Country_Girl Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Dated a guy for a month. I thought everything was great, we laughed a lot, have so much in common. He came on strong, added me to Facebook after our first date, the next day deleted his online dating profile (how we met). Texted me daily, planned regular dates, 3x a week. We did sleep together a few times. He asked for exclusivity, I agreed and said it wasn't seening anyone else. A week later he got kinda distant and I asked if I did something wrong. He said no but he did need to call me later. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks (so does he) and I didn't want to go through the rest of the workday in panic, so I told him to just text me what he wanted to say and I wouldn't think he's a jerk. He said he loved our time together but didn't see a romantic spark. I said "ok, I can't change how you feel but appreciate the honesty". He'll be having surgery soon that will leave him debilitated, so I let him know that since I previously commited to this that if he needs some help I would be glad to give a hand. I meant that and still mean it. Our breakup was like 2 days ago. Now, here's where I thought things were good but apparently not. The day he broke up with me, I deleted and blocked him from Facebook. It wasn't a spiteful action...but I have a romantic interest in him, he does not in me. I don't want to see news feed of the next chick he is dating till I have time to process this and be over it. Now I know he's pissed I did this, but if we talked I would have explained it? He has a second Facebook account, I just rememberd it today, so I went to pull it up and block it....but he had already blocked me. I don't get it. He's the one that rejected me. I don't block People to be mean, I just wanted space so later I can rein gage in a possible friendship that he had suggested. I feel like he's mad I blocked him, hence him blocking on his secondary account. Should I explain why I did this, or just let it go?
SingleDude Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 You should feel 100% justified in blocking him. Youre protecting your feelings and I totally get it. I was seeing this girl and when she decided to just be friends, I did the same thing. No, I do not want you on my feed and I certainly do not want to see your face if we are no longer a thing. Up his. He dumped you. Block away.
chantos Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Some people date a lot more than others. And for some people a breakup after a month isn't "block-worthy." For others it is. So my guess is he took it the wrong way. But also how do you know he's pissed at you? Is he not returning texts or something? You blocked him, he blocked you back... is that all that happened? Seems equal to me. Either way you should just let it go. That was a nice gesture to offer to help him out even after he broke up with you. Most girls wouldn't.
Author Country_Girl Posted May 2, 2015 Author Posted May 2, 2015 You should feel 100% justified in blocking him. Youre protecting your feelings and I totally get it. I was seeing this girl and when she decided to just be friends, I did the same thing. No, I do not want you on my feed and I certainly do not want to see your face if we are no longer a thing. Up his. He dumped you. Block away. Thank you. This makes me feel better. I just feel stupid because he obviously doesn't get it, but I feel like I shouldn't have to explain it. Kinda self explanatory in my opinion.
Author Country_Girl Posted May 2, 2015 Author Posted May 2, 2015 Some people date a lot more than others. And for some people a breakup after a month isn't "block-worthy." For others it is. So my guess is he took it the wrong way. But also how do you know he's pissed at you? Is he not returning texts or something? You blocked him, he blocked you back... is that all that happened? Seems equal to me. Either way you should just let it go. That was a nice gesture to offer to help him out even after he broke up with you. Most girls wouldn't. It wasn't like I hate him and he became block worthy, but since I like him and I'm still stupidly interested in someone that doesn't like me...I blocked him so I won't see his news feed that might keep me interested. I don't want to be tempted to click on his page and find out he has a girlfriend and be sad. Give me 2-3 weeks with no contact and I'd be fine communicating again when I am over any kind of romantic prospect. Guess it is equal. We are not calling/texting, haven't since. I'm just worried he thinks I did it out of spite, when it was only for protection.
chantos Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 I'm just worried he thinks I did it out of spite, when it was only for protection. Who cares what he thinks at this point. You didn't do it out of spite so if he thinks that he's wrong and oh well. 1
guest569 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 It's probably for the best that you're not calling or texting each other for now. As for the blocking, he should understand, and he will get over it. For now, just worry about you, not him. You don't need to explain your actions to him and blocking was a smart thing to do. 1
Author Country_Girl Posted May 2, 2015 Author Posted May 2, 2015 Who cares what he thinks at this point. You didn't do it out of spite so if he thinks that he's wrong and oh well. Thank you, I need to stop worrying about what other people think.
Author Country_Girl Posted May 2, 2015 Author Posted May 2, 2015 It's probably for the best that you're not calling or texting each other for now. As for the blocking, he should understand, and he will get over it. For now, just worry about you, not him. You don't need to explain your actions to him and blocking was a smart thing to do. Thank you. I'm not a selfish person, but right now I should be thinking about me. It's not in my nature, but you're right.
guest569 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Thank you. I'm not a selfish person, but right now I should be thinking about me. It's not in my nature, but you're right. That doesn't make you selfish. You're just doing what you need to in order to get past it.
Redhead14 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Dated a guy for a month. I thought everything was great, we laughed a lot, have so much in common. He came on strong, added me to Facebook after our first date, the next day deleted his online dating profile (how we met). Texted me daily, planned regular dates, 3x a week. We did sleep together a few times. He asked for exclusivity, I agreed and said it wasn't seening anyone else. A week later he got kinda distant and I asked if I did something wrong. He said no but he did need to call me later. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks (so does he) and I didn't want to go through the rest of the workday in panic, so I told him to just text me what he wanted to say and I wouldn't think he's a jerk. He said he loved our time together but didn't see a romantic spark. I said "ok, I can't change how you feel but appreciate the honesty". He'll be having surgery soon that will leave him debilitated, so I let him know that since I previously commited to this that if he needs some help I would be glad to give a hand. I meant that and still mean it. Our breakup was like 2 days ago. Now, here's where I thought things were good but apparently not. The day he broke up with me, I deleted and blocked him from Facebook. It wasn't a spiteful action...but I have a romantic interest in him, he does not in me. I don't want to see news feed of the next chick he is dating till I have time to process this and be over it. Now I know he's pissed I did this, but if we talked I would have explained it? He has a second Facebook account, I just rememberd it today, so I went to pull it up and block it....but he had already blocked me. I don't get it. He's the one that rejected me. I don't block People to be mean, I just wanted space so later I can rein gage in a possible friendship that he had suggested. I feel like he's mad I blocked him, hence him blocking on his secondary account. Should I explain why I did this, or just let it go? He's mad because he was hoping he could keep you on a string so that he'd have someone to bounce back to if other dating scenarios didn't work out. 2
Gary S Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 He who reject first feels better about the breakup. You reject him one place, then he rejects you another time. That's why it's just best sometimes to cut all contact. When the love plane is going down there is only one parachute. 1
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