I like a girl who used to liked me, we haven't talk for a year, Is there still chance

[arsenaluefa10s]

So there is this girl who like to text and talk to me alot and I can see it clearly that she like me.

I used to like her for about a month or two when we're in the same school, but then those feeling for her started to fade away. We were in the same school for about a year and then she moved. However, she still texted and keep in touch with me regularly, she like to talk me about random stuff and sometime even about my love life. I did not ignore her message because I don't want to hurt her feeling, I replied back every time, but in a way that she know i am not interested in her as a girl but more as a friend. This girl is so nice and kind and sometime I do feel bad doing that. She has every qualities that I am looking for in a girl and I felt comfortable around her but for some reason the feeling of liking her as a girl was not there. It was never there all that time when we were talking to each other. This girl is so nice and kind and she is the type of girl that I’ve been dreaming for and sometime I felt really angry at myself for not being able to like her romantically.

She has done this for about 3 years and now she suddenly stopped and we haven't talk for about a year. (Please be note that I also did not date or have a crush on any girl during that that time.)

 

Then one day I had a dream about her and suddenly my feeling for her came back like the first time I met her (I know this my sound crazy but this is real, I did not make this up). Now, I am able to like her as a girl. I am interested in her. I can't stop thinking about her for about 2 months now. I miss her and I want to see her again. I haven't text her yet. I want to listen to other people advice of what I should do. Should I contact her? Or should I wait a little more to see if this feeling is real? If I do contact her and talk to her again, how do I start, and how do I know if she still has the feeling for me? Is it possible for her to still have the feeling for me when she has already stopped talking to me for a year. So far, from what I know, she is also still single.

 

Sry for bad English

[d0nnivain]

She chased you for 3 years. You relegated her to the friendzone. She finally came to her senses, realized there was no hope for her & disappeared. Now a year after she disappeared, you miss the flattering attention & you want to reach out -- out of the blue -- to try to reconnect with her on a long distance basis.

 

It sounds more like you are seeking to have your ego stroked.

 

She has probably found someone else by now and is very happy. Let it go.

[arsenaluefa10s]

She chased you for 3 years. You relegated her to the friendzone. She finally came to her senses, realized there was no hope for her & disappeared. Now a year after she disappeared, you miss the flattering attention & you want to reach out -- out of the blue -- to try to reconnect with her on a long distance basis.

 

It sounds more like you are seeking to have your ego stroked.

 

She has probably found someone else by now and is very happy. Let it go.

 

Well, what if I really do like her? cuz rite now I think i am. Plus, I am definitely not a type of person who's desperate in seeking attention. That is definitely not the reason why i want to reconnect with her again.

I did really liked her before when we first met but somehow the feeling just go away and I don't know why.

[d0nnivain]

4 years after the fact & a year since you have communicated with her in any way -- you don't even know.

 

You may be "in love" with the idea of her you conjured up in your head but the reality does not match your perception

[Gary S]

Since you two never really dated, anything is possible

 

Just be aware, you have no idea what she's been up to for the past year... she might have a boyfriend. But it's worth a shot to find out.

 

If you have never hung out one-on-one together, you might not know if you are in the freindszone..... crushes can last for years, even decades!

[arsenaluefa10s]

4 years after the fact & a year since you have communicated with her in any way -- you don't even know.

 

You may be "in love" with the idea of her you conjured up in your head but the reality does not match your perception

 

But do you think I should give it a try? I really can't get her out of my head for 2-3 month now, the feeling is overflowing. I'm in pain right now. Each day seems to pass by so slow. I really want to talk to her.

[arsenaluefa10s]

Since you two never really dated, anything is possible

 

Just be aware, you have no idea what she's been up to for the past year... she might have a boyfriend. But it's worth a shot to find out.

 

If you have never hung out one-on-one together, you might not know if you are in the freindszone..... crushes can last for years, even decades!

 

Thank. I might just give it a shot. So far, I don't think she have any bf. I still have her contact, facebook, and everything.

[devilish innocent]

I would definitely talk to her. I don't think continuing to avoid her will tell you if the feelings are real. When I was in high school, I had a dream about a guy I'd known. I thought I was crazy about him for the longest time after that dream. Until I finally got the courage to approach him. Then I realized it was just the fantasy I was crazy about.

 

My advice would be to talk to her. Don't tell her you like her right away though. Try to reconnect with her as friends first. If you feel the attraction is still there after that, then go ahead and try to pursue something.

[preraph]

There is the danger it would fall apart if you saw her in person, that it would fall flat. But unless you have reason to believe she was really hurt and damaged by your rejection, I don't see the harm in reconnecting.

[chantos]

She finally came to her senses, realized there was no hope for her & disappeared.

 

And yet there was hope...