where do i stand with her?

[redman8789]

I have been on 2 dates with this girl. Shes 21 and I'm 26. She just got out of a 3.5 year relationship about 6 months ago. I also got out of a relationship. She made it clear on our first date that she isn;t looking for commitment right now and just seeing what's out there and to be honest I am to.

 

I do like her though so far. I could for sure see myself dating her

 

I don't know if shes talking to other guys though she said she is.

 

I went to her house Sunday and she made me dinner and made leftover for my job. Our texting isn't every day but it's usually 50/50 on who texts first. Sometimes she will text first, sometimes me.

 

I'm seeing her again tomorrow

 

How should I handle this? She's not looking for commitment right now so I don't wanna push the subject and come off as clingy but I don't wanna miss out on a chance to

 

She has said "I just wanna make sure you know i'm not looking for commitment right now but am talking to other people"

 

She has said that I'm cute, great in bed and have a great sense of humor. She has talked about us seeing each other in the future

 

So tips? ideas?

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Whats your physical contact like? Hug? Kiss? Make out? Sex?

 

not enough details

[preraph]

I bet she's probably just now seeing what all is out there with online dating, so she doesn't want to stop that every time she dates someone. But it probably won't last forever, because you know how quickly most people become disgusted with OLD! So just chill and enjoy the time together and just realize she's seeing other people. And you should too but don't throw it in her face.

[redman8789]

Whats your physical contact like? Hug? Kiss? Make out? Sex?

 

not enough details

 

we had sex on second date. we hug when we say bye. i kissed her when i sai dbye

[fitnessfan365]

" She made it clear on our first date that she isn;t looking for commitment right now and just seeing what's out there and to be honest I am too."

 

** This is you deluding yourself

 

"How should I handle this? She's not looking for commitment right now so I don't wanna push the subject and come off as clingy but I don't wanna miss out on a chance to"

 

** This is you being honest

 

You obviously like the girl and are trying to play it cool for her sake. If you can stay emotionally calm, keep planning dates, and having great sex without being needy, she may change her mind in 2-3 months. But the real question is, are you going to be able to be patient? I mean you're already considering talking about commitment after two dates. The main thing you have to keep telling yourself is "Let her get there when she's ready".

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Well if she had sex with you OP, she at least likes you on a physical level.

 

Could be a lot worse.

[alexwood]

Keep doing what your doing

[Redhead14]

I have been on 2 dates with this girl. Shes 21 and I'm 26. She just got out of a 3.5 year relationship about 6 months ago. I also got out of a relationship. She made it clear on our first date that she isn;t looking for commitment right now and just seeing what's out there and to be honest I am to.

 

I do like her though so far. I could for sure see myself dating her

 

I don't know if shes talking to other guys though she said she is.

 

I went to her house Sunday and she made me dinner and made leftover for my job. Our texting isn't every day but it's usually 50/50 on who texts first. Sometimes she will text first, sometimes me.

 

I'm seeing her again tomorrow

 

How should I handle this? She's not looking for commitment right now so I don't wanna push the subject and come off as clingy but I don't wanna miss out on a chance to

 

She has said "I just wanna make sure you know i'm not looking for commitment right now but am talking to other people"

 

She has said that I'm cute, great in bed and have a great sense of humor. She has talked about us seeing each other in the future

 

So tips? ideas?

 

It is too soon to be asking "where do we stand" especially since she's basically already told you where you stand. She wants to date you, she's doesn't want to talk about or think about whether you will be her boyfriend or not and she is still talking to other people and evaluating other prospects. That's pretty clear.

 

Leave it alone. Date her, relax, and take it one date at a time. How would she know if she wants a committed relationship with you or anyone after only two dates. If she were wanting that with you at this point, I'd be suspicious about that.

[Gary S]

You don't have a relationship for two months. Until then, anything can happen.

Edited April 29, 2015 by Gary S