rrb87 Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 Okay my ex broke up with me April 16, told me eventally we would get back together... and that he wasn't looking for anyone at the moment... He claimed he was too busy to spend time with me.. He said everything was his fault and he needed time to figure out his life...The 20th he starts talking to the bosses daughter were we both work at.. Then 2 days later he starts dating her.. Then everyday sense then he has been making non stop facebook updates about her Daily!!! From the little things Here it is in order: April 22 I cant stop thinking about you April 22 he puts he in a relationship on facebook April 24 Had a awesome time yesterday.. spent the whole day with her and even took her to meet my parents and have dinner.. April 25 baby your a song you make me wanna roll my windows down and cruise.... april 25 he posted a profile pic of him kissing her on the cheek... april 26 I cant wait to spend almost the whole day with her again april 27th 12:16am.. having an amazing day went to church then a party and now a campfire and spend more time with my awesome girlfriend.. april 27th 12:46pm cant wait to see and spend more time with my girlfriend later today feeling excited april 27 posted they should fill a truck bed with pillows and stargaze... april 28 1:30am with my amazing girlfriend watching a movie... april 28 1:45 am The greatest feeling ever is when you are watching a movie and your girlfriend falls asleep in your arms.. Like ok?? Sorry this is so long and jumbled kinda my keyboard sucks. What does this sound like to everyone? And I wonder if it will last she is only 18 and has a kid his new girlfriend..
SLee Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 To me, it sounds like he wanted to keep you on the back burner but wanted to see other people but have you around in case it didn't work out. From what you write, he sounds like he was just making up excuses. Do yourself a favor and block him on social media, delete his number, get rid of it all, and don't contact him. And don't look at what he's doing. Your best bet is to do right by yourself and move on. 1
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 April 25 baby your a song you make me wanna roll my windows down and cruise.... You seriously need to initiate no contact. delete him off facebook and all social media, block his phone number, ect. I don't think he's bragging, he's just in the honeymoon phase of his new relationship... regardless, you need to start NC... Oh, and he has a nice taste in music. 2
Author rrb87 Posted April 28, 2015 Author Posted April 28, 2015 (edited) I stopped talking to him on the 21.. After he told me he didn't know what he wanted.. Do you think it will get old to others as well? Edited April 28, 2015 by rrb87
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 block his social media accounts. I'm sure it must get old to other people seeing that. when I had facebook I deleted friends for those annoyances. But I eventually deleted social media all together because I realized everyone on there is annoying... so I might just be a prick, the jury is out on that one. block his online accounts and stop keeping tabs on them. Focus on you. 2
Author rrb87 Posted April 28, 2015 Author Posted April 28, 2015 Im probably going to have to..What sucks is he comes off as such a nice and sweet guy! But its like well least with me its like he says things and then cant follow through with his words!
jen1447 Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 That should be chapter 1 of the dater's handbook - anyone who says they don't have "time" or they're "too busy" for a relationship is lying. 3
stillafool Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 I stopped talking to him on the 21.. After he told me he didn't know what he wanted.. Do you think it will get old to others as well? If he is serious about what he wrote, No I don't think it's going to get old anytime soon. It sounds like he has a summer love going on. First of all if you want to get over him you have to stop snooping on what he's putting on FB. He's obviously trying to impress her and let her know she's the one from what he's posting. You don't need to see or read anything about him and his new gf. BTW, the old "I don't know what I want" is pretty common when folks are looking for a reason to break up. What a cad, you will be okay. 1
Satu Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 (edited) Any time you spend on this guy is wasted... *No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means he might use to contact you. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of him on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying. Edited April 28, 2015 by Satu
Photofinish Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 Okay my ex broke up with me April 16, told me eventally we would get back together... and that he wasn't looking for anyone at the moment... He claimed he was too busy to spend time with me.. He said everything was his fault and he needed time to figure out his life...The 20th he starts talking to the bosses daughter were we both work at.. Then 2 days later he starts dating her.. Then everyday sense then he has been making non stop facebook updates about her Daily!!! From the little things Here it is in order: April 22 I cant stop thinking about you April 22 he puts he in a relationship on facebook April 24 Had a awesome time yesterday.. spent the whole day with her and even took her to meet my parents and have dinner.. April 25 baby your a song you make me wanna roll my windows down and cruise.... april 25 he posted a profile pic of him kissing her on the cheek... april 26 I cant wait to spend almost the whole day with her again april 27th 12:16am.. having an amazing day went to church then a party and now a campfire and spend more time with my awesome girlfriend.. april 27th 12:46pm cant wait to see and spend more time with my girlfriend later today feeling excited april 27 posted they should fill a truck bed with pillows and stargaze... april 28 1:30am with my amazing girlfriend watching a movie... april 28 1:45 am The greatest feeling ever is when you are watching a movie and your girlfriend falls asleep in your arms.. Like ok?? Sorry this is so long and jumbled kinda my keyboard sucks. What does this sound like to everyone? And I wonder if it will last she is only 18 and has a kid his new girlfriend.. My ex did the same exact thing!! 8 months later his whole profile is just her. Picture, timeline, all public status! Some guys are so stupid. They just love throwing their relationships into people's face. If your whole world revolves around someone else then you got yourself a big problem . Just move on. Not worth itttt
Zapbasket Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 What I get from all those ridiculous FB posts is that your ex is a giant dipsh*t. Who older than age 14 posts such things? Yes, I think he's rubbing your face in it to some extent, but really it sounds like he's just a douche who updates FB with every thought, every happening, as though anyone cares and really it's just so he can look good to himself. Just...ugh. I wouldn't waste one more second on someone like that.
Author rrb87 Posted April 28, 2015 Author Posted April 28, 2015 I honestly hope he gets what he deserves if he is bragging and specially for dating the bosses daughter were we both work..even though I shouldn't care I can't help but wonder how long the relationship will last..he started talking to her like 4 days after he broke up with me. And then 2 days later they are in a relationship.. so basically they bairly even know each other.. he just met her last Monday and here we are only on Tuesday and he's already posting all that.. oh and he never used to hardly update his time line like that before her.. and never flaunted a past relationship like that.
Hopeful714 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Give this some time. All honeymoons come to an end and real life ensues. Throw in a few disagreements here and there and the realization he has a lot of responsibility on his hands if he successfully wants to date a girl with a child and he may be feeling differently. Don't know if he's bragging but it sure is insensitive to you. Lastly, it's fake book! All is not always as it appears!
Author rrb87 Posted April 29, 2015 Author Posted April 29, 2015 I haven't took him off my Facebook yet I really know I should he just made another post on lunch at work we both work the same shift so lunch is the same time.. He posted "sitting here at working eating lunch and thinking about my amazing girlfriend" then he tagged her in it.. If I was her I would be getting tired of him flooding my wall with constant statuses. And I would begin to think he is obsessed.. I've also been noticing some of the more recent ones she hasn't even hit the like button. Lol
Taramere Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Here it is in order: April 22 I cant stop thinking about you April 22 he puts he in a relationship on facebook April 24 Had a awesome time yesterday.. spent the whole day with her and even took her to meet my parents and have dinner.. April 25 baby your a song you make me wanna roll my windows down and cruise.... april 25 he posted a profile pic of him kissing her on the cheek... april 26 I cant wait to spend almost the whole day with her again april 27th 12:16am.. having an amazing day went to church then a party and now a campfire and spend more time with my awesome girlfriend.. april 27th 12:46pm cant wait to see and spend more time with my girlfriend later today feeling excited april 27 posted they should fill a truck bed with pillows and stargaze... april 28 1:30am with my amazing girlfriend watching a movie... april 28 1:45 am The greatest feeling ever is when you are watching a movie and your girlfriend falls asleep in your arms.. Like ok?? Sorry this is so long and jumbled kinda my keyboard sucks. What does this sound like to everyone? Well, it sounds more like a 13 year old girl who's excited about sleepovers at her new BFF's parents' house than a grown man. I'd say block his updates but don't delete him. Once the hurt of the break up has passed, you might just find that his updates are comedy gold. And yeah....the new girl must be absolutely cringeing about these antics. God knows what her dad/your boss thinks of it all. Block his updates, focus on being nice and professional to everybody (even him) in the work place...and don't feel too guilty about enjoying a little bit of schadenfreude when this particular train goes flying off the tracks. By that point, having your patience tested in this way, you'll probably have earned the right.
xinaxxsdertf Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 hahaha this made me laugh lol. trust me when i say this, people that post these all the time get annoying REALLY quickly, to the point where you end up just scrolling past anything you see from that person in the news feed. you dont even stop to read. The fact that he moved from you to her so fast shows how much he values relationships. very little. So he wont get very far with her either most probably. You definitely need to stop checking up on him. Dont start living your life through what he does. the more you dwelve into what hes doing in his life, the less you will do in yours. be like him and just do what makes you happy. his summer fling will die out eventually but who cares? the only reason you want to see how long it lasts is because you feel hurt and you want to see him hurt but this will only stop you from moving on in the end..
Author rrb87 Posted April 29, 2015 Author Posted April 29, 2015 Well, it sounds more like a 13 year old girl who's excited about sleepovers at her new BFF's parents' house than a grown man. I'd say block his updates but don't delete him. Once the hurt of the break up has passed, you might just find that his updates are comedy gold. And yeah....the new girl must be absolutely cringeing about these antics. God knows what her dad/your boss thinks of it all. Block his updates, focus on being nice and professional to everybody (even him) in the work place...and don't feel too guilty about enjoying a little bit of schadenfreude when this particular train goes flying off the tracks. By that point, having your patience tested in this way, you'll probably have earned the right. Yea I only wonder what the boss thinks cause me and him dated 9 months everyone at work knew about us we always followed each other to lunches and all breaks..lol I walked past him at the bailer at work earlier this morning like 5am lol and he starts talking to himself saying " okay one more piece of cardboard and I think it will be good" lmao well he does talk to himself a lot but he seemed to start when I walked past him and I said nothing lol I walked past him within 5 feet. Like I said he comes off as a really nice guy but u think those statuses would have any girl feeling unsure how fast he is coming on
Author rrb87 Posted April 29, 2015 Author Posted April 29, 2015 He just got his own apartment too and before we broke up i told him straight up he was going to possibly be in the negative with just his basic bills.. he said he will make iT.. the way I calculated and this is just bare minimum wth maybe 125.00 food for the month and 20.00 a week gas he would still be possibly 50.00 to 100.00 negative a month.. he is like 10,000 in debt to my knowledge on loans
stillafool Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Who cares? Let him starve. Try to make plans with your friends to get out and have fun this summer. Stop snooping on his FB because he isn't worth it and finding out more about what he's posting will only keep you in pain. There are so many guys out there and you are young so enjoy yourself.
Author rrb87 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 (edited) Well I'm going to have to contact him as bad as this sounds.. I have a big bag of clothes that I left at his house from when we was together.. I just don't know how I should word the message but I would like to get my clothes back. He really upset tonight I overheard him almost like bragging to another co worker " I'm not going to mess this one up I'm king of the castle." Then on top of it my one friend at work said she almost got into it with him because mgmt told him to help her out get caught up on her work and she said he said "I shouldn't have to bail out she should be able to get it done herself" I hope what comes around goes around to him and that karma gets him. Edited April 30, 2015 by rrb87
stillafool Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 TBH I can't blame him for not wanting to do another employees work just because she can't keep up with her workload. I would just leave the bag of clothes over there if I were you. They obviously weren't that important to you or you wouldn't have left them there this long. Just move on and stop listening to people talk about him, tell them you don't want to hear it. Talk about him sits you back and prevents healing.
Author rrb87 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 Yea I understand they are just clothes..I had the clothes there because I was planning on moving in with him before he broke up with me.
seminoles84 Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 How old are you? The whole situation sounds very immature. He comes off as a 12 year old girl.
Toodaloo Posted April 30, 2015 Posted April 30, 2015 rrb Go and pick up your clothes tonight. Just go and get them. Pick them up, be polite, leave. When you get home delete, block, hide. Get him off of facebook and all other social media. Do not follow him, do not think about him, just leave him to it. Shagging the bosses daughter is not a way to shag your way to the top... More fool him eh! Be glad you are out of it and go find someone who is better than this. Time for you to learn how to not give a s***
Author rrb87 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Posted April 30, 2015 How old are you? The whole situation sounds very immature. He comes off as a 12 year old girl. I'm 27 he is 23.. the girl he just got with just turned 18 and has a one year old... can't believe he's sayin oh I'm king of the castle
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