Superman2024 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I recently matched with a cute 23 year old girl on Tinder who on paper was just what I look for in someone. We messaged and sent texts back and forth for a week. She was always very responsive and usually replied immediately. It was more flirty and fun than usual (a lot of her messages had "lol" in it) and we were sending each other pictures, which she initiated. A couple days in I asked if she'd like to talk on the phone and she basically didn't want to (said texts were easier). After another couple of days I said I thought we should get together when I get back from vacation (I matched with her the day I left) and she just continued her reply with something else. Later on I made another hint about getting together and again she pretty much ignored it. I guess these were red flags but I was really enjoying chatting with her. Seven days into my vacation I was leaving for a cruise so I told her I wouldn't have a cell signal for a couple of days. I sent her a text when I got back and she read it but didn't respond. I logged into Tinder and she unmatched us. I tried to call her yesterday but just got voice mail. I sent one more text saying that I'd like treat her to dinner Friday and no response. Today I noticed she blocked me on Facebook, even though we weren't friends or communicated on there! I'm finding an incredible amount of flakiness with girls in their early twenties, but this one surprised me since we hit it off so well. I'm wondering if she's crazy or much younger than she said. Why do girls act like this?
CarrieT Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Why do girls act like this? It isn't just girls. Guys do the same thing. And - seriously - it is Tinder! That isn't a site to meet real people; it *is* a site for playing around and flakiness. Get off Tinder and meet girls IN REAL LIFE. 1
h0000 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Guys act like this as well. PEOPLE act like this. Not to mention its internet, people are 100 times more flaky. There is really nothing much to read. She is a stranger she can do whatever to you. Actually I find it odd you would call it "great connection" when you never even met her. Just chalk it all up to your inexperience.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Lol, you guys didn't have a great connection you didn't even meet Girls on free dating sites / tinder are notorious for being flakey, just gotta get used to that fact. 2
fitnessfan365 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Lol, you guys didn't have a great connection you didn't even meet Girls on free dating sites / tinder are notorious for being flakey, just gotta get used to that fact. SO TRUE! I'll never understand how people can claim to have a connection with a stranger they've only texted with. Texting is an illusion. If a girl won't talk on the phone, don't waste your time. You want a woman that can actually have a conversation. If she's too afraid to talk on the phone, in person won't be much better. 1
Author Superman2024 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 I'm actually pretty new at Tinder so I'm still getting used to the craziness. Correction, it was a great connection compared to my other OLD communications (bar is pretty low, haha).
ExpatInItaly Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 It's Tinder. Notorious for hook-ups. Try not to treat it as a dating site. She's probably found another guy she matched better with. Or re-connected with an ex or something. In the future - When a girl doesn't respond to your suggestion to meet, do not continue to pursue her, call her, ask her out. You'll ruin any future chances of a connection and put her right off. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 It's Tinder. Notorious for hook-ups. Try not to treat it as a dating site. She's probably found another guy she matched better with. Or re-connected with an ex or something. In the future - When a girl doesn't respond to your suggestion to meet, do not continue to pursue her, call her, ask her out. You'll ruin any future chances of a connection and put her right off. Definitely true. Although it's funny. I had a good first date recently with a woman that started out that way. We exchanged one email a piece to start. Then on my second email to her, I ended it asking for her number. She responded and ignored my number request. So I deleted her. Later that night, she sent me a completely separate email with her number and answering my original question of when a good time to call was. Sometimes when you wait it out a bit and show a woman you won't desperately chase her, it yields a good result.
Larry56 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 If a woman is not compliant and doing things for you early on (like giving you number, more pictures that show she isn't humongous) her interest level is medium to low. So I'd give her a little bit more time to give it to me (one more day of convo) and then say Seeya! Then set up a date. Sometimes, even on paper - when you both have a lot in common - a girl is not really looking for same thing as you. Not every woman is looking for a relationship, or a hot guy, or a tall guy, or a sensitive guy. A lot of girls have been with hot guys who messed them around, so they start shopping round for a sensitive guy. Etc.
hppr Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I recently matched with a cute 23 year old girl on Tinder who on paper was just what I look for in someone. We messaged and sent texts back and forth for a week. She was always very responsive and usually replied immediately. It was more flirty and fun than usual (a lot of her messages had "lol" in it) and we were sending each other pictures, which she initiated. A couple days in I asked if she'd like to talk on the phone and she basically didn't want to (said texts were easier). After another couple of days I said I thought we should get together when I get back from vacation (I matched with her the day I left) and she just continued her reply with something else. Later on I made another hint about getting together and again she pretty much ignored it. I guess these were red flags but I was really enjoying chatting with her. Seven days into my vacation I was leaving for a cruise so I told her I wouldn't have a cell signal for a couple of days. I sent her a text when I got back and she read it but didn't respond. I logged into Tinder and she unmatched us. I tried to call her yesterday but just got voice mail. I sent one more text saying that I'd like treat her to dinner Friday and no response. Today I noticed she blocked me on Facebook, even though we weren't friends or communicated on there! I'm finding an incredible amount of flakiness with girls in their early twenties, but this one surprised me since we hit it off so well. I'm wondering if she's crazy or much younger than she said. Why do girls act like this? Tinder is for the impulsive girls and while she liked your pic one day within a few days some other guy will have messaged her and there went your chance. In the future tell them to meet up as soon as possible, if they refuse move on. You can keep them on there and text every now and then but if she isn't over at your place after a week or two she is most likely not into you.
Redhead14 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I recently matched with a cute 23 year old girl on Tinder who on paper was just what I look for in someone. We messaged and sent texts back and forth for a week. She was always very responsive and usually replied immediately. It was more flirty and fun than usual (a lot of her messages had "lol" in it) and we were sending each other pictures, which she initiated. A couple days in I asked if she'd like to talk on the phone and she basically didn't want to (said texts were easier). After another couple of days I said I thought we should get together when I get back from vacation (I matched with her the day I left) and she just continued her reply with something else. Later on I made another hint about getting together and again she pretty much ignored it. I guess these were red flags but I was really enjoying chatting with her. Seven days into my vacation I was leaving for a cruise so I told her I wouldn't have a cell signal for a couple of days. I sent her a text when I got back and she read it but didn't respond. I logged into Tinder and she unmatched us. I tried to call her yesterday but just got voice mail. I sent one more text saying that I'd like treat her to dinner Friday and no response. Today I noticed she blocked me on Facebook, even though we weren't friends or communicated on there! I'm finding an incredible amount of flakiness with girls in their early twenties, but this one surprised me since we hit it off so well. I'm wondering if she's crazy or much younger than she said. Why do girls act like this? Connection implies a cynergistic exchange. Sometimes only one of them feels connected She wasn't. And, you cannot tell if there is a "connection" unless you meet them.
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