georgiapeach86 Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 Hello all, If anyone could provide insight into this situation, it would be much appreciated, as it is making me feel kind of awful. I will try to be brief. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He and I (female) are both in our late 20s, and we dated for almost two years. He got to a period of time where he was very stressed due to some family issues and work, seemed to go rather crazy, and decided to dump me in the process, all while making up what seemed like a bunch of flimsy excuses (at least to me). These were that he wanted to be alone, concentrate on his career, didn't want and couldn't handle a serious relationship right now, etc. Since the breakup, I have had no contact with him, but we live in a very, very small town where everyone knows everyone. My friends have now seen him out and about with a girl who hit on him during our relationship. While I feel he has every right to go do whatever he wants now since he is not with me, the thing that bothers me is that he was out with this girl one month after breaking it off with me (seems like a quick transition to me, although I guess it happens) and this girl is the complete and total opposite of me in every single way. It is also well known (and I mean REALLY well known) in our town that this girl is very promiscuous, is into partying hard, has had many, many partners, and is also bisexual and has had female partners, including one serious female partner. He and I even saw her with this female partner at one point. She is very open about all of this in our community, so people know about it. My ex-boyfriend is very anti-gay/lesbian, so I am totally confused about why he would want to be with someone like this. Also, he was always praising me on my "good girl" qualities, and he has many friends who are like me (not into partying, kind of serious, and not into sleeping around, which is also what he is like). He does not like people like her, as far as I saw while I was with him. I cannot figure out why he would want to be with this kind of girl. Please note that I am not anti-gay/lesbian, and I have nothing against this girl's lifestyle, I'm just trying to figure it out from the perspective of my ex-boyfriend. Can anyone shed some light on what might be happening here? I am just scratching my head over it and feeling hurt by this. I can't understand it well, and I really don't relish the idea of possibly seeing them around again. Thank you.
jen1447 Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 She may have swept him off his feet. People who live those kinds of lifestyles can be a rush to be around, and if he lacked the fortitude to be his own man in the face of having the carrot dangled in front of him, she could easily snatch him up and make him go back on his biases.
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