Nelsonfloyd5 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Hey everyone! Has anyone been able to fall back in love with another partner? If so, share your story! Did it seem impossible at the beginning of a break-up but then you found someone new who is better and are able to love again?
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Yes. I was married for 20 years and became single again at 40. I hoped I would find love again but wasn't entirely convinced since dating at this age was infinitely more challenging. Despite having been the one to end my marriage, I was heart broken and even jaded about being truly worthy of love like what I saw in movies or witnessed other people having. Eventually, I found the courage and started dating again and learned how to navigate and play the "game". Most importantly, I learned a great deal of things about myself. Thankfully I did end up meeting a magnificent man who brought me back to life in more ways than one. He literally has fulfilled every ache and every desire and every hope I ever had about what love is supposed to look like and fee like. My ex husband and my current partner are similar in some way yet so different in the most important ways. I'm grateful for not only having found love again but an even greater love. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I never felt like I would never find love again, so personally I don't know why people feel this way or why they are surprised when they find it eventually again. What I've worried about at times, was whether I would find someone that I would love more than I already have...but again, you always do. The feelings inside of you change and manifest, so even if you resist it...eventually you find someone again to love again...unless you're just choosing to be with someone you don't really love as to not be alone. I think love is something that is always potentially around the corner, but it's up to you to be open to it when you feel it...and at some point, especially with women, they will get those overwhelming feelings again...might not be the next guy, or the next 3 guys after that, but it'll happen at some point, it's inevitable. No matter how jaded, bitter and disappointed you become in life, everything can change in a moment...and usually it's unexpectedly and a surprise. 3
Timshel Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Ninja, whether I could love someone more than I already have? Yet to be answered for me but lust, lust is fine just fine. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Ninja, whether I could love someone more than I already have? Yet to be answered for me but lust, lust is fine just fine. Nothing wrong with lust...it can feel a lot like love, without the expectations or the big let down.
Timshel Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Bingo. ^^ All for true love, for everything there is a season.
preraph Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I've come to realize that the love we feel comes from within. We give it to other people. Sometimes they reciprocate and sometimes they don't. Sometimes they abuse it. I went right from a miserable unrequited love situation to a new love. The first one had issues I didn't understand. I know he cared about me because he wouldn't ever go away, but when cornered he'd say the equivalent of I wasn't his type or something. The truth was he had impotence problems and was more successful with girls he didn't care about because it was lower stress, lower risk. I didn't know all that at the time, but I met someone else long after I knew I had to move on and he was nice and everything and I just gathered all that pent up love I hadn't been able to properly share and gave it to him for as long as he could stand the heat. We take that love with us when we go.
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