bigsrve1aj Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Casually dated girl for a short time, 3 months. After she decided not to want to be in a relationship, I cut contact w/ her on social media and deleted her from facebook. After the end of relationship, she stated she would like to be friends for now and hopefully we can talk. She found out I deleted her from FB and asks why did I delete her, thought we were on good terms. Do/Should I explain my reasons? I prefer not to have online contact w/ someone I was interested in before. Link to post Share on other sites
Mjm1014 Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Deleting wasn't a bad move. Some might see it as game playing, but I don't think many would. Do what you need to do to move on. I dated a girl 3 months recently and deleted her when she wouldn't make this official. Cut contact since...incase you're wondering, it did nothing in terms of her chasing me again...haven't talked since Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 I prefer not to have online contact w/ someone I was interested in before. Just tell her this. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Self preservation. It's easy for HER to tell you she wants to continue being friends and maintain contact via social media because she's the one that ended things. It's always best to do what feel right for YOU and if deleting her is what felt right then so be it. Just be honest with her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Tell her it makes it easier for you to move on. I stayed FB friends with a guy I dated for a while last year. Honestly, I had to hide him from my feed for a bit because it was too painful to look at—and we only dated like six weeks! He eventually, after I met my now-BF, unfriended me. I figured it was because he didn't want to see photos of me and my new BF, so I get it. Tell your ex that you can still be on good terms, just not on social media. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
soyou Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 I do this many times. I dont feel that I own anyone any explanation. Its "my" social media. I have the right to add/delete whoever I want to. It's up to you if you want to explain this to her. But I tend to ignore this question because the next thing you know you're in a conversation with her again and all of your moving-on progress will flip back to zero. Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 I prefer not to have online contact w/ someone I was interested in before. Stick to your guns, you are smart - why give someone the chance to reject you again? Ignore, block, and delete. He who rejects feels better about the whole deal - she's trying to weasel her way back into your life on some small level so she does not feel rejected. When the love plane is going down, there is a only one parachute. Link to post Share on other sites
cessna Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 People are too hung up on social media these days. Like others have said it's your Facebook, add and delete whoever you please. When my ex of three years broke up with me I deleted her from Facebook shortly after. I explained why and she completely understood. There was no malice in what I did it was just painful for me to keep having reminders of her. Even after I deleted her I still found myself looking at her profile and making myself upset. I've since totally deleted my account and haven't looked back. As useful as Facebook can be sometimes I think it would be great if it disappeared altogether. Link to post Share on other sites
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