Reysa09 Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Ok quick run down: Me and my boyfriend are finally back together after 6 months of trust issues, other women, other men and other obstacles that led to our previous break up. We have had a long distance relationship for a year. Hes in NC, im in SC, but we manage to see eachother once every week or every two weeks. He's getting out of the military (after 12 long years) in a few weeks (hopefully) and hes coming back to SC until August, then he'll be relocating to Florida to attend school for 90 weeks. I must admit the love that we have for eachother is growing every day. He finally came out and told me that he may have a possible child (3 years old) in st louis. Some chick he use to mess with back when he lived in Georgia, told him last year that he had a child. She also admitted that she was seeing other men but i cant lie the little girl kind of looks like him. The timing is about right, he said he got drunk one night and had sex with her in FEB, the child was born in NOV. He said he's going to get a DNA test this summer. (By the way he has no kids). I know i sound selfish, but i wanted to have his first child. (I have a 7 year old daughter). I feel like things are going to change and I wont be able to have a child by him or get anything that i want because he is going to devote so much time into this new child of his. Im scared and stressed and in order to have a successful long distance relationship for two years, i cant feel this way. How should i handle the situation ?
smackie9 Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 How to deal with it? Accept it. If you love him as much as you say you do, you will be right by his side and support him and take this new journey together. If it doesn't work out, then you just end it and move on.
Clockwork Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 He didn't know, so you can't really blame him. If he was hiding it then I would say break up. You have a choice to make, if you stay with him he will always have a daughter with another woman for the next 100 years. She might be around, or he might need to pay child support. Your choice.
preraph Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 You watch what he does about it. Does he take financial and parental responsibility and be a good human being about this or does he try to pretend she doesn't exist like a person of very poor ethics? And that will tell you what kind of man you have on your hands, or if you only have a boy.
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