Do you girls think connecting on FB at the beginning is a big step?

[SingleDude]

Say you just started talking to a guy yesterday, do you think it is a big step to connect on FB right away? I'm 50/50. On one hand, it's a good way for each other to sort of get a background, on the other, it almost seems like a weird commitment.

 

 

Thoughts please.

[fardaxel]

I don't use social media as a barometer for my relationship.

[green_tea]

I wouldn't mind - you can always delete people if things don't go well, so it's not a life commitment or anything That is just me personally. One time I did add a guy that I didn't know that well - we'd worked briefly together and had one coffee together and he was a bit funny about accepting me. Although he finally did and we are still friends and catch up regularly.

[Dork Vader]

I typically try and delay adding them to Facebook for a while. It's not that I'm trying to hide that I'm doing anything bad or wrong.

 

I just don't want too give them that much intrusion into my personal life. I used do it with no thought. But I had one start messaging some of my female friends and other friends asking questions about me. Another went back through all my post liking most of them or asking questions about people from my past.

 

Granted this can still happen even after a month or two of dating. I just don't want to give them that much access to my life.

[d0nnivain]

FB is meaningless except it is a huge window into somebody's life. I don't know that I'd give somebody I just met that much access. Do they really need to know my mom likes the pictures of a cat I posted or see the embarrassing grade school shot of me somebody put up for ThrowBack Thursday?

 

We area narcissistic world so if you are happy giving a new person that much access, fine.

 

I do not consider it a step or anything by which to measure a relationship. By putting so much stock in FB I fear that in a month you will be back her crying, "are we doomed? It took him 1 hour and 42 minutes to change his status to in a relationship after he asked me to be his GF. I mean WTF? He had his phone with him the whole time!"