DarkNoel Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 So I texted with this girl back and forth 4 or 5 times before I suggested meeting up in person a couple of days ago. She seemed really excited and said she "would love to meet up". I asked her when she was free in the next few days, and she said she would have to get back to me on her weekday schedule because she is swamped with work. But she did say she could do next weekend if that works for me. I proposed Saturday afternoon, and she said she's free before 4 pm on Saturday, which is all fine and dandy. She said either coffee or drinks would be fine, but she wasn't sure if I'd prefer meeting in my town or a town nearby. I said there isn't too much around where I live, so I said I prefer meeting her at her town (10 minutes away). I also said coffee sounds great and asked her if she knew any places around her town. I also asked if meeting at 2 pm would work for her. And then... radio silence. No response for 48 hours. She usually takes a couple of hours to respond, which is reasonable. But now I'm kinda worried that she lost interest. I'm not sure if I'm lying to myself and thinking she must be busy, but it only takes a minute to fire off a message back to the other person, right? I also think I screwed up a tad. I proposed a time, but I should have also proposed a place, like "how about we meet at X in your town at 2 pm?" That would have made it easier on her to accept. I'm also wondering if she is turned off or too lazy to suggest a location. As a guy, I probably should have taken the lead. What should I do now? Has enough time passed for it to be okay to message her again? I want to give her some space and not appear clingy. Thanks. Any thoughts?
PegNosePete Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 I would send her a reminder, it's possible she didn't get your last text. Sometimes texts go missing, they are not a reliable form of communication. I would give her a CALL instead. And don't worry about "messing up". If she really did want to meet you then she wouldn't really care whether you suggested a place or not. If that's enough to put her off then her interest level must be really low anyway so no loss. 1
Author DarkNoel Posted April 28, 2015 Author Posted April 28, 2015 I guess I'm worried that I was too wishy-washy before and putting the onus on her. Maybe she hasn't responded because she hasn't been able to come up with a spot either. Or she thinks it's easier to go out with other guys that actually suggest a time and location... Or maybe she just forgot. I guess I'll try again with: "How about X coffee shop at Y time on Saturday? I was thinking we can grab coffee and then walk around on the pier. The weather should be gorgeous!"
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 This has happened to me a couple times on Match, I'd get a girls number, we start setting plans up, and then POOF! I just take it as they lost interest, or someone they liked better came along.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 This has happened to me a couple times on Match, I'd get a girls number, we start setting plans up, and then POOF! I just take it as they lost interest, or someone they liked better came along. Or as a thread I posted yesterday revealed 22% of people on such sites admit having no interest in meeting anyone and 30% never actually have met with anyone. OLD is a fun flirty ego boost. For every relationship started there are hundreds of abortive attempts.
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