lola108 Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 (edited) I met a man through my ex three years ago. At first we clashed, I thought he was rude and I did not like him. Now, we ran into each other again and are getting to know each other. He is from another culture that does not traditiionally have girlfriends..they just get married. I am from the USA and I live in his country. For over one month he and I have been exchanging lovely long emails and sms messages. I now have a crush...and he realized that my ex lied to him about me and he realizes how wonderful I am. Smile. The problem is that I know his career path (actor) causes him to lack money..Plus I live in another part of the country. so I wonder if he is not having money and this is one reason why he is staying away... Some time ago like /-10 days ago he was sending me sms telling me that I would make a great wife, I was so this and so that//how great....becase I was so excited he was going to be on a tv show. I told him yes. he was right that I am great. The following morning he sent me two messages saying that I was winning him over..and that he never talked to girls but that he would really treat one nicely and had a lot of warmth and love to give. He has been spending a long time replying over the last month and sharing with me in the emails. Going through line by line. Then after the wedding talk he began to call me sweetheart. Then he turned off. Maybe I seemed to easy to access. I don't know...I have been waiting several days in between responses before I reply. Then his show came and he sent out a group text to his FRIENDS telling me that his inbox was full and not to send sms. So that cut off that communication. I was a bit sad. Then the weekend came and three days ago he sent me like four emails sharing with me his new tv appearance and replying to my other mails in detail. At the end of that last mail he replied to I suggested that we talk on the phone and he also said he was thinking that...yet he has not called. So then I started wondering if he is shy...because he said he stays away from girls and doesnt talk to them like other men. So now I am confused! Is he wanting me to call him? Is he just not that interested? I sent an email today asking if he was shy actually, since it seems that he is actually quite sensitive... and in that same mail suggesting he call on skype giving my skype name...yet I cannot even download skype on my phone for some reason. So so far I have suggested three forms of alternate communication...first I asked some time ago if he had whats app..he said no...Then I suggested calling some days ago..and now Skype suggested today..But now I am a bit lost. So what do I do? Does it seem like he is shy? I know I need to not make too much action or effort.. I HAVE MY OWN LIFE AND AM ACTUALLY VERY BUSY THESE DAYS. After he sent the last mails, I told him I was not able to watch his videos, but I cant wait until I could due to internet. I went two days in between that last one line reply to his six emails he sent of photos and videos of his TV show...so I thought I would send another email today asking if he was shy. I have no way else to figure it out except ask. I am trying to gauge how to proceed...keep in mind this is long distance. If he is shy do I make the first move? I am sure he is somewhat interested, but not sure what to do next. Or just disappear totally? Should I not reply to his mails at all? I think that is rude! I am not trying to play games at all...I really just don;t want to ruin it with anything that could turn him off. I could really have a future with him. Advice? Edited April 27, 2015 by lola108
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