Bobbi7 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Like lets say-you meet someone at a coffee shop, meetup event, etc, etc. Its a causal meeting-you talk, get to know them a little bit, possibly become friends. Nothing happens the first few times, no numbers exchanged, but then as time goes on-you realize you like them/could see yourself dating them, then things turn romantic. Things are going at a slow pace. Is there such a thing? Or does asking someone out on a date the first time that person catches an eye for you-kind of like being aggressive about it?
todreaminblue Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 I feel it comes down to the type of person you are....i prefer progressively getting to know someone through friendship all my relationships have been this way...over months....years sometimes....i am normally a cautious person.....its why i dont jump into relationships...i have to know the person and their heart....in saying that few guys ...have me want to jump straight away....in fact only one...and it felt awkward......because i told him straight up....dont know why i deviated.....took me by surprise.....i dont normally ask a guy out.....the connection i felt wasnt reciprocated i guess if i felt strongly like i did before i would ask again....has to be a certain feeling i get though...a pull...a connection.....but next time hopefully that connection i feel will be reciprocated..... i wont date a guy i dont feel some thing deeper for.....i would prefer my future relationship be the last one i have...for that reason...i will be careful......on who i choose to spend the rest of my intimate life with. every one has their own way of approach and how they like to manage and navigate dating relationships or forming them...i think people should follow their heart and not follow rules made by others.........deb
Gary S Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Usually relationships start when one asks the other out and you eventually kiss for the first time. That said, people who never go on a date can have a crush for a long time. Friends turning into lovers does happen, but it's a 100 to 1 shot, the odds are bad. 1
Gottabestrong Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Like lets say-you meet someone at a coffee shop, meetup event, etc, etc. Its a causal meeting-you talk, get to know them a little bit, possibly become friends. Nothing happens the first few times, no numbers exchanged, but then as time goes on-you realize you like them/could see yourself dating them, then things turn romantic. Things are going at a slow pace. Is there such a thing? Yup, happened to me in the past. Met a guy at a meetup group and we did not exchange numbers or talk at all outside of the meetup events, but one day he gave me a ride home after a meeting, asked for my number and if I wanted to go see this band play, I said yes and it went from there.
Vercetti Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Sure if forthright ask them out quick with romantic intentions transparent. No if become friends then try to morph the relationship after the fact.
Kamila Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Oh yes it can. My best relationship which lasted 2 years was a friendship that formed during 2 years. We were just schoolmates which a course put us together in a group. We grew to each other through assignments, eating lunch, just hanging out.... And after 2 years we became so close we couldn't let go of each other. One day we went to the city to grab a coffee. Nothing date like, it just happened naturally. After the coffee, he wanted to hug me, like saying he missed me already. We chatted online a couple of days later. And then it hit me like a brick wall. I couldn't think straight afterwards. Meh. When people break up, they usually give the sad excuse of 'We moved too fast...' Did you ever hear people say 'We went too slow ?' Going slow is the best, you create tension, true intimacy, true love ...
fitnessfan365 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Oh yes it can. My best relationship which lasted 2 years was a friendship that formed during 2 years. We were just schoolmates which a course put us together in a group. We grew to each other through assignments, eating lunch, just hanging out.... And after 2 years we became so close we couldn't let go of each other. One day we went to the city to grab a coffee. Nothing date like, it just happened naturally. After the coffee, he wanted to hug me, like saying he missed me already. We chatted online a couple of days later. And then it hit me like a brick wall. I couldn't think straight afterwards. Meh. When people break up, they usually give the sad excuse of 'We moved too fast...' Did you ever hear people say 'We went too slow ?' Going slow is the best, you create tension, true intimacy, true love ... I liked this story a lot actually. But notice how you're referring to a past relationship? The fact that you two broke up shows that just because you take your time and have building blocks, it doesn't guarantee anything. Just like having sex early on doesn't mean that it will only be physically based. After all, there are plenty of couples that had sex on the first date that wind up married. So in the end there is no magic formula. It all just comes down to both people and how they make it work.
smackie9 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Slow pace never worked for me, it usually turned out to be just emotional attachment, no sexual attraction... for me attraction has to be like popcorn going off in a microwave bam!
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