Jamie12345 Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 Hi all. Me and my girlfriend had been together for just over a year when things started to become a bit boring. About a month before the break, I had become heavily consumed with university and she had began working a full-time job working 5 days per week and we were finding it hard to make time to do things together and see each other, with the time we spent together both being exhausted and just sitting in the house. Anyway, at the beginning of the week on the Monday evening she rang me saying maybe it would be a good idea to have some space until the weekend so we could have some time to think and see if we missed each other. I took the news badly over the phone saying to her I could do better and deserved better than how she was treating me. I eventually cooled off and apologized and gave her the space she needed. We weren't speaking much during this period and on Wednesday evening, her friend told me at work that we were both single. I thought we were having a bit of time apart so naturally I took the news badly. I created an account on a dating website and uploaded a photo of me out with a girl on the Friday evening which my girlfriend saw both (her friend sent her the links to both). I admit this behavior is extremely immature but at the time I was blinded by being upset and angry at her rejecting me. She texted me saying drop my stuff off at my parents house in the morning, so on the Saturday I did. It turns out on the Saturday, we both slept with someone else. We hadn't really spoke and the miss-communication from both sides led to this. She said she felt angry and upset at the things I had done, and slept with a guy from work to try and get over me because she thought I had moved on. I slept with a girl I met because I thought she too had moved on. Sunday evening, we ran into each other unexpectedly at a bar. We spoke outside for 30 minutes telling each other we loved each other and missed what we had, and agreed to try and patch things up. After I left the bar, she went out and 2 hours later, took a guy back to her house for sex who she met whilst drinking. We have been back together for about 3 weeks and have been amazing and suddenly, the sleeping with people has finally been revealed through friends of hers. She claims the second guy was because she thought at the time I wouldn't forgive her for what she had done, and she was upset that the relationship would never get back on track so tried to move on and get over me. She swears she is extremely sorry and is doing everything she can to make it upto me. The first guy I can understand because I was being awful to her, but the second guy makes me wonder whether she really cared about me at all? I'm heartbroken by hearing this because I thought we had sorted things out on the night we saw each other, only for her to sleep with someone 2 hours later. Any advice would be great.
Satu Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 If you really do love someone, you don't go and sleep with somebody else. Love 101, page 1, paragraph 1, line 1.
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