Calidude6 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 So I'm in the process of NC (almost a month of NC) with my ex of 2.5 years. It's been almost 3 months since we broke up and I can honestly say I'm doing better. However, I still feel like i didn't say everything I wanted to say or get answers I wanted. I occasionally go back to the last thing we said because she finally opened up a little after she broke up with me. Since none of you guys know the relationship, I want you to read in her words the last thing she said. Obviously it's going to be an assumption of what you think she's meaning in her words. I do feel like she's trying to leave the door open and by no means am I going to just sit here and wait. If we meet paths then great but this what she said and what do you think? Oh, btw, I do blame myself for not comprising and really listening to her when she says she told me how she felt. My mistake, I was just too comfortable and didn't think we break up cause of our bond. That's my mistake but this what she said: "I haven't been able to think of the right thing to say to you. Idk I tried multiple times in this relationship to tell u what was going on and how I was feeling before I made the decision to really end it and it didn't get better so I'm sorry. I will always remember our amazing memories and disney trips. Thank you for helping me conquer my fear. I'm glad you were able to have closure I know how important it is to have closure. You were a big part of my life and none of this was easy. You are an amazing person and such a great handsome man. Idk the future but I love you and I wish you nothing but happiness." To me, she's young and probably wants to experience the single life in her last semester at school and grow for herself and be happy. She's not interested in trying at the moment like she gave up on me and us. Then she wants to leave the door open in case she wants back. Idk, I've been trying to read between the lines.
Clarence_Boddicker Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I don't see an opening. IDK the future is not the same as my feelings towards you may change in the future.
Simon Phoenix Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 There's absolutely nothing there indicating that she's thinking of giving you a second chance. 1
Chi townD Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Dude, that message wasn't for you. It was for her. This was a way for her to ease her guilt for dumping you. Nothing more than that. Ignore it and move on. 2
lana-banana Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Allow me to translate: "You're a great guy, no really, you are, I'm glad you were part of my life OH GOD why is this so hard I just want it to be over, I'm so over this, I'm so over what we had, I can't wait to see what the future brings and I know it's not with you, oh god oh god please don't look at me that way, I hope you find a cute girl in a coffee shop or something, god damn it I'm going to keep saying words and really hope you don't hate me because I'm done here but I still feel kinda bad that you're so torn up about this, have a nice life, 'kay, bye." 1
SLee Posted May 1, 2015 Posted May 1, 2015 Sounds like she wants you on the back burner still. My ex is doing the same thing to me. The goal is to see right through that stuff because, to put it frankly, it's all meaningless garbage. I'm sure she's confused and hurting in some way. She might genuinely feel that way, but as with many young college aged people (my crowd) this happens all the time. They want to explore, but don't want to let go of something good in case things don't work out.
Author Calidude6 Posted May 1, 2015 Author Posted May 1, 2015 Sounds like she wants you on the back burner still. My ex is doing the same thing to me. The goal is to see right through that stuff because, to put it frankly, it's all meaningless garbage. I'm sure she's confused and hurting in some way. She might genuinely feel that way, but as with many young college aged people (my crowd) this happens all the time. They want to explore, but don't want to let go of something good in case things don't work out. I understand that and it sucks cause I'm older than her by 3 years and I'm out of that stage of exploring around. I found her and just wanted to work on us. It's fine, I'll be fine. She might realize one day or she might not.
Toodaloo Posted May 1, 2015 Posted May 1, 2015 Translates to; "Your a great guy but actually I want something different. It sucks that I am the one making this decision as I have been trying to hint about our differences and you didn't pick up on them. Good Luck and all that but I am off.." Move on. Listen a bit harder and question if you are not 100% clear on some things with the next one because she is telling you that this has been coming for a while. Don't worry - it happens - sod all you can do about it other than move on...
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