geo2083 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Hello to everyone I really need your help guys I had a relationship with my ex girlfriend for 3 years.. we had a long distance relationship for the first 9 months.. then she move on with her family to my country and they stay for 2 years we were madly in love with each other but I did some mistake in the relationship.. and we have a different goal life back then. Anyway we broke up and she live the country again with her family. We stay for a year talking about break up every month or 2 and then I decide to stop contact with her. It was 9 months since we stop talking and after I figure out that I was wrong about some things I decide to write her a email saying that I want to make it work if she is open to talk about it. She say yes and agree and then we start talking via whatsapp she ask me if I date someone I say no and I asked her too and she was honest she say that she is talking with someone now who live in my country and promise to see him in summer and she was thinking I moved on. I told her I can't talk to you knowing that you talk to someone else that you want to meet in summer. She say she like him and she feel alone and want to talk to someone and he was there for her and that she can't just stop talking to him and hurt him. She say she want to meet me first in summer and talk if things work good between us she will meet him too and talk with him about us. When we were talking in the first week we had sex phone and she sound like she is into me anyway I don't know what to do. I told her I can't talk to her while she is talking to other guy too. She say she can't just hurt him like that and he was there for her she need time until she come to the country and meet me in person. I don't know what to do really. Am I wrong because it has been 9 months and I show up and want her to stop talking to other person who was there for her? I hope I get some advice from you. Thank you
d0nnivain Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Even though you have history, yours was a dysfunctional relationship at best since it broke up. You can't expect her to drop the other guy but if that's what you expect & she doesn't / won't, you have your answer. It's rarely a good idea to go backwards in life. That is what you are trying to do here -- recreate a relationship that wasn't all that good in the 1st place. Let her go have a fresh start with this other guy. You find a more local woman & you start fresh too.
lolablue17 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Tell her that you thought about it, and you agree to wait while she's still talking to that guy. And BTW, you're going to start talking to other girls too, and to meet them for a date, in the summer, spring, or maybe next week. She will not agree of course. Tell her then that that's exactly how you feel.
Chi townD Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 When we were talking in the first week we had sex phone and she sound like she is into me anyway I don't know what to do. I told her I can't talk to her while she is talking to other guy too. She say she can't just hurt him like that and he was there for her she need time until she come to the country and meet me in person. But, she has no problem hurting you...what a hypocrite! Dude, she doesn't want to cut contact with him because she likes him and wants to see where it's going. But, if things don't work out with this new guy; well, she has you on stand by. HELLO Mr. Consolation Prize! Dude, if she can't let go of him, then you need to let go of her. It won't be any skin off her nose because she already let go of you.
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