confusedmandi Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 So I'm recently divorced and fairly new to dating. Strange to me is I have had to tell multiple guys I don't have sex on the first date because they all come on so strong! Anyways was seeing one guy for two months and not sure what is going on with him so I'm keeping my options open. Met a guy on Facebook and he's my age and we have alot in common. He seems fun and nice and we have been talking for two weeks. Weird thing is we have never spoke on the phone but he texts me constantly. First it was getting to know u stuff but for the last week he texts me when he gets to work when he takes lunch when he takes a shower when he does anything or goes anywhere he tells me!! Now my ex and I did this to an extent but not after only two weeks. What is up with this guy
preraph Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 He sounds terribly needy. How would you like to marry him and then have to account for every minute of your time that you were out of his sight? 2
Satu Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 He sounds like someone who lacks the confidence necessary for mutually fulfilling interaction. The texts are his training wheels. 1
Gaeta Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 He likes texting that's all lol. My god, it's not because someone enjoys texting that he has some type of emotional dependency. Everyone has different style. I have a friend like this, he texts me from morning to night. If I don't feel like text conversation I just go about my day and reply at night. He knows it means I am busy. 1
Price2Play Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Ugh yeah I dealt with this a couple months ago, for about a week or so. She was a tad bit on the needy side. Sorry sweetheart but I have job, I can't be texting all day! I think she was fresh out of a RS so she was use to it. Too much for me & not going to be your rebound.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Haha.. That's funny. But just promise that you'll call it quits when he starts describing his bowel movements. It's funny that you say you met him on FB though. People have a tendency to post non stop about basic daily activities that no one needs to know about. I guess now he at least has someone to talk to about it..LOL
clia Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 You said you met him on Facebook...have you met him in person yet? If not, you better nip this in the bud right now. He may just want an online relationship and texting you all day long gives him something to do.
preraph Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 He likes texting that's all lol. My god, it's not because someone enjoys texting that he has some type of emotional dependency. Everyone has different style. I have a friend like this, he texts me from morning to night. If I don't feel like text conversation I just go about my day and reply at night. He knows it means I am busy. I agree if you're young and not working and having responsibilities, but Gaeta, if you're an adult, you shouldn't be wasting time like that that you could be using to be more productive or improve yourself. People who are diligent at their work and are ambitious and really striving to improve their station do not have time for constant texting.
Author confusedmandi Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 We r sup to meet next week. He doesn't post much on fb. I never thought about being a rebound and him used to texting because he was in a relationship. It's not just that he texts alot it's the topic. I gave to hear about what he's having for dinner, where he's shopping at, that he's leaving work. Then he tells me when Hes home when he gets in the shower then several times he's text to say he's done showering lol. And if I ignore him for awhile he asks what I'm doing or what I'm thinking. Weird to me cuz the guy I've been sleeping with doesn't text half that much! He might say I'm at the store do u need anything or I'm stuck in traffic but he doesn't tell me when he gets home and I don't expect him to. Just worried I'd I meet this guy he's going to be a clinger
fitnessfan365 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I'll always prefer a 5-10 min phone call over texting. I get to hear her voice, hear her laugh, and once you hang up, the conversation is over. Since there's no dial tone with texting, people feel the need to keep sending them on and on and on and on. BTW - Gaeta, I think the OP is complaining more about the lack of substance in the texts. He is sending her random updates about his daily activities all day long. I mean think about it, would you really need a guy you're dating sending you a text just to say he's getting in the shower?
Wisecrack Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Sorry was trying to post a thread haha Maybe he hangs around those younger because at our age, we generation text more than call
Author confusedmandi Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 Fitnessfan365 yes u r right. It's strange that he feels the need to update some one he has never met about every single thing he does. We are not dating so I don't need to know when he leaves work gets home takes a shower etc. If he tells me when he takes a crap I'm running away and changing my number
fitnessfan365 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Fitnessfan365 yes u r right. It's strange that he feels the need to update some one he has never met about every single thing he does. We are not dating so I don't need to know when he leaves work gets home takes a shower etc. If he tells me when he takes a crap I'm running away and changing my number Even if you were dating, you still wouldn't need to know that crap. Some things are better left unsaid. 1
katiegrl Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 (edited) Fitnessfan365 yes u r right. It's strange that he feels the need to update some one he has never met about every single thing he does. We are not dating so I don't need to know when he leaves work gets home takes a shower etc. If he tells me when he takes a crap I'm running away and changing my number Even if you were dating, you still wouldn't need to know that crap. Some things are better left unsaid. Nice play on words.... Edited April 30, 2015 by katiegrl 1
mortensorchid Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 He sounds needy. Ask him to back off on the texting due to your data limits. He should respect that.
Gaeta Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Maybe his ex-girlfriend wanted him to report to her on his every move.
Toodaloo Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Just talk to him. The chap I am meeting on Saturday texts constantly. I just talked to him about it last night and today its much more reasonable... He is fine, I am fine. I did point out that he seems to be rushing and we haven't even met yet... I think that slowed him down too.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 We r sup to meet next week. He doesn't post much on fb. I never thought about being a rebound and him used to texting because he was in a relationship. It's not just that he texts alot it's the topic. I gave to hear about what he's having for dinner, where he's shopping at, that he's leaving work. Then he tells me when Hes home when he gets in the shower then several times he's text to say he's done showering lol. And if I ignore him for awhile he asks what I'm doing or what I'm thinking. Weird to me cuz the guy I've been sleeping with doesn't text half that much! He might say I'm at the store do u need anything or I'm stuck in traffic but he doesn't tell me when he gets home and I don't expect him to. Just worried I'd I meet this guy he's going to be a clinger Um.....texting about every little thing he does is just too much....and it should signal a Red Flag with you. Texting you 'good morning', texting you 'hope you're having a chill eve' and texting you 'good night' is one thing and it's quite normal. But I mean, holy hell! Texting you about every insignificant life event and trivial action he does is REALLY weird; and it seems like he's glomming onto you because, to him, it feels like he's in a relationship again. If I were you, I'd text him and tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable that he texts you so often and that you're too busy to keep on reading all of his texts and responding to each and every one of them. If he seems insulted by this or if he doesn't stop with the incessant texting, I'd dump him or just go radio silent. Sometimes, even when you're direct with a person, they just don't get that memo. .
PegNosePete Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I have had to tell multiple guys I don't have sex on the first date Well if you have to say that, then I think you need to stop talking to these guys. They are obviously just after 1 thing. Next! Texting in the shower isn't good for the phone. Galaxy S5, waterproof
joseb Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Well if you have to say that, then I think you need to stop talking to these guys. They are obviously just after 1 thing. Next! Galaxy S5, waterproof Perhaps an obsessive texter could feature in the next Samsung ad
Redhead14 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 So I'm recently divorced and fairly new to dating. Strange to me is I have had to tell multiple guys I don't have sex on the first date because they all come on so strong! Anyways was seeing one guy for two months and not sure what is going on with him so I'm keeping my options open. Met a guy on Facebook and he's my age and we have alot in common. He seems fun and nice and we have been talking for two weeks. Weird thing is we have never spoke on the phone but he texts me constantly. First it was getting to know u stuff but for the last week he texts me when he gets to work when he takes lunch when he takes a shower when he does anything or goes anywhere he tells me!! Now my ex and I did this to an extent but not after only two weeks. What is up with this guy He's over anxious and kinda clueless about how to handle the early stages of dating or trying to date a new person from OLD. Until he actually calls you and has a couple of conversations, keep him at bay. Simply tell him that you're busy and can't text as often as he does but you'd welcome a call from him to talk at some point. Sometimes guys just want a texting buddy. It's an ego boost and makes them feel connected on some level because they are bored or lonely, whatever. Sometimes they don't really intend to meet anyone. Until they actually call you and ask for a meeting, they don't exist in my book. FB/text is OK as just an introduction, but it does not replace phone conversations leading up to a meet up. If you do decide to meet him in person, it should just be a couple of drinks somewhere or coffee. It's not necessarily a date. It's just to see if the person is who they say they are, look like their picture and come across as the person they seem to be via FB/text whatever. 1
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