wh22 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 I messaged this girl (girl A) on POF and we got talking on a regular basis via the site. At the time I was also messaging another girl (girl B) so I wasn't giving her too much attention. After about 3 weeks of talking like this I realised we got on well and I asked girl A for her number, which she gave to me with no hesitation. We texted on and off like every other day using WhatsApp and at this point I was still messaging girl B too who id arranged to go on a date with. At the end of the date with girl B I knew there wasn't anything there so communication with girl B stopped there. Because of that I started talking to girl A a lot more often (like constantly for hours at a time but there would be intervals of like a day or 2 where she would not message but then ask how I was again) for 2 or 3 weeks although. During this period I felt like I actually started to develop a strong interest because of the way I felt we clicked. We could have normal conversations followed by a lot of harmless flirting and name calling which we both seemed to be on the same level with. It was just before bedtime on a Sunday night when I decided to ask her to meet up, and she said yes but she was going away to do a 2 week uni placement in a different country the week following this Sunday so I suggested we could meet the weekend coming up (the one before she went) and she just said maybe. I left it there and went to bed and when I woke I replied saying it can wait until after her placement had finished. And this is when she stopped replying to my messages. I left it until the Friday to see if she would talk to me and she didn't so I sent her a teasing message saying "are you alive? :P" because that's the kind of silly talk we connected with before. Instead of getting a reply she instead (what I can only assume is) blocked me on WhatsApp. All of this made me think about her even more and made me realise how much I was actually into her and how promising it was if we would meet compared to previous people I've dated based more on just gaining experience! I left it about 4 weeks giving her time to do her stuff and see if she'd message me after her placement had finished... but she didn't. During that time I was back on POF talking to other girls but I was struggling to create a connection with people like I did with girl A, so I decided to text her this time to ask if she went quiet on me because I asked her on a date and I also explained I genuinely liked her for the way we conversed with each other. And again I got no response. I've noticed her creating a new profile on POF again (because she removed her old one shortly after I got her number) and I want to know if I should ask her how she is? It's been another 3 weeks since I contacted her with my last text bearing in mind. I know she is just coming up to completing her second year of uni which makes me think that I should wait until she is free from her uni work , but she goes back home for the summer then which is like 80 miles away!! You will probably tell me to forget about her but it's hard when you had a connection that doesn't come around very often (and I am still trying contact other girls)! The most frustrating part is not knowing why she stopped talking, because at the time we spoke about meeting up she mentioned she'd not been on many dates (and I got the impression she had never) so it annoys me that she may have flaked on me because of nerves getting in the way as for me equally it would have been my most nerve wrecking date my far because of how promising it was for me. If you've not got bored reading my crisis i'd like some advise on if I'm wasting time or if I should try and re spark our connection (and if so what should I initially say!!)
Gaeta Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 You have done enough, actually you've done plenty so drop it. For what ever reasons she does not want to pursue things with you and the why isn't important, that won't bring her back. On a side note you conversed online way too long. You need to speed up these meeting and stop putting in 3+ weeks into chatting. Your mistake was to put all of your attention on another woman you had not met yet and you ended up losing rabbit number 2 in the process. Chances are this current girl was only looking for some online attention and had no real intention of meeting you. I would say she is not quite like her pictures or not quite single. Don't over think it, don't try to understand it. Move on.
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