nzchick Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Okay I havent posted for a while coz I've been busy with my social life lately! Hehe! Here's whats happening. I really like this guy and we hooked up like 2 days ago. We made out and he even asked me out to be his gf, but I said no coz I dont know him that well. We saw each other yesterday and I cant understand why but yeah he made out with me again but he doesnt seem like he's so into me when his friends are around. Though when they tease him, he smiles and he says.. yeah i really like joanne aye. Stuff like that. So it's all good except that he always leaves me alone with my friends and doesnt stay to hang out with me as if he doesnt wana spend time with me. He keeps sending mixed signals. One is that he really likes me, and the other is that he's just doing it coz his friends are teasing him. We went to pick a pizza up and we kissed in the car and all but he seems a bit shy.. its funny coz he's soooo confident around his friends. He's like this bad boy kind of guy but around me hes not! I duno is that a good sign? And when we're not together he doesnt message me on my mobile or even tries to contact me.. its like he just talks to me when im there but he's not looking for me otherwise. He told me last night .. ey joanne text me tomorrow okay? im like why me? and he said oh coz i dont have credits on my cellphone and i said.. then theres no point if i textd you coz u wudnt reply anyway coz u dont have credits! im soo confused. Is this guy into me or not??
laRubiaBonita Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 i would dare to say yes, but you are not into him yet, and he knows it.
alphamale Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by nzchick I really like this guy and we hooked up like 2 days ago. wow, a whole 48 hours? gosh
Author nzchick Posted April 19, 2005 Author Posted April 19, 2005 heheheh its just that he's sooo cute and everything. and now im really into him.. how do i let him know??
Author nzchick Posted April 19, 2005 Author Posted April 19, 2005 I dont want him to know that I'm SOOO into him to the point that his friends will think I'm disgusting.. I just want him to know that, yes he can ask me out and i might say yes kind of thing! i dont want him to lose interest coz I really really like him.. so I want to keep him hooked up!!!! Theres this party this coming friday and he might meet other girls.. but ilbe there.. but yeah he might not hook up with me coz he'd rather hang out with the boys than stay with me somewhere private.. lol i think he's uncomfortable.. so am i!! but i dont care i really really like him! we're so uncomfortable around each other.. i dont understand why!!!!!
sleeplessincnd Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 If he was really into you he would call you and persue you - sorry to break it to you but men are just that simple. My boyfriend calls me about 5 times a day without me having to do anything - he wants me and so he works hard to get me. Men like the challenge of picking up a girl and they like winning at that challenge. If he was really into you he would show you and all his friends. Don't waste your time - at most he wants sex - and that is not cool!
Author nzchick Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by sleeplessincnd If he was really into you he would call you and persue you - sorry to break it to you but men are just that simple. My boyfriend calls me about 5 times a day without me having to do anything - he wants me and so he works hard to get me. Men like the challenge of picking up a girl and they like winning at that challenge. If he was really into you he would show you and all his friends. Don't waste your time - at most he wants sex - and that is not cool! All of my past bf's were like that.. but they were really shy at first as well... I dont know if this situation is different coz we just met like a week ago and made out 2 days ago.. but u got a point.. he might just want sex. he shows it alot around his friends though.. hes just really shy coz hes the bad boy type.. he wants to be macho all the time.. lol
whichwayisup Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 He sounds like he likes you, but is SHY around you because he likes ya. Don't take it all so personally. I bet he's just feeling as you are and not sure how to approach it either. DO you know if he's had other girlfriends? Maybe he's just not as experienced and is self conscious of that. He asked you to text IM him and he gave his reasons why. Don't go looking for reasons!! You're thinking about it too much! Relax, enjoy his company, go with the flow. Tell him ya like him and make sure none of his buddies are around. Some guys tense up and act odd around their guy friends because they get picked on!! Don't worry, and try to think more positively! HE DOES LIKE you. Give it some time. Don't rush. 2 days is really not long at all. In 2 weeks if you're still singing this tune, then it's time to talk about it! Good luck and keep us posted eh!!
followingthru Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 i think that it is really wierd for him to act like he likes you more in front of his friends than when they aren't around. but i think the best thing to do is ask him out yourself - why wait for him to ask you? then you can spend time with him alone - but don't just hang out and watch a movie so you can make out or something, go somewhere - dinner, movie, coffee or drinks (but don't get drunk) where you can talk and get to know him - the movie with drinks or coffee after would give you something low-pressure to talk about. anyway, it's too soon for you to know anything yet. but if he doesn't think you are that into him, then he isn't going to go out on a limb for someone he doesn't know you very well. someone said something about their boyfriend calling them 5 times a day - and that just isn't going to happen right away. it would be hella creepy if it did!
Author nzchick Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 Omg thanks a lot you guys.. and as usual you guys are right!! I was on my way home from church last night and then all of a sudden my cell rang. It was my ex-fling (nathan, we kissed 2 weeks ago and went out for 2 days but i dumped him coz i dont want a relship with someone i hardly know)... i thought it was nathan coz it was his phone.. BUT NO! It was my present crush JOSH!! OMG I was in heaven!! he was asking how i was and that he misses me and that his night aint complete without me there !!! OMG he was so mean though coz he used my ex-flings phone! hahahha i dont care!! Then after that phonecall i texted him and i told him exactly this "i thought its just me who's missing someone.. glad to know he misses me too" wahhh!!!!! and he replied "damn joanne u dont know how much i miss u my night aint complete without you here.. can i go to ur place tonight? wud ur parents mind?" and i said no u cant come see me! my parents are gona kill u. hahaha OBVIOUSLY HE LIKES ME. Though i got a problem.... again. Theres a party tomorrow night and my ex fling(nathan) will be there. I dont wana hurt nathan's feelings coz when i dumped him i told him that i just wana get to know him (nathan) better and then we'll go out when im ready. but now i really am 1000000% sure i dont want nathan.. i want josh. wahhh how can josh and i flirt tomorrow with nathan around!?!????!
Author nzchick Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by Gemini02 how old are you? 18...
Author nzchick Posted April 20, 2005 Author Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup He sounds like he likes you, but is SHY around you because he likes ya. Don't take it all so personally. I bet he's just feeling as you are and not sure how to approach it either. DO you know if he's had other girlfriends? Maybe he's just not as experienced and is self conscious of that. He asked you to text IM him and he gave his reasons why. Don't go looking for reasons!! You're thinking about it too much! Relax, enjoy his company, go with the flow. Tell him ya like him and make sure none of his buddies are around. Some guys tense up and act odd around their guy friends because they get picked on!! Don't worry, and try to think more positively! HE DOES LIKE you. Give it some time. Don't rush. 2 days is really not long at all. In 2 weeks if you're still singing this tune, then it's time to talk about it! Good luck and keep us posted eh!! You are so right! I think he's just shy!!! It's sooo funny coz he's this really bad boy type who got all the girls running after him... and now he's the shyest guy on earth! Lol! He cant even look at me in the eye everytime he wants to talk to me!! He only had 3 gf's and im his 4th kiss.. and he's my 6th!!! Hahaha I cant believe he's soo shy thats all!!!! i'm definitely into him physically but not in the other level yet! Omg thanks alot!!!
followingthru Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 you could always skip the party. the two of you could do something else... or go, and be a little subtle. or hang out in a different area of the party than nathan. either way, nathan has to deal with the fact that "your just not that into him." we all have to stop taking it as such an insult when someone doesn't want to date us. we can't be attracted to everyone. the chemicals just aren't always there... however - i would suggest trying to branch out more. if you don't have all your flings with the same group of people, these situations are far less likely to arise. i personally try not to get involved with people who are in my core group of friends b/c "you shouldn't sh*t where you eat"
Author nzchick Posted April 22, 2005 Author Posted April 22, 2005 Here's what happened at the party. Nathan was there but I didnt give a sh*t coz he should know that I really like someone else and not him. Josh was really funny coz he was like this... I walked in the room and he told his friends like loud enough to make me hear.. Josh: Hey bro have you met my gf? It's her joanne Friends smile at me and I said.. eeck?? I'm not your girlfriend! But yeah he's just like joking but I mean.. obviously he likes me. After 10 shots of tequila and jim beams, I got drunk and I laid down in the bed of our friend's. Josh was there to take care of me etc. He's really this bad boy type and his friends are really surprised at how nice he is to me. After I sobered up a little, I walked outside again and I stood by the fence and just waited for myself to sober up some more. Josh came over and said.. Josh: hey are you ok me: yep josh: i really like u.. and im sorry if i hardly talk to u when my friends are around.. its just that i dont want them to see my soft side you know.. I smiled and just nodded... I was still drunk. When it was time to go home.. I was so rude to him I dont know why!! He was with his friends and I was walking towards the cars and asking for a ride.. he told me "hey il give u a ride home (take note my house is really far from the party.. and he lives like a block away from where the party's at)" and i said "OH **** OFF." EEcK? I was drunk! I texted him and said sorry etc.. and being the nice guy.. he said its okay just drink lots of water so ul sober up.. i mean like WOW. Now the problem is this... I'm starting to have feelings for him.. but its too early.. and its scaring me coz what if he just wants me for a fling? We've been flirting for just a week.. and yeah.. what should I do?? Should I stay and keep flirting and most probably have feelings for him.. and might get hurt coz he might just want me for a fling.. or should I go and just fling around to avoid getting hurt? HELP!
blue16 Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Just spend time with him, and get to know a little bit better and then you two can judge where you want to take it. No sense labelling anything when you guys haven't even been on a date. But as of now, what do you want out of it? Obviously you want a relationship of some kind, right? Don't compromise your wishes by acting it's a fling just because you think your chances are better, because you will just get hurt emotionally. If you want to send him the message that you want a relationship, then don't give up the poon right away. If that's what he is really after, and you hold off on him for a bit then he should fade. If he likes you and wants you to be his gf, then he'd be willing to wait till you're both in a relationship. I don't think girls should abuse the power of sex over guys, but sometimes when you don't know what the guy is after you can use it see what his real intentions are.
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Relax, Joanne! Things will happen one way or another. He likes you, but it's not good that he can't show his soft side in front of his friends. What kind of dumb friends does he have and why is he so dumb himself? Anyway, don't drink so much when you're trying to leave a good impression in front of a guy! Everything is good for you so far. It seems that he will be yours
Author nzchick Posted April 24, 2005 Author Posted April 24, 2005 Yay! hehe! I'll keep you guys posted!! Thanks sooo much... I mean I dont know why but I just have to hear what you guys think! Hehe! I woke up this morning and my excitement to text him or see him today was gone... it just wasnt there for some reason.. I think im getting tired of it. Lol. Wah Im sure when I see him again I'll feel the tingles again hehe ... hopefully!!
HoldOn Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 If a guy isn't asking you out, he's just not that into you.... And WHY did you tell him to F off?? That was wierd. Is it because you are mad that he doesn't treat you better?
Author nzchick Posted April 24, 2005 Author Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn If a guy isn't asking you out, he's just not that into you.... And WHY did you tell him to F off?? That was wierd. Is it because you are mad that he doesn't treat you better? He asked me out several times.. but I always said no coz I wasnt ready.. I didnt know him that well. But I am scared that he might not be THAT into me because he's a really bad boy type of guy.. and most of them might pretend they like you but they really dont? ARGHHH! I dont know why I told him to **** off..?? I really dont. I was drunk... and my girlfriend told me that I was angry at the guys for some reason.. so I was telling every guy that talks to me to **** off or i wont talk to them at all..
HoldOn Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Whoa. Well, if he has asked you out and you've said no, but you still like him and wish he would ask you out. I don't understand what you want, probably you don't even know what you want. Also, you seem to have a tinsy drinking problem. Maybe you should work on being alone for a while and figure out what you want before you get involved with somebody. Since he's a "bad boy" as you say, also he treats you differently around his friends (which is SO immature). I think you should save your heart for someone who is the right person.
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by nzchick He asked me out several times.. but I always said no coz I wasnt ready You locca girl!! Now YOU might ask him out cuz you gave him signals that you don't want to date him.
Author nzchick Posted April 25, 2005 Author Posted April 25, 2005 I know I'm silly.. but I made up my mind just now! Hehe. I do want to go out with him.. but we were hanging out awhile ago and he said to his mates.. id rather just be friends with people than actually go out with them.. man i was hurt. He said its just coz he'll get attached to the person then all of a sudden she'll dump him.. happened to him in the past. Damn i was like.. GRR IL NEVER HURT U SO F*CKIN ASK ME OUT!! WAh! I got another problem. THis girlfriend of mine, that i really love.. I know that she's sorta hitting on him? Like she's flirting with him somehow.. and she's really good at getting guys. Look, I really love this girlfriend.. like we're almost best friends.. but **** i can feel that she's somehow hitting on him? Like flirting as well?? I dont know what to do... I think I'm just being paranoid.. but I'm scared coz she's sorta hitting on him.. ugh it's soo confusing!!!
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