sharp9 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Had a date with this girl last night. It wen't very well, great conversation and made out for a while. I get up today and she has deleted here OLD dating account and sending me heart emoji texts. She is really cool and I'm into her but it's only been one date. So what do you think?
Gaeta Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 It means nothing at all. After meeting a bunch dead-end she probably told herself she would meet you then delete her profile and if it doesn't work she would take a break. I deleted my profile after a bunch of 1st date. I was fed up with the online, I kept a few contacts and continued from there. You may not be the only one she send little smiles lol 2
Redhead14 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Had a date with this girl last night. It wen't very well, great conversation and made out for a while. I get up today and she has deleted here OLD dating account and sending me heart emoji texts. She is really cool and I'm into her but it's only been one date. So what do you think? Be wary. She's latching on to you too quickly. Date her and space out the dates. Do not become intimate with her quickly either. She may be into instant relationships.
GTR King Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Be careful she deleted her profile as she thought the date went really well & think she will see more of u. she just rush anything & see where things go
Gaeta Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 C'mon people, I bet she is working more than one prospect even if she deleted her profile. 1
Author sharp9 Posted April 29, 2015 Author Posted April 29, 2015 C'mon people, I bet she is working more than one prospect even if she deleted her profile. Actually she isn't. She mentioned that she only likes to date one person at a time. The potential issue is that I'm currently seeing someone else as well (not serious), but I didn't mention that to her because it was the first date. We have a second date on Saturday.
Gaeta Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Do your thing and let it unfold as it should. You like her then you date her, you don't than you stop. She has not done anything wrong as of yet. 3
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 DON'T tell her that you know that she deleted her OLD profile and just go with the flow of this. If she shows any other signs of clinginess, being needy or glomming onto you in a relatively short period of time, then you need to react to this accordingly. If you're into women who stick to you like velcro, then go with it - however, if you DON'T like it when a woman is THAT into you so quickly, then you need to TELL HER that you don't like to take things at that speed. Just be honest with her from the get-go. The way she responds to your declarations of honesty will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know as far as whether you should go forward with her or whether to end things. Just trust your instincts, it's usually always right. . 1
katiegrl Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 >> It means nothing at all. >> Be wary. ---------------------------- Gotta love this board. :) :) 1
KatZee Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 If any of my past dates were to have LS accounts, they'd probably be making this same thread. "OMG went on one date with this chick and she deleted her account!" Me doing that had absolutely nothing to do with the dudes, or the dates. I was just sick of OLD. I told myself I had one more person to go on a date with left and then I was deleting my account. 2
katiegrl Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 (edited) If any of my past dates were to have LS accounts, they'd probably be making this same thread. "OMG went on one date with this chick and she deleted her account!" Me doing that had absolutely nothing to do with the dudes, or the dates. I was just sick of OLD. I told myself I had one more person to go on a date with left and then I was deleting my account. Sounds like you deleted it cause you were frustrated and weren't clicking with anyone. Which is certainly understandable. OLD get "old" after awhile, when nothing pans out. However, this girl apparently DID click with someone...the OP! So it's a bit different, or so it would appear. And then all the texts with the little heart emojis? No, she didn't delete out of frustration or cause she's tired of OLD. Sounds like she's got it bad for you OP. I agree with whomever said, if it continues, talk to her. Tell her you prefer to take things slow. Edited April 30, 2015 by katiegrl
joseb Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 If I had to hazard a guess, I'd say that this one is a stage 9 clinger. But it's just a guess, neither I (nor you) have enough info yet to make the call. Give it a chance.
joseb Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 . If she shows any other signs of clinginess, being needy or glomming onto you in a relatively short period of time, then you need to react to this accordingly. . I learn a new term here most days
Ann253 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Ive inactivate my OLD profile after a first meet before. Not even deleting it, just hiding it. I did it because I felt enough of a connection I wanted to see where things led. I'm not into multi dating. I told the other guys I was talking to that I wanted to see where thing led with this guy and turned my profile off. It is not hard to turn it on again if things don't work out. Don't freak out unless she starts acting clingy. Although you should tell her you are talking to other people, especially since she told you how she felt about multi dating. 2
Author sharp9 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 Ive inactivate my OLD profile after a first meet before. Not even deleting it, just hiding it. I did it because I felt enough of a connection I wanted to see where things led. I'm not into multi dating. I told the other guys I was talking to that I wanted to see where thing led with this guy and turned my profile off. It is not hard to turn it on again if things don't work out. Don't freak out unless she starts acting clingy. Although you should tell her you are talking to other people, especially since she told you how she felt about multi dating. Well I'm not just seeing other people. I have a FWB with someone right now. I have a date with this new girl on Saturday so should I just tell her I'm seeing someone else casually right now and should I also fill her in that it's a sexual relationship?
Toodaloo Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 C'mon people, I bet she is working more than one prospect even if she deleted her profile. Erm when I deactivated (so it looks deleted) I had 5 possibles, 3 of whom I spoke about on here. Its up again but I am not checking it regularly and still getting loads of messages that I just can't respond to and don't have time to respond to. I am thinking about deactivating again soon. Simply because I can't keep up. My No 2 (who I should re-name No 1 as he is the one I am most interested in) I deactivated before we agreed to go out on a date and it remained so for the first 2 weeks of us starting to date... I reactivated it, within 4 hours already was talking to 3 more good prospects and had many "lets have a shag" type messages... I don't like doing this multiple dating thing. It feels wrong to me. So rather than be rude to good people that I would like to meet and give others a chance I deactivate and try to concentrate on one or two at a time. I really want it to get down to just the one. Aka my No 2... So no. She may not be being clingy... She may just need a break from it for a while. If I were you I would grab hold and get in there quick. If she is anything like me she will be pragmatic and move on fast if you don't.
guest569 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Well I'm not just seeing other people. I have a FWB with someone right now. I have a date with this new girl on Saturday so should I just tell her I'm seeing someone else casually right now and should I also fill her in that it's a sexual relationship? This is a bit tricky. I wouldn't think much about her deleting her profile, but the heart icons in the messages is a bit serious in my view. You don't want to lead her on if she's that keen, but at the same time, as you say, it's been one date. However it depends how close you are and how comfortable you are, how quickly things are progressing. I think you should be up front about the fact you're dating others, but wouldn't go into the sexual aspect unless she asks. She would probably assume as much anyway. Also, how keen on her are YOU? It's probably too early to consider exclusivity i guess.
veggirl Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 I don't think there is anything wrong with deleting her account. She likes you and wants to focus on that, she can easily re-activate it if things don't work out. The heart emojis after ONE DATE? Clingy. Jumps into things. Not a good sign, I'd be careful not to ignore other red flags. The WORST people to date are those who are head over heels after a date, go hard and then bail after a couple months. I'd be mindful of that.
LookAtThisPOst Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Had a date with this girl last night. It wen't very well, great conversation and made out for a while. I get up today and she has deleted here OLD dating account and sending me heart emoji texts. She is really cool and I'm into her but it's only been one date. So what do you think? Probably means she has a man.
Author sharp9 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 I don't think there is anything wrong with deleting her account. She likes you and wants to focus on that, she can easily re-activate it if things don't work out. The heart emojis after ONE DATE? Clingy. Jumps into things. Not a good sign, I'd be careful not to ignore other red flags. The WORST people to date are those who are head over heels after a date, go hard and then bail after a couple months. I'd be mindful of that. Well I probably didn't help things in terms of making her clingy. Had a pretty heavy makeout/groping session for about ten minutes at the end of the date. What can I say, if a woman is receptive I ain't shy.
Toodaloo Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Well I probably didn't help things in terms of making her clingy. Had a pretty heavy makeout/groping session for about ten minutes at the end of the date. What can I say, if a woman is receptive I ain't shy. Just see how you go. But I think you need to be careful about how many women you are seeing if you have a FWB and heavy make out sessions... Its gonna bite you in the backside at some point...
BlueIvy Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 It doesn't necessarily mean she's clingy. For her it could be her thinking this aka you is her last try at online dating. Also, you said she likes to date one man at a time but she could be talking and flirting with other men. Obviously, if she shows other signs you probably want to evaluate if you wanna keep dating her.
BlueIvy Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 Well I'm not just seeing other people. I have a FWB with someone right now. I have a date with this new girl on Saturday so should I just tell her I'm seeing someone else casually right now and should I also fill her in that it's a sexual relationship? If you actually like her and she likes you, why would you tell her you're having sex with another woman? If a man told me on this on the first few dates, I would delete his number. It tells me you aren't looking for anything serious. A woman ok with this either doesn't think highly of herself or just wants sex herself. Just say you are saying other people and what your intentions is. Be upfront about what you want or don't want.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 RED ALERT RED ALERT Stage 5 CLINGER. Take cover!!! The thing to beware of is when they can fall in love that quick they can fall out of love that quick too. There are numerous possibilities. Including that she is just sending those to everyone she dated this week.
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