TheOneWhoKnows Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 (edited) Very quick history: Me and my ex were together for just over a year, and it was the happiest year of my life so far. She broke up with me, and I didn't talk to her for months. I also have to add that I still think she's a great girl, and I have nothing against her at all. So, today I stumbled upon her. However, she acted very quietly and nervous. This seemed very odd to me, as she used to be very energetic when we were together, and I'm just not sure if she was nervous because of me, or because she has simply changed. By nervous I mean quiet, faint smiles and incomplete and very short sentences. Like, after every sentence I said, she replied: "That's great" and smiled just a little, but it seemed forced. I used to be able to figure out her emotions by just looking at her body language, but this just seemed to strange to me, and I have no idea what it means. tl;dr I stumbled upon my ex girlfriend. I tried to act very kindly to her, as I still think she's a great girl. However, she acted very nervously, and I don't know what to make of it. Edited April 29, 2015 by TheOneWhoKnows
Chi townD Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Maybe she was supposed to meet up with someone and she was awkward and short answers to get you to move on before this person shows up and then things would have gotten REALLY awkward. Just a thought.
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 She probably didn't want to cause you more pain. Nobody is their best self in an awkward situation.
xinaxxsdertf Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 maybe she was nervous about what you think of her. mightve been awkward for her since she dumped you so she wasnt sure how you were gonna act. sounds like guilt mightve hit her a little. its too brief though so hard to interpret. could be looked at in a million different ways. i wouldnt think too much of it though. 1
Author TheOneWhoKnows Posted April 29, 2015 Author Posted April 29, 2015 Maybe she was supposed to meet up with someone and she was awkward and short answers to get you to move on before this person shows up and then things would have gotten REALLY awkward. Just a thought. I have to add that we met at a food store. She left together with me, and we also took the bus together. We talked together for 30-45 minutes, which makes me doubt that she was supposed to meet someone. She probably didn't want to cause you more pain. Nobody is their best self in an awkward situation. maybe she was nervous about what you think of her. mightve been awkward for her since she dumped you so she wasnt sure how you were gonna act. sounds like guilt mightve hit her a little. its too brief though so hard to interpret. could be looked at in a million different ways. i wouldnt think too much of it though. Would it be a good idea to ask her how she feels about me, months after the breakup? I have no intentions of getting together with her again, but it annoys me that I don't know her and her thoughts about me anymore. We had been good friends for 10 years before our relationship, and I don't want to ruin that friendship.
Stercrazy Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 I think she was just being polite. Nothing more nothing less. Probably neverous because she broke off the relationship.
Chi townD Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 I have to add that we met at a food store. She left together with me, and we also took the bus together. We talked together for 30-45 minutes, which makes me doubt that she was supposed to meet someone. Okay, well....you didn't say THAT! CONTEXT DUDE!!! LOL!
Moley87 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Personally (especially as I'm going through it as we speak) I think there is generally some care for you there , however she will of course be feeling anxious and possible even scared to how you may react if you haven't spoken for such a long time. Personally you say you have no intention of getting back with her so take some comfort that she did actually spend time with you, show a lot in my opinion and respect. Sometimes these situations are just awkward and people act awkwardly however she could of blanked you or said I'm not interested Again going through it as I speak I went no contact on the ex due to her moving to Oz and it's literally only been 6 weeks and because we work together we will naturally come across each other. It happened the other day and she didn't give eye contact or try to speak with me , so as the situation was awkward the right think is to respect the situation and I put my arm over her whilst walking past and said smile it's just life. She turned to me and one huge smile from her, resulted in us now doing very limited email chatting. Not saying she cares or wants anything more then that but I would say she still cares for you in some way and just wanted to respect you but prob was very awkward for her. Sometimes it's just nice to know she is still around and if you have no intention of getting back maybe you can see that as a door to maybe getting back in contact or closure that things are finally all ok Hope that helps
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 No it wouldn't be a good idea to ask her how she feels about you. You would be putting her on the spot. Also even though you were friends for 10 years before you dated, once you dated & broke up at best you are somebody she used to know but there isn't more to this. It's over. Leave it be. Asking questions will only cause more hurt. 1
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