brokeNlost Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 Back story: exgf of 4 years left me for another guy. It messed me up really bad. I felt like I was the guy she was using until she could find somebody better. When we broke up she blame me for everything (even for cheating on me). Its been over 1.5 years later since then. I got my life back on track. Graduated school and just started a great job. My last contact with her was 3 months ago when I told her we shouldn't contact each other anymore and she agreed. Now fast forward last week I reactivate my FB and got a friend request from her. Why is she trying to reconnect with me when she clearly agree to stop all contacts? BTW I found out through a mutual friend that she have broken up with that guy she left me for and is currently in a new relationship.
embeu Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 She wants her ego stroked. Do not accept it, not after how she treated you. If she wanted you back she would have said so straight up. 2
Ruby65 Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 She left you for another guy after four years together?? Who cares why she's trying to friend you! Probably just to make herself feel less guilty, now that she's been dumped and knows how it feels. BLOCK HER. If she's ever got anything important to say, make her come out and say it -- and make her work for it. A friend request is the easiest most non-commital type of contact.... really just a click of a button. Do you really want to give her access back into your world that easily? Do you really want to be her "friend"? 1
d0nnivain Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 In her mind she's done with you & wants to be your friend or she wants to use you for the ego boost. Either way, you can't accept. Click ignore & move on. Her request has little to do with you & everything to do with her. 1
TunaCat Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 It doesn't matter why she's doing it. Delete the request & move on.
TashaTudor Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 It's possible you are dealing with a narcissist. These people tend to recycle people they have "burned bridges" with. It's called hoovering. When a source of attention dries up (like her recent break up) they recycle old sources, like you. All of a sudden they will contact you to try to have somebody, anybody to help fill the void. Best way to deal with that type is to disappear. No contact. Period.
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