ms26 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I am currently dating this girl, we have been together for 5 months. I really dont feel like we have it feels like we are still on the first few dates. We only see eachother maybe 2 times a week. I guess I feel like im just an afterthought I have talked to her about this and assured me that she really likes me and cares about me. It just feels like at a 5 month mark we should be really close and wanting to see eachother more. She does seem really supportive but at the same time I dont feel like a priority. She doesnt invite me to meet her friends ive met her roommate and thats about it. I am really torn on what to do here it is causing me some emotional turmoil. When we are together its really great and we clique which is why its so hard to deal with this. Thanks in advance for any insight on what to do here. The last thing i want to do is end this relationship. But I am getting to that point.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 A few questions : 1) What's her schedule like day to day? - If she's legitimately busy with work and other commitments then 2x a week might be all she has time for. 2) Have you two discussed being exclusive? - At five months, you should be more sure of where you stand. 3) When making plans with her, is it always you, or does she give suggestions sometimes too? - I'm also curious if it's the same two days every week. If that's the case, you could easily bring up a third day in between.
neowulf Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I am currently dating this girl, we have been together for 5 months. I really dont feel like we have it feels like we are still on the first few dates. We only see eachother maybe 2 times a week. I guess I feel like im just an afterthought I have talked to her about this and assured me that she really likes me and cares about me. It just feels like at a 5 month mark we should be really close and wanting to see eachother more. She does seem really supportive but at the same time I dont feel like a priority. She doesnt invite me to meet her friends ive met her roommate and thats about it. I am really torn on what to do here it is causing me some emotional turmoil. When we are together its really great and we clique which is why its so hard to deal with this. Thanks in advance for any insight on what to do here. The last thing i want to do is end this relationship. But I am getting to that point. Sorry man, at 5 months, things should have been naturally progressing by now. The fact it's stalled suggests that maybe this is a strong as the feelings get for her. She's happy to have you on the side, but unable or unwilling to take the relationship to the next level. If you're not happy, talk with her about your expectations. If that gets you no where, then I guess it's time to move on.
sagetalk Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 She doesnt invite me to meet her friends ive met her roommate and thats about it. I am really torn on what to do here it is causing me some emotional turmoil. That sounds terrible, no wonder it is bothering you. Something is certainly wrong here. I do not have enough information to know what though.
Redhead14 Posted May 1, 2015 Posted May 1, 2015 I am currently dating this girl, we have been together for 5 months. I really dont feel like we have it feels like we are still on the first few dates. We only see eachother maybe 2 times a week. I guess I feel like im just an afterthought I have talked to her about this and assured me that she really likes me and cares about me. It just feels like at a 5 month mark we should be really close and wanting to see eachother more. She does seem really supportive but at the same time I dont feel like a priority. She doesnt invite me to meet her friends ive met her roommate and thats about it. I am really torn on what to do here it is causing me some emotional turmoil. When we are together its really great and we clique which is why its so hard to deal with this. Thanks in advance for any insight on what to do here. The last thing i want to do is end this relationship. But I am getting to that point. Have you two had any conversations about what it is you each are looking for out of your dating journeys? Were/are you on the same page about what you want for yourselves in the long run? Have you asked her to be your girlfriend yet? Until you have done that, she may be wondering about a lot of the same things. If you have asked her and she accepted, it may be time to open another casual conversation to take the temperature of the relationship. You can say something like "I am enjoying the time we spend together and respect our relationship. Is there anything that you feel we need to work on at this point? And then, let her talk. If she says she's happy with things, you can say, "I'd like it if we spent more time together and met each others families and friends". And invite her to meet yours.
smackie9 Posted May 1, 2015 Posted May 1, 2015 I dated someone like this.....I didn't tolerate passed the 3 week mark. I dumped him.
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