Moley87 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Just would like some opinions Bumped into ex as we work together but has been two weeks since we spoke or saw each other (Full no contact FB etc.) in the lobby of our office She looked very awkward but didn't give eye contact or a smile so walked past her put my arm around her and joked and said "Smile" with that she gave a massive smile and a glance at me for a good few seconds before I went into lift. Hour later I emailed her in work and said that was awkward but was nice to see her - 10 mins later a reply where she agreed but also agreed was nice to see me and even got an x at the end lol Through the day we had a chain of emails but I finished the convo and haven't spoken to her since (2 days now) I've unblocked her on FB and she hasn't blocked me so that's a good sign but the question I would like some opinions on is as follow: I've made the initial contact to break the awkward silence but do I now follow up maybe a few weeks down the line or do I just wait on her ?
PegNosePete Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 What is your objective here? To get her back, or to heal yourself and move on?
Ruby65 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Yeah -- stop initiating contact. This is a series of unfortunate events that will only lead to you having false hopes. RE-block her on Facebook and leave her alone. IF she changes her mind about the breakup, she'll let you know. 1
Author Moley87 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 It's more a case of friendship I'm satisfied the relationship is over but I would like to keep in contact with her at least. What I don't want to do is initiate contact when it's one way traffic and her just being polite and responding when I contact. If she isn't interested then I accept to move on but I like to think she does want to keep in contact so Feel it's now up to her to make the next step to that friendship but I want to leave that opportunity open for her to do that?
hunk Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 You don't want a friendship with her man, it's been 2 weeks, come on:lmao::lmao: Stop contacting her, leave her alone, focus on yourself, be polite when you see her in the office but leave it at that. Just be your normal self around her with no expectations and carry on doing you. You're gonna get heartbroken all over again putting too much thought into this stuff. A friendship with her isn't gonna work because she's not going to give you what you need from such a relationship as she's detached from you and will just see attempts from you to maintain a "friendship" as you trying to get back with her. You gotta just back off and leave it. 1
Ruby65 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I don't think you're really interested in friendship, though -- which is why it's not in your best interest to continue contact with her. True friendship isn't possible until the romantic feelings you have for her are gone. Do you really want to leave the door open for friendship? Are you really ready to hear her talk to you about other guys? Best to walk away and give yourself space to heal. The more available you are to her, the harder this will be. If she ever changes her mind about a romantic relationship, she'll let you know. You don't need to be Facebook friends for that to happen.
Author Moley87 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 Okey dokey , I'll continue with focusing on me Thank you all. 1
DJOkawari Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 The above posters are just trying to keep you safe. Just consider what could happen if you two were friends. Most people here would find a lot of those possible experiences painful. Someone is going to move on, you guys are definitely going to talk about the past, etc. It's possible you're ready, but you'll also be ready later - there is no point in rushing anything. 2
Author Moley87 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 Thank you DJ Yeah I think we are strong enough characters to stay in contact and be civil but yes I think there is a lot of unknowns between us with what each of us will do however I do feel it's maybe more who is more attached at present so wise words from all posters. Ex is part of a very big mutual work friend list so will be impossible to not here how she is doing and she is trying to emigrate but on a career break so very good chance next year she may be right back on my door step lol. I am happy to leave the door open for her to contact me but I think reading and thinking about it I'll now leave that to her, I wont ignore her but I wont pursue the friendship either , with time we will see I guess.
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