LoveinNEB Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Hi everybody i have a scenerio for you that has just gone down this last week and wanted some input (even though i think i know what's going on: Last saturday my friends and i headed downtown and bar hopped for awhile, it was a real fun time and then it happened. We wandered into this bar called Iguana's. I was instantly attracted to our server, (gorgeous girl w/ beautiful blonde hair) anyways, i flirt w/ her awhile and find out she has just broken up with this jerk (her words, not mine)... so, i make my move. I man up and ask her for her number and she tells me to hold on and she come to the table in a second. About 5 minutes later, she comes over and writes her name and number down and tells me to call anytime. So i leave the bar pumped up.... Today comes (i wanted to wait 2-3 days and not look too desperate ) and give her a call. She proceeds to tell me that right now her life is insanely busy w/ finals coming up and her work... me, being the upfront guy i am, ask her why she gave me her number then. She told me it was a good question and that she really was interested in me but she wanted to wait until her life calmed down a little bit. Now i'm pretty sure i know what's going on but i wanted to run it by you guys to see what you thought. 1) Her ex was in the bar when she gave me her number Did she just give me the number to make him jealous? 2) Or do you think she really is busy and wants to wait to see if her and this ex thing is truly over/ finals coming up.... Now i realize the only way i'm going to find out is if she calls or not...but in similar situations what has happened to you? I know this is all individual basis, but i guess i just want to know whether i should hold my breath or not. before i got off the phone i told her i didn't really know where to go from here, but she had my number and if she ever wanted to go out to give me a call. then i text messaged her that if she ever wanted to just talk to not be afraid and give me a call. That about sums up the entire situation.... what is with men and women these days? Can't we just be up front with each other and find out what's going on ? lol all insight would be appreciated....
Marshbear Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 I would give her one more call to make sure she is not just busy, as she says, and if you get another excuse forget her. She was just playing with you and had no intension of seeing you.
Author LoveinNEB Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 well how long do you think i should wait... and the last time i talked to her i did tell her that i didn't know where to go from here and that she should give me a call.... but i suppose it couldn't hurt to call her in a few days just to see what's up....
MadDog Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by LoveinNEB well how long do you think i should wait... and the last time i talked to her i did tell her that i didn't know where to go from here and that she should give me a call.... but i suppose it couldn't hurt to call her in a few days just to see what's up.... How about in another month or so when school's out for the summer? I don't see how her life's going to be any different (with work and school) in a few days. In the meanwhile, find some other girls you can hang out with.
Author LoveinNEB Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 yea, you're probably right about the month thing. I believe she told me in around 2 1/2 weeks things would be easing up so...but she has another thing coming if she thinks i'm just going to *wait around for her* (which i'm sure she doesn't think, atleast i hope not ) I don't know.... i guess i just don't get it sometimes. I believe i'm a fairly attracted guy but when i find a girl i'm really interested into it just don't always seem to work
laRubiaBonita Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 why not try hanging our at her bar a ew more times...show her yiur interest, and remind her of who yu are.
Author LoveinNEB Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 Didn't i show her i was interested by asking for her number and then calling?
chancecookie Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Let it go. She's trying to politely turn you down. It may have been a show for the ex or she may have been interested in you but, she's obviously changed her mind. You may run into her again you may not. Either way, there's more than one cute blonde out there.
alphamale Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by LoveinNEB i flirt w/ her awhile and find out she has just broken up with this jerk (her words, not mine)... this means she is still attached to her b/f, LOVEINNEB. It should also tell u she likes jerks She proceeds to tell me that right now her life is insanely busy w/ finals coming up and her work... this is a blow off Did she just give me the number to make him jealous? Yes Now i realize the only way i'm going to find out is if she calls or not Bad move, now u sit and wait for her. And u will wait loooooong time! before i got off the phone i told her i didn't really know where to go from here, but she had my number and if she ever wanted to go out to give me a call. Another bad move, u show lack of confidence here. you should have told her you would contact her in a month or two. then i text messaged her that if she ever wanted to just talk to not be afraid and give me a call. Exteremely bad move....now you tell her you will settle for just "friends". .... what is with men and women these days? Can't we just be up front with each other and find out what's going on No we can't. You must play the game if you want to win (the prize is pussy)
Author LoveinNEB Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 Alphamale: Why do you think the text msg was a bad idea? Ofcourse i'm okay with being friends (that was kind of the point)... i guess i feel like in the phone convo i rushed too much and just asked her out w/o getting to know her a little bit. (i think we talked a total of two minutes ) Just out of curiosity... have you guys noticed a difference if that first phone call is longer in length or not? I guess i had in my mind that i wanted to save the interesting conversation for the 1st date, but maybe she felt uncomfortable automatically going out w/ some guy she barely even knows? Ladies, is this ever a factor? btw, just for info, i'm just taking this experience w/ a grain of salt. I realize she isn't interested but i'd like to correct my mistakes for the next time something goes on No we can't. You must play the game if you want to win (the prize is pussy) Tell me more about the game ... i guess i have a lot to learn. And who better to learn from than an alpha male right? (btw, i'm not being sarcastic) Any thoughts would be appreciated.
HoldOn Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 I am just writing to agree with Alpha that text messages are bad moves. Hate them!
alphamale Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by LoveinNEB Alphamale: Why do you think the text msg was a bad idea? Ofcourse i'm okay with being friends (that was kind of the point)... why would you settle for "friends"? If you give off this impression that is what you'll get! i guess i feel like in the phone convo i rushed too much and just asked her out w/o getting to know her a little bit. (i think we talked a total of two minutes ) so what, LOVEINNEB??? If she liked you and was available she would have said yes. Problem is that she is still attached to her guy. but maybe she felt uncomfortable automatically going out w/ some guy she barely even knows? Ladies, is this ever a factor? incorrect assumption, see my answer above. Tell me more about the game ... i guess i have a lot to learn. And who better to learn from than an alpha male right? (btw, i'm not being sarcastic) this would take me months of writing novels to you which I don't have time for. just keep on playing the game and asking women out and dating them. you will figure it out and get better as time goes by. just the fact that you are not shy and take chances and ask girls out is a very good sign. good luck my man.
bebegal Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 if a girl is interested in a guy... she is never to busy to go out on a date with him. #1-- it sounds like she already had an answer for you before you called(that she was not interested) if the conversation only lasted 2 minutes. She didnt even give you a chance to get to know you. Honestly-it was nice she even picked up the phone and told you nicely she was not interested as if it were me youd be talking to me voice mail )sorry #2--if she was interested she would have even give you an hour to meet for coffee just to make sure she wouldnt loose you (if she is that busy) we can all sqeeze in an hour to have a nice relzxing cup of coffee wiht someone where interested in--especially if we are havinga lot of stress in our lives or are busy--ig gives oyu a chance to get your mind of things. plus she would make sure that you had plans for when her life calmed down. #3-- you said she is beautiful---dont you think she gets hit on all the time by men in the bar..? she can have her pick and usually women who can have their pick of men like A**holes. go find a nice girl who you deserve and deserves you. Once you have to start figuring out a girl--- you can figure its no good
alphamale Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by bebegal go find a nice girl who you deserve and deserves you. nice girls are boring as all f***. i avoid them like the plague.
bebegal Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 alpha- that is why you are going to grow old alone
alphamale Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by bebegal alpha- that is why you are going to grow old alone i'd rather grow old alone any day than be stuck with some boring emotionless librarian who wears sensible shoes and doesn't drink alcohol.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by LoveinNEB Didn't i show her i was interested by asking for her number and then calling? yes, but by going again, instead of iunwanted calling and texting is better. basically she said she was busy, and NOT to call for a month. so DO NOT CALL.
HoldOn Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale i'd rather grow old alone any day than be stuck with some boring emotionless librarian who wears sensible shoes and doesn't drink alcohol. Madonna/whore syndrome?
Author LoveinNEB Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 How about a nice combo of beautiful and nice? Where o where can she be?
HoldOn Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by LoveinNEB How about a nice combo of beautiful and nice? Where o where can she be? Are you responding to me? I am not sure. But Alpha obviously suffers from Madonna/whore syndrome. Where he sees all women as either being Moral and uptight OR fun and loose. In reality the woman in your life can be moral and fun and sexy at the same time.
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