mehim Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 what do u guys think about this "men fall in love faster and easier than women do." there is actually some research that has been done and these are the results, it doesn't mean that it applies to everyone, but the majority.
sami Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Men usually mistake infatuation for love. What they really fall in is infatuation not love.
HotCaliGirl Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 In my opinion, women fall in love a lot faster, especially once they have sex with a man. They end up chasing and obsessing over the guy while the guy is secretly checking his cell phone to see if he has any messages with any of the other girls he's got going on the side.
alphamale Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by HotCaliGirl They end up chasing and obsessing over the guy while the guy is secretly checking his cell phone to see if he has any messages with any of the other girls he's got going on the side. so true, H.C.G.
j10 Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 [color=green]I think women fall in love faster but men fall in love harder. [/color]
westernxer Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Does it really matter who falls in love easier? Some studies are a waste of time (and tax dollars).
Tony T Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 It really depends on the person and their state of mind at any give time. I don't think there's any particular rule on this. Both men and women fall in love at various speeds at various times. And who's to tell exactly what day and time the event occurs. Let well enough alone.
j10 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 [color=green][/color]I'm just speaking from personal experience. I have a restraining order on my ex and he was already married. My husband has never truly gotten over me...we were high school sweet hearts. I seem to be the one who always leaves. Maybe its me that gives up too fast or out of love too fast but men don't let go. It seems to me that women have a sense of helplessness when men leave us. Men on the other hand have their manhood to prove or not lose.
Author mehim Posted April 21, 2005 Author Posted April 21, 2005 ok guys most of you were right, here is what i found out from a college text book, it says that - men hold a more romantic view of male-female relations. - they fall in love earlier in a relationship. - men cling more to a dying love affair. - men are three times as many as women to commit suicide after a disastrous love affair. info from the book "Understanding Human Sexuality" so u dont think im blabbing about nothing, lol.
followingthru Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 i dunno. i think it definitely depends on the guy - and how interested he is in having a relationship and how he feels about love in general. i'm a female in my mid twenties and i have had 3 guys tell me that they were in love with me. i have never told anyone i was in love with them, and i think i may have been in love once, but it's hard for me to be sure, b/c in that relationship everything happened very quickly and we lived far apart most of the time, so it was like a vacation whenever we were together... i dunno, i think generalizations like "who falls in love faster" are pretty worthless anyway.
HotCaliGirl Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 - men hold a more romantic view of male-female relations. - they fall in love earlier in a relationship. - men cling more to a dying love affair. - men are three times as many as women to commit suicide after a disastrous love affair. I would bet my house that the above is incorrect and all of the above applies to women. If people are reading that book "Understanding Human Sexuality", no wonder so many people don't understand sexuality if wrong info like that are out there. I thought you were being sarcastic mehim when you said it was in a college textbook until you cited the source!
alphamale Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by HotCaliGirl I would bet my house that the above is incorrect and all of the above applies to women. I agree HCG. If people are reading that book "Understanding Human Sexuality", no wonder so many people don't understand sexuality if wrong info like that are out there. That book was probably written in 1873 HCG. It is in its 45th printing. Required reading at the Vatican.
Author mehim Posted April 21, 2005 Author Posted April 21, 2005 the book is a very new edition, and its an up to date book. its actually a very good book, very easy to read, and helpfull, thats my opnion.
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by mehim the book is a very new edition, and its an up to date book. its actually a very good book, very easy to read, and helpfull, thats my opnion. Don't worry - the progress of science has always been resisted by flat-earthers
Lil Honey Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 I think that SOME men fall in love faster, because they miss having a cook, a maid and a laundress - and/or because they can't be alone with themselves. SOME other men can't allow feelings of love, because they have been hurt, can't get over it and apply that experience to other people. Then there are other guys that do fall in love . . . I agree that's it a matter of each individual person and his/her experiences.
HotCaliGirl Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 alphamale wrote:That book was probably written in 1873 HCG. It is in its 45th printing. Required reading at the Vatican Come to think of it, I saw one of the cardinals holding a copy of that book in his hand on the balcony after that smoke cermony the other day. I think there was a little boy hidden in his cloack too.
CurlyIam Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Ouch, Caligirl!!! I think women definately fall inlove faster and I've yet to meet the girl that falls inlove faster than I... my sister maybe, LOL! On the other hand, I do believe that when they do, men fall a lot harder! Some men, at least. They may be occasioanlly checking out the scenary, but they DON'T leave. However, women do leave relationship, eventually, but way faster than their male counterparts... At least that's what I've seen around me!
Author mehim Posted April 21, 2005 Author Posted April 21, 2005 I agree with the idea that men don't let go as fast, and they hold on to past love, I don't think that they really fall in love faster than woman, to me it really doesn't matter who falls in love first, its definitely up to the individual. I just posted this to see what other people would think of it, cuz I thought it was an interesting piece of information.
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Originally posted by mehim I just posted this to see what other people would think of it, cuz I thought it was an interesting piece of information. And you were right. Any more interesting tidbits for us?
Author mehim Posted April 24, 2005 Author Posted April 24, 2005 I'll see what I can find, I personally loved the book, its so educational, i'm gonna have to skim through it again, and see what else they say.
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by mehim info from the book "Understanding Human Sexuality" so u dont think im blabbing about nothing, lol. All those books are highly commercial and have no scientific proofs. In fact, you can write whatever you want and claim you thoroughly researched the lives of a million people before you derived the conclusions. If the publisher thinks they can make money on your book, they will publish it, unless it's against the law. Once you figure out how show-business and commercial publishing works, you will have much less respect for art and literature. Most books you can find in the market written by shrinks have no value whatsoever.
XNemesisX Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Yeah we talked about this in one of my classes. Supposedly men are thought to fall in love faster because it's usually the man who decides who he is going to pursue, chase. The woman waits for the offers from these men and then decides if she returns those feelings. The man recognizes his attraction to the woman faster since he is the one usually initiating a courtship.
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