Chr15 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I've been talking to this guy for a while (2 months). We talk nearly every day, although if a day or two goes by without contact that's fine - we both have other things on. We had been messaging as usual last week, saying we should meet up soon. Didn't text a whole lot for a few days and when we did on Friday it was only very brief. I knew he was busy at work so fine. I then didn't contact him over the weekend, as I knew there was a family anniversary. He has never told me about this, but I knew from posts on his facebook. I figured he probably needed some space and time with his family. I sent him a text then Monday evening, and got no reply until this morning (Thursday) apologising that he hadn't seen it til now. He definitely saw the text - there is no way that he couldn't have seen it and the notification, but if he just told me needed some space that would have been fine. Also, he has been pretty full on but then suddenly doesn't want to text me for 6 days? Even if he hadn't seen the text he obviously didn't think to get in contact with me. Am I being too harsh on him? I'm thinking now that I've had a few days to re-assess the whole thing (i.e. not be so into him) that I could always text him back and see if he follows through with arranging a date soon? Or should I just not bother?
PegNosePete Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 CALL him and ask if he wants to meet for a drink this weekend. What do you have to lose? What's the worst that could happen?
katiegrl Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 CALL him and ask if he wants to meet for a drink this weekend. What do you have to lose? What's the worst that could happen? I dunno, I wouldn't bother. It's pretty clear he's just interested, otherwise he would have asked YOU to meet, and would NOT have ignored you for six days. Plus, if YOU ask him out now, the message that sends him is - the LESS attention I give her, the MORE interested she will become. NOT a good message to send BEFORE even meeting. Just move on. 1
katiegrl Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I dunno, I wouldn't bother. It's pretty clear he's just interested, otherwise he would have asked YOU to meet, and would NOT have ignored you for six days. Plus, if YOU ask him out now, the message that sends him is - the LESS attention I give her, the MORE interested she will become. NOT a good message to send BEFORE even meeting. Just move on. ^^Second paragraph - ....he's just *not* interested...
Gary S Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 How did you find this guy, did you start talking on a dating site or Spacebook? Have you met him ever?
Mrin Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 2 months of contact without meeting is 2 long. He met someone else and is more interested in her. She's real. You're not. Move along.
Author Chr15 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 How did you find this guy, did you start talking on a dating site or Spacebook? Have you met him ever? I actually met him at a speed dating event. We had both gone with friends just for a laugh. I really don't think he's met someone else - (but of course I can't be sure) I think it's either that's he's just not that interested or needed some space with all the family stuff going on. I'm trying to go by my gut and I do think he likes me. We haven't met up for a number of reasons. We don't live near each other although he has just moved closer to where I live. He has also had to work a few weekends and has been sick. We were just talking about meeting up before he stopped texting
PegNosePete Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I actually met him at a speed dating event. How ironic
katiegrl Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I actually met him at a speed dating event. We had both gone with friends just for a laugh. I really don't think he's met someone else - (but of course I can't be sure) I think it's either that's he's just not that interested or needed some space with all the family stuff going on. **I'm trying to go by my gut and I do think he likes me.** We haven't met up for a number of reasons. We don't live near each other although he has just moved closer to where I live. He has also had to work a few weekends and has been sick. We were just talking about meeting up before he stopped texting Be careful you're not projecting. His actions just don't jive with a man who is interested, family obligations or no family obligations. They just don't, sorry.
mammasita Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 You're just pen pals, a space filler....an ego boost. If he were interested, you would have gone out MULTIPLE TIMES after speed dating.
Gary S Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 If he does not ask you out within a week, either he does not know what to do, or is not interested. You can ask out if you want, but when you stick your neck out, you risk rejection.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I've had a few days to re-assess the whole thing (i.e. not be so into him) that I could always text him back and see if he follows through with arranging a date soon? Or should I just not bother? Well considering he is still a complete stranger that you haven't met yet, you shouldn't be "into him" at all. Realistically, if he was going to ask you out, he would have done it by now.
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