saladfingers Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 (edited) I live in a small town, come into contact with a lot of cute girls at my job, frequent customers, we do small talk, all of that, once in awhile I'll flirt or throw a zinger out there at them which gets them laughing. I never go for the number of date though, it may come across as creepy. I just hope that by building up attractiveness by being consistently humorous, confident, and somewhat sexy will help my chances. How does a guy go about asking a girl he barely knows without freaking Her out - and how do you know when to ask? And what to ask? Like "we should go out sometime soon", "do you like coffee", "I'd like to get to know you more"? Edited May 2, 2015 by saladfingers
chantos Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Watch videos of this on YouTube. It's much easier to learn by observing rather than having people type descriptions. You basically just go for it and ask her for her number after a few minutes of casual flirtation. Those first few minutes serve as an "I'm not a creepy guy" platform where you show her you're just a chill, attractive guy. It's honestly not that big of a deal. Worst thing that happens is she says no.
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 The point of the date is to get to know the person, to lay the so called foundation. You don't need a long time knowing someone before you ask them to spend time with you so that you can get to know each other better.
Gary S Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 The reason we date is to get the person around us so they might fall in love. Since you are in a small town, if you are seeing these women regularly, this is all taken care of for you. I would banter with them and show your personality and wait and see if any of them ask you out first! Plus, if the woman is making the move, there's no chance of rejection. I'd give it 3-4 months for a crush to develop and see if they make a move before you do. You only ask for their number when you are not going to see them again.
doeblin Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 (edited) I'd give it 3-4 months for a crush to develop and see if they make a move before you do. Umm why would he wait 4 months, when a couple of weeks of rapport is more than enough to ask a girl out? Hell, 20 minutes of rapport is enough. If he waits too long, they will assume he's gay, or otherwise uninterested. OP, next time you talk to one of the cute girls, just ask her out for a coffee casually. Don't be vague. Time-place-activity. "Hey we should grab a coffee sometime! How about <day of the week> at <coffeeshop>?" You get the general idea. Don't sweat it. Be cool. Edited May 3, 2015 by doeblin
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