her best guy friend was my sisters ex boyfriend who really hurt her. I didn't like him, I didn't like her around him, and there was stress trying to make that work without telling her what to do. Btw thats who she took to prom too which added to why i was hurt by her decision.
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