chantos Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Kid, how old are you? High school? Early college? Look, you didn't make a physical move early enough and she lost interest. Then you were too available and made all of these plans without getting her romantically interested in you enough first. If you call her now or do any of these sweet little gestures you're being told to do like wishing her luck in finals and telling her you're thinking of her, you will further lower her attraction to you and you'll get friend-zoned. The best thing you can do is completely stop talking to her, and if she happens to text or call you, go from there but don't get overly invested or seem like you're obsessed with her. Most likely she won't call you again. It's no big deal and there are other girls all around. Next time you're in this situation with a girl, go in for the kiss. If you get rejected just laugh about it, don't act hurt or anything. Act like it doesn't matter. Also, a pro tip since you seem very young: it's difficult to get consistently good dating advice from girls. They are very good at attracting guys, not so much vice versa. Experienced guys have been in your exact situation and know exactly what works and what does not. Most girls, unless they are very, very unbiased, will just tell you how they wish guys would treat them, which is rarely what actually keeps them interested.
h0000 Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Hah!! Lol plot twist! She said she's still waiting for her plane flight info....ummm...is she just ****ing with me or is she still interested? A week before you leave, it seems like you'd have the plane flight info, but idk. Also I should say, this girl really does not seem like the typical "player". She's absolutely not promiscuous or the typical "party girl". So I kind of doubt she is just ****ing around with me for fun....but then again it seems like that.... Where is the twist? Still don't think she's too interested. She's probably in a "I will see him if I'm bored" state. That doesn't make her a player. She is losing interest that is not the same as playing with you. 1
La.Primavera Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Even her latest text sounded like an afterthought like she had nothing better at the time. It took her over a day to respond and that was all she had to say? Sounds like she is doing it to feed her ego. I wouldn't bother replying. 1
Author UntitledNotepad Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 (edited) i accidentally told her "lets just do this another time"....im retarded I want to still see her before she leaves. what can I do? yes this if my first time so don't judge me for being so bad, just help! should i wait a few days then say "did you get your plane info yet"? Edited May 4, 2015 by UntitledNotepad
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 Pick up the phone, call the girl and explain things. Let her know that you would love to meet up again for the second date before she goes home. Going back and forth with the texting is ridiculous at this point! I know this is how you kids prefer to communicate but it is truly a horrible way particularly when you're trying to set something up. If you want something GO AFTER IT. What do you have to loose at this point? If you call and she doesn't pick up, continues NOT to pick subsequent calls and doesn't bother to respond then you have your answer. She's NOT INTERESTED and has moved on. Just because she told you 3 or 4 times that she'd love to get together again isn't enough. She's likely just being polite but her silence is deafening if you ask me. CALL HER and see what happens. After that, move on.
Author UntitledNotepad Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 i never got her number......i know stupid ****ing move on my part. should i send a quick message "you know what? i want to take you on a date before you leave. let me know if you have any free time"
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 i never got her number......i know stupid ****ing move on my part. should i send a quick message "you know what? i want to take you on a date before you leave. let me know if you have any free time" Aren't you texting her? How are you communicating?
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 facebook.... Oh my goodness Sweetie...this is crazy. Facebook her ONE MORE TIME. Tell her that you're going to try one more time to make this happen because you'd really love to see her before she leaves. Set the date ASAP (YOU set it, time and place) and leave it with her to respond. Wash you hands of it and wait to hear from her. If she doesn't respond or sends you another wishy washy cryptic message, MOVE ON. It's done. Save what dignity you have left and learn from this experience for the next time. Good luck.
Gary S Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 You had a date with a girl and all you have is her Spacebook? Next time, ask for her number. But she would have given it to you by now if she really cared. If they won't give you their phone number, they are not serious. And many college girls aren't ready to fall in love anyway. They call it puppy love.
Author UntitledNotepad Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 how can i set it i dont know when she leavesw! should i just say "if you still have time, id like to see you before you leave"
Author UntitledNotepad Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 jesus christ im never dating anyone again this whole thing is a ****ing joke
katiegrl Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 (edited) how can i set it i dont know when she leavesw! should i just say "if you still have time, id like to see you before you leave" 0h for godsakes dude, move on. What the hell is the point of your messaging her AGAIN? She has not even responded to your last message yet! I apologize if this sounds harsh, but her last message to you sounds like a total blow off. I don't care what she has "told" you, her words mean jack shyt, it is more than obvious by her actions (or NON-action) she is no longer interested, IF she ever was. You are being foolish. Gather your self-respect and just let it go. She's done. Edited May 4, 2015 by katiegrl
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 4, 2015 Posted May 4, 2015 how can i set it i dont know when she leavesw! should i just say "if you still have time, id like to see you before you leave" You already suggested one date to which she responded she'd already be gone. You have an idea of when she won't be around. Set the date for this Thursday or Friday night. The sooner the better. What is so hard about that? OP, why aren't you letting this go already? If she's moving away, why do you want to start something you probably can't finish? Are you hoping for a LDR or just hoping to get laid before she's gone? This seems like a hell of a lot of work for someone that appears to have moved on already.
Author UntitledNotepad Posted May 4, 2015 Author Posted May 4, 2015 shes going away for the summer... i was hoping on the second date to go for the kiss, but yeah i didnt think about during summer.
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