BKH808 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Just want to note I annoyed my girlfriend (20) when I she already was. We have been dating for 10 months and took it too far being needy and clingy. Shes doubting the relationship anymore and questions "love" Its like a mix of being angry with me and she doesn't know what to do anymore. I made the move and gave 6 days no contact until yesterday "Hey, how have you been? How did you do on your school project" and no reply. She deleted me Facebook and took off my name from her Instagram bio and put "what is self control" I feel like shes testing me because I would be so clingy and needy with text when she be at school and work and from taking me off social media I can't tell what shes doing or whens shes online. She deleted some of our close together photos of us though but not all of them. You can clearly read and tell that im her boyfriend. Do I just continue giving space until I see the photos gone because that when I know I need to pack up and move on. Wait for her to text back after sending "how is she doing" or sending something else in a few days.
preraph Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 If she's been clear she's fed up with your clinginess, then you need to stop contacting her. If she cools off and rethinks it, maybe she'll contact you. Sounds like she's pretty young, so maybe she won't stay mad forever..
El Pallasso Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 She is doing the slow fade and planning her exit strategy. Once she finds a solid branch to swing onto, she'll dump you like hot rocks. A woman that is infatuated with her man doesn't ignore him for almost a week and ignore his texts. This one is done. Stick a fork in it and start prospecting other girls. 3
chantos Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Yep it's gone. Not really possible to effectively go no contact after you've already established you're a very clingy guy. Also going no contact generally involves waiting until she starts contacting you. So you broke any effect it had whatsoever. I'd immediately break up with her and start trying to date other women. Otherwise you're just waiting around to be dumped as soon as she finds another branch as stated above.
Country_Girl Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Hate to say this, but I don't think She's your girlfriend anymore, she's out :-(
Redhead14 Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Just want to note I annoyed my girlfriend (20) when I she already was. We have been dating for 10 months and took it too far being needy and clingy. Shes doubting the relationship anymore and questions "love" Its like a mix of being angry with me and she doesn't know what to do anymore. I made the move and gave 6 days no contact until yesterday "Hey, how have you been? How did you do on your school project" and no reply. She deleted me Facebook and took off my name from her Instagram bio and put "what is self control" I feel like shes testing me because I would be so clingy and needy with text when she be at school and work and from taking me off social media I can't tell what shes doing or whens shes online. She deleted some of our close together photos of us though but not all of them. You can clearly read and tell that im her boyfriend. Do I just continue giving space until I see the photos gone because that when I know I need to pack up and move on. Wait for her to text back after sending "how is she doing" or sending something else in a few days. If you are going to give "space" to some one, you give it and wait for them to close it up if they are going to. Space is space. If the space is being given because you were needy, clingy/taking up too much of their space, you don't text them after 6 days, 10 days, etc. No contact is no contact until they contact you. If you're trying to recover from being needy/clingy, you have to demonstrate that you are trying to resolve that issue. "what is self control" -- that was a message to you. You were supposed to be giving space and you texted her. You showed her that you were'nt exercising self-control and weren't embracing the concept. And, no contact is not about getting some one back, it's about you and giving yourself the opportunity to re-evaluate the relationship and yourself. Sometimes the space does repair the situation and sometimes it doesn't. But don't wait for her. Leave her alone and get on with your life.
wizer Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 If she's testing you, she failed. But it sounds to me like she wants nothing to do with you and you're simply pestering her with the continued contact. Leave her alone, you've got nothing to gain by chasing after someone who made it clear they want nothing to do with you. Could she change her mind? Possibly. Probably not. But if she does, she'll come looking for you, stop trying to force it.
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 Just want to note I annoyed my girlfriend (20) when I she already was. We have been dating for 10 months and took it too far being needy and clingy. Shes doubting the relationship anymore and questions "love" Its like a mix of being angry with me and she doesn't know what to do anymore. I made the move and gave 6 days no contact until yesterday "Hey, how have you been? How did you do on your school project" and no reply. She deleted me Facebook and took off my name from her Instagram bio and put "what is self control" I feel like shes testing me because I would be so clingy and needy with text when she be at school and work and from taking me off social media I can't tell what shes doing or whens shes online. She deleted some of our close together photos of us though but not all of them. You can clearly read and tell that im her boyfriend. Do I just continue giving space until I see the photos gone because that when I know I need to pack up and move on. Wait for her to text back after sending "how is she doing" or sending something else in a few days. You are playing games & being manipulative. You don't go NC on someone INSIDE a relationship. When you are dating, you talk, you interact, you see each other. Instead as a way to show you are not immature, clingy or needy you disappeared on the poor girl. It backfired as anybody could have told you it would. She took your disappearance as a passive aggressive cowardly way of breaking up with her. She's not testing you. If you want to save this relationship, talk to her. Ask her what she wants. Really listen. Then give it to her.
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