Amy77 Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 So we've been meetin up for 3 weeks and get along great, he's really nice to me and basically everything my last guy never was.. Due to me being in school and him in college we only met up on the weekends but it was ALL weekend for the past 3 weekends, apart from this weekend where he wa texting me Saturday and I was expecting an invite to hang out but instead he said he was going to fix up his car and would ring me that night. No call came, and I go on snapchat to see him with another girl in her story, even kissing her cheek in one. This girl is kinda scary as in she's not someone you want to mess with, so if she likes him too I don't want to get on the wrong side of her. I wrote to him on Facebook about it but he hasn't been online yet, have I a right to be a mad or what? And should I just accept that he more than likely rathers her (she's beautiful and they would have more in common) and bail out before I get more hurt as I'm already falling for him?
central Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 You feel the way you feel - that's perfectly fine. However, you two are not exclusive so are both free to date others. Some people are okay with that, and some are not - two different dating styles. However, that doesn't seem to be the issue. You seem mostly concerned that he is more compatible with the other woman. Do not base this on her appearance - human attraction is very individual, so despite you thinking she is more attractive, it may be that he actually finds you more attractive. So, it comes down to compatibility and perception. He may just be dating to find out who is right for him. This is common when you're not exclusive. The best thing to do is talk to him when you can - on the phone or in person, preferably, rather than email/facebook. Tell him you saw that he was with her, and ask him what he wants - or does he know at this point? You may be reassured, or you may decide that the uncertainty is too difficult to handle and end things before you get more attached and perhaps hurt later. Love is a risk, and especially so in the early days.
PegNosePete Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Well, how do you stand on exclusivity? Have you discussed it with him? Personally I would not want to date someone who is dating someone else.
Author Amy77 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 I think after 3 weeks it's too early to even mention "exclusive" , he was with her all weekend and hasn't text me since Saturday night, hasn't been on Facebook since then either so he still hasn't replied, should I just assume its over? Surely he would have text me if he still had any interest?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Well if the ball is in his court all you can do is wait. Why is this girl so scary? Lol.
Toodaloo Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Amy - you know what? Sometimes a gal just has to have balls. If you like him and you want to be the only girl in his life this is what you do. You tell him its absolutely fine for him to date other girls and see who he likes but if he does he will not be seeing you any more. Say it, mean it then walk away. If you are ever uncomfortable or unhappy when you are dating a chap you walk away regardless of how much you fancy them... 3
Author Amy77 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 Well if the ball is in his court all you can do is wait. Why is this girl so scary? Lol. I hate this waiting she's just one of those girls who starts fights on nights out and stuff, very mouthy, she has hit a few of my friends for no reason. although me and her have always been civil to eachother I'm sure if she saw me as competition she would have no problem in starting sh*t with me lol she's very beautiful though and is very popular too
Lokin4AReason Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 duck tape and watch her flop around like a fish out of water ( kidding ) if you can like wait ( if you choose too ), than wait ... but if you decide if he isn't worth it, than don't wait and move on ... ( IMO )
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 If you are ever uncomfortable or unhappy when you are dating a chap you walk away regardless of how much you fancy them... Best advice right here.
Toodaloo Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 I hate this waiting she's just one of those girls who starts fights on nights out and stuff, very mouthy, she has hit a few of my friends for no reason. although me and her have always been civil to eachother I'm sure if she saw me as competition she would have no problem in starting sh*t with me lol she's very beautiful though and is very popular too Amy He is involved with unpleasant women. Walk away from this one and go find a guy who has better taste and prefers the company of a higher class of gal... This bloke is going to turn out to be a tosser who brings drama.
Author Amy77 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 Thanks for the replies guys as he hasn't text me since Saturday I assume we are over anyway, he has always been really nice to me though so do you think I should text him and just see what the story is with everything since he hasn't been on Facebook or just leave it?
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