creighton0123 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 After this harsh winter in Boston - and considering my partner and I are both in our early 30's, we are seriously entertaining a move to Honolulu (after discussing many other places). He was born in China and moved to the US years ago - living in San Diego, Miami, New Jersey, Boston, and Chicago. I was born in upstate NY and lived there... and in Boston. I have never not had winter and I tend to despise every minute of it. Has anyone ever moved like this with their partner? Any advice? Jobs aren't so much an issue. He is primary care and my company doesn't care where I work. In fact, they would like the idea of me bridging time zones between the west coast and China. Income is a non-issue insofar as we make enough to easily afford a nice home on the island. Just wanted to hear some other experiences before we jump ship and decide to move (going to take a month off from work and rent a place there to scout out the details - in a few months).
AppleKakes Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 I think your plan of taking a month off and renting a place sounds great... I feel ya, seems like a migration is taking place from the colder parts of the US to the warmer areas. I have relatives up north who are getting tired of the cold already. By taking a month off and renting a place, you can get a real "feel" for the area and hopefully experience both positives and negatives. The metro area I moved to about five years ago? I used to come up here just on the weekends and took family there for sight seeing and stuff. Well, since I moved here I already moved twice. I'm sorta "ok" with the recent move, but sorta am getting the itch to move again. But, my point was - visiting somewhere and actually living there are two animals. Hopefully by taking a month off you can get a good feel for the place. Good luck, wish you two the best!!!
gaius Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 I love a lot about Boston but I'm fleeing to Florida come June. So I can't really try to talk you out of it like I normally would. =/ My grandmother had a pair of partner friends who made a move like that, they're still there but ended up breaking up. 2
AppleKakes Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 I love a lot about Boston but I'm fleeing to Florida come June. So I can't really try to talk you out of it like I normally would. =/ My grandmother had a pair of partner friends who made a move like that, they're still there but ended up breaking up. Moving to Florida? Wow, that's a big transition. Hope you did your homework Lol... Maybe it's the warm weather causing women to come out in cute dresses, sandals, short/shorts that makes people turn their heads and reconsider a steppin' I mean, I know some people who came from hot climates overseas - where the women are very aggressive when it comes to men. I had several women tell me stories that upon retiring, while their husbands wanted to return to the hot country, the wives didn't cuz they knew their husbands would be bombarded with women hitting on them and endless opportunities to stray.
gaius Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Moving to Florida? Wow, that's a big transition. Hope you did your homework Lol... Maybe it's the warm weather causing women to come out in cute dresses, sandals, short/shorts that makes people turn their heads and reconsider a steppin' I mean, I know some people who came from hot climates overseas - where the women are very aggressive when it comes to men. I had several women tell me stories that upon retiring, while their husbands wanted to return to the hot country, the wives didn't cuz they knew their husbands would be bombarded with women hitting on them and endless opportunities to stray. Homework schmowork. I'll jump in with both feet first and make it work like I always do. Or die trying. Maybe even find a good podcast to listen to while I'm down there. Or a sexy neighbor to perv on. 1
Gloria25 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Homework schmowork. I'll jump in with both feet first and make it work like I always do. Or die trying. Maybe even find a good podcast to listen to while I'm down there. Or a sexy neighbor to perv on. Well, in this economy, I'd do my homework - just sayin' Good luck in what you decide to do 1
gaius Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Well, in this economy, I'd do my homework - just sayin' Good luck in what you decide to do I know, you're a sweetie. It's good advice and I did do some homework actually, think I'll be able to make it work. We'll see. How boring would life be without a little uncertainty and challenge though? And if the heat affects the women like that, all the better.
AppleKakes Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 I know, you're a sweetie. It's good advice and I did do some homework actually, think I'll be able to make it work. We'll see. How boring would life be without a little uncertainty and challenge though? And if the heat affects the women like that, all the better. Well, again, going to my personal situation - I had a lot of savings at that time....But, looking back, even though I "made it", I wish I planned a bit better and would have saved a lot of money Well, hope it works out for ya... Yea, there's something about the change in weather that affects people. I mean, in colder places don't they have some term for like 'winter depression' that some people go through? I mean, gosh, it does suck to be locked in doors and its all cold and gray outside.
Kitsune9 Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 My best friend moved to Honolulu a few years ago to be with her boyfriend(who later became her husband). She absolutely hated it there and would call me all the time to complain about it. She eventually ended up moving back home to LA. The top complaints I heard from her were: -very high cost of living which says a lot since LA isn't exactly known for being cheap either >_> -Island time drove her crazy. She is very much a type A go-getter while hawaii tends to be very go with the flow. -Distance from family. Are you close with your family? Or do they live near to you now? -Honolulu is a rather small city on a small island if you're used to big bustling cities it can be a very new positive or negative experience. It sounds like both you and your boyfriend have been living in big cities. Find out if this is going to be an issue for either of you. Having personally lived in big cities my whole life the one time I moved to a small city for college I hated it so much I ended up moving back to LA after a year. Lesson learned, I'm a big city girl through and through. If none of the above is a problem then hell go for it. I hear Hawaii is absolutely gorgeous. I live in LA so I feel you on the whole warmer weather. It's not uncommon to have a sunny 70 degree christmas around here
Author creighton0123 Posted May 3, 2015 Author Posted May 3, 2015 Kitsune, Thanks for the feedback. I currently work from home most of the time and my company would easily allow me to move to Hawaii and continue working - for a mainland salary. They would prefer it given my new coverage of an essential time zone (West coast evening/afternoon, Beijing morning). He is also a PCP (internal medicine). We're both fairly laid back individuals. During our summers in Boston, we spend the time walking around the ocean (Boston harborwalk) or driving an hour up to New Hampshire to hike. While I'm close with my family, we're all spread out - so most of our time is spent on Skype. I only see my family members twice a year or so. His family lives in a China, so he sees them once every two years. Right now, we both live in Boston. If you know Boston, it is essentially a very small city. Cost of living wise: We know food, electricity, etc. would be much higher. Housing, however, would be comparable to Boston and we would intentionally subtract 100k from what we could afford in a house. Anyhow. Thanks for the insight again. What this tells me is that I need to go ahead with the plan of taking 3-4 weeks off and travel to Oahu, but first do some research and rent a house in a neighborhood we would ideally like to live in. You know. The type of vacation where you don't really vacation, but pretend you're living there (buy groceries, cook at home, take morning commutes into the city, look for jobs and at real estate. My best friend moved to Honolulu a few years ago to be with her boyfriend(who later became her husband). She absolutely hated it there and would call me all the time to complain about it. She eventually ended up moving back home to LA. The top complaints I heard from her were: -very high cost of living which says a lot since LA isn't exactly known for being cheap either >_> -Island time drove her crazy. She is very much a type A go-getter while hawaii tends to be very go with the flow. -Distance from family. Are you close with your family? Or do they live near to you now? -Honolulu is a rather small city on a small island if you're used to big bustling cities it can be a very new positive or negative experience. It sounds like both you and your boyfriend have been living in big cities. Find out if this is going to be an issue for either of you. Having personally lived in big cities my whole life the one time I moved to a small city for college I hated it so much I ended up moving back to LA after a year. Lesson learned, I'm a big city girl through and through. If none of the above is a problem then hell go for it. I hear Hawaii is absolutely gorgeous. I live in LA so I feel you on the whole warmer weather. It's not uncommon to have a sunny 70 degree christmas around here 1
Author creighton0123 Posted May 3, 2015 Author Posted May 3, 2015 In colder places don't they have some term for like 'winter depression' that some people go through? I mean, gosh, it does suck to be locked in doors and its all cold and gray outside. Yup. Essentially a form of cabin fever. That's my biggest problem living in the northeast. From October to May, I'm always cold. I don't want to go outside. I gain weight, sleep poorly, and it is harder for me to focus on my work. This winter, I did not move beyond a half mile radius from my apartment for a month straight.
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