Broken-up and can not comprehend.

[Sourstar]

Hey people reading this, i was very tired and emotional writing this so i do apologize for grammar and spelling errors.

 

i was in a relationship and recently broke up. We where serious and had a long term relationship. Like all relationships we had fights but what ended us was not a fight.

 

So basically the weekend before we broke up she asked for a break but about 10 mins later called me up in tears saying she cant go through with it, which i found odd as she suggested doing so.

 

But anyway when she broke up with me she said to me "Lets be friends" then she carried on to say that she wants to start "fresh" with me and hopefully it will work out. The last part threw me off.

 

Later that night she told me that she didnt want to lose contact, wanted to go out on a date still. This also confused me. She then continued to say how she felt that we were not treating each other as partners. I understood why once she explained. She then went on to say that she felt like i was never happy when i was with her and seemed negative. I admit i was negative majority of the time but i was happy when i was with or talking to her.

 

Over the past 3 months i have been very unhappy and have been told by many people to see a professional for help. Only recently i have come terms with the fact i may be depressed, which is hard. But because of this my ex thought that i didn't love her much, didn't enjoy being with her and hence i was too negative.

 

Anyway, that seemed to be the reasons she gave me for the break up. But she has told me as i mentioned she wants to keep contact and see me still. On top of that when i asked her was there any chance of her wanting to work things out she said yeah (well not the word yeah but said she would). She said she loved me still and she cried as we broke up as she did it in person.( this part i don't understand as it confusing me).

 

She has said to me before when we had a bad patch that "if we broke up ,i would hope we would meet each other one day and get back together."

She also mentioned this (along those lines anyway), which made me think that there is a chance we could get together again.

 

And the main question which i have is that will we be able to sort things out with her like she made me thought or will we not??? Btw i have only asked about getting together once mainly because i wanted to find out why we broke up. i understand i should not try to win her back straight away if that ever happens. I just want things to go slow and steady.

 

I would do anything for this girl (my ex) and still do love her, i just want help to clear things up, as in will it work out or not for us.

 

What do you guys think?

Thanks.

[ravfour4]

It sounds like she cares about you, but was annoyed/frustrated by your depression. You said you'd do anything for her so go see a counselor or doctor, focus on yourself and maybe meet up with her in a few weeks. It may be the change she needed to fully be with you.